TTC baby #1

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Hi ladies . I’ve just finished my period today and my husband and I are now going to start ttc our first baby after having my Mirena removed last week.
Is anyone else TTC this month ? I’ve ordered some ovulation tests after I said I wouldn’t because I’ve read so many success stories on them so I thought I might as well just so I have some in case !

I’d love for people to share their journey with me ! I’m 24, 25 in two weeks . So excited for our journey . I’m trying to figure out this whole lingo on here and stuff sorry! X

I mean I think it is often white so that is cloudy right?! My OPKs are still showing nothing yesterday, DTD this morning as hoping ovulation happening today...

@CurbsideProphet are you not tempted to test?

AF has arrived this morning. I expected it really, though obviously I'm not thrilled. I feel really rung out from the funeral and being ill, so I'll have a rest and get ready to start afresh next cycle.

Between me and you ladies (don’t want to tell DH), I’m getting quite depressed about this whole TTC thing and I don’t know why ?? I think it’s because I work in a hospital and see little kids walking hand in hand with their parents , ‘new baby’ balloons down the corridors etc , I do referrals and constantly see new baby names I like etc and it’s killing me !! And it’s not like I’m out this month so why am I feeling this way ?? I feel bad writing this all out for the world to read lol . Apologies for the moan, I’ll be over it soon. I’ve changed my name back to original to avoid confusion .

In the past my CM has been clear like egg whites but I had some last night that was cloudy white and very stretchy and my cervix was medium soft so I was confused . I need to just chill out :(

Sorry @CurbsideProphet for your AF arrival . Rest up as much as you can x

ItsEmily don't feel bad at all. I think once you start on the ttc path you just want to get to the end result. It's hard to see other couples who have what we want, even though they were maybe in this exact situation last year.

DH's friend has just had another baby and I think that has concentrated his mind. We've just had a proper talk about ttc and having a baby, so that's a good thing.

@curb I’m glad you’ve had a chat, I love it when me and DH have chats as it makes me feel like we are both on the same page still which is always nice as men tend to keep things to themselves so it’s hard to know what they’re feeling

Hey everyone... AF showed for me too and @Itsemily i actually feel the same as you mentioned above. I even deleted my apps in rage lol! Its all i think about and its also getting me down... i guess its the not knowing that gets me,i keep thinking what if its not possible at all!
Apologies for my moan

I think the rule on this thread should be that none of us should feel we must apologise for having a moan!

ItsEmily yes we properly spoke about how many days a month I could actually get pregnant. DH isn't stupid, but he hadn't really thought about it before now. We're on the same page now, so that makes me feel better

Cheyanne101 I know, I wish I could be visited by the ghost of Christmas Future to tell me that I definitely will get pregnant. The not knowing does always seem to be lingering in the back of my mind.

I feel literally exactly the same, the longer it goes on the more I’m so worried it won’t happen at all, even though it’s so early in the scheme of things! Just as I think I’ve figured out my cycle it throws something up - like tonight I took an OPK fully thinking it would be positive and it was barely there so now i don’t know what to think! So glad there are others in the same boat so please do keep moaning so we know we’re not alone!

Back again ladies, so this month I tried to chill out and didn't use any opks but dtd every two weeks since cd12 currently on cd23. Hoping to dtd again tomorrow and hoping that'll give me a fighting chance this month

Meant two days not two weeks

I had a breakdown this eve after DTD but DH didn’t finish . But something bad at work happened today and it wasn’t the best night to do it really but I just sat in the bathroom and cried . Not like I’m even out this month as AF isn’t due yet but it’s the not knowing . It’s killing me and I’m not tracking either so I just have no idea if I’m fertile , what’s happening etc . DH doesn’t know what to do he is beside himself with how stressed I am tonight

Ah @Itsemily
For me this time of year is making ttc feel worse; there are families with children in every ad campaign, elf on the bloody shelf all over facebook, it's dark all of the time, and everyone is knackered already.

I think we've all that night where just feel absolutely crap about it all. Give him a hug and have a cup of tea (I'm sorry, I'm Northern and a cup of tea always our first suggestion) x

@CurbsideProphet we did have a cuppa (I’m northern too and DH studied your north) . I apologised and he said it was just a bad day (the incident at work for his team), and that he didn’t realise how stressed I was and how things are bothering me . The not having anyone in real life to talk to is hard and DH said ‘well what about Mumsnet?’ I was like it already use it’ 🤭

I think I need to just forget about TTC and let it be a surprise when it happens .
I’m glad you’re a northerner , we are the best people :) haha

@Itsemily glad you're feeling better?

If you can forget about it and let it be a surprise great definitely do that! If you struggle maybe try tracking ovulation or something so you can be confident you've DTD at the right times to take the pressure off that element? X

Aw @Itsemily it can be so stressful and it’s difficult at this time of year.

Don’t worry about not tracking as this month - I’m still temping and OPKs and so far (CD15) still not clear what happened! Haven’t had a positive OPK but my temperature has been high until today so my app is saying I ovulated on CD12. We’ve DTD every other day since CD7 so hopefully we got it...! I’m genuinely not sure that testing and tracking helps at all as I don’t find the results at all obvious so it doesn’t mean I do anything differently anyway! I mean maybe some women have really obvious CM and dark dark OPKs and very predictable temperature changes so they can actually time DTD based on the results, but I’m not convinced!

@Itsemily we do make the best brews

Maybe have December off officially TTC? It can be really stressful time anyway.

I only track my period and guesstimate when I'm ovulating. I bought some OPKs but I'm leaving them for January.

HI ladies. I’m 26 and have just come off the pill to ttc #1. This is all a mine field, and I don’t even know where to begin. I’ve got some internet cheapie OPKs, are the clue blue digital more reliable. How has it worked for everyone else? I will read back through the thread after work 😊

Hey guys! Well AF hasn't arrived so I took a test and got a BFP!!!!

I can't believe it because I was sure we had missed ovulation this month but it seems we managed to catch it!

I'm so shocked but so happy!

@Konbanwa this has made me smile I’m so happy for you ! So it goes to show it happens when you least expect it 💕💕🎄 what wonderful Christmas news x

@Readyforthis thanks for joining us ! I’m so happy you’re taking the dive into the TTC journey .

I used digital clear blue in October and although they are clear results , either a blank circle , a flashing smiley or solid smile , rather than trying to work out whether the line is dark etc , they’re expensive and I just got obsessed with them . I would say internet cheapies are better ! If I was to start tracking again I’d use them . So much cheaper and you Can do more than one a day without worry ! X

@Konbanwa CONGRATULATIONS!!

@Itsemily and @CurbsideProphet Thanks so much!

I hope that you guys get your BFPs soon, and thanks so much for all the support!

Now just have to hope that all goes well!

Wow, that was a lot of ups and downs to catch up on!

Took a step back after my last gynaecology appointment because I was annoyed.. Not for anything major but just that he told me temp charting is not at all accurate (I showed him the chart that showed two separate temp spikes in one month and asked about it). I got annoyed because I felt like I'd been wasting my time.

TTC and forums can start to have a bit of a crappy effect on my mental health so have to ration myself, lol.

I'm going to look at getting a different type of monitor (a non-bbt one) and then try again - probably next cycle in all honesty.

TTC sucks a55.

@Konbanwa I haven't looked on here for a few weeks but what lovely news to see ☺️ huge congratulations to you! Hope everything goes well.

@TeddyToaster right there with you, I haven't been on here for a while as I could feel my anxiety increasing a bit!

I know some of you ladies have experienced BFNs and late AF so could use some advice.. she's been coming like clockwork for the last 4 months but this month I'm 2 days late. Took a pregnancy test this morning and it was a BFN 🙁 how late have some of you been until AF decided to return?