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The caravan of crap! for those of us who are browned off but not to the extent of those over there in the hut

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Thelittlesoldiersmummy · 01/08/2007 22:32

Well welcome to the caravan sat on the top of a hill somewhere in Dorset some days its good here the weather is fine and all is happy other days the weather is crap and so is everything else!

Feel free to come in be happy, sad or just moody - Just no counting dates or charting or temping just us girls having a chat over a cupper looking out the window through the orange (yes orange) curtain x

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liger · 29/08/2007 17:36

a good bunch of people is just what I need, I'm a bit isolated where i live right now, which at times has been good - but now when I need a kick start to putting a life together for myself after all that has happened - well its not helping - this week at least!

I need to disappear for a bit now, but thanks for the warm welcome.

bobbydazzler · 29/08/2007 19:30

Evening,

I have just lurked rather than posted again today as I am busy in work at the moment as my weeks of constant visits to mumsnet have left me rather behind with real life stuff [worried face].

Anyway, welcome Liger, really sorry to read your story and sincerely hoping your TTC luck or fate is set to change soon.

Thanks to everyone else for their good wishes, scorpio and mrs mcj nice to hear from you.

Looney thank you for your post and all the grinning, i too think the mum was out of order, hope you can get sorted with seeing the doc soon.

TSLM, my rough and ready calculation at present is that I will be due end of April or start of May and after a few more weeks i may feel brave enough to make the move over to the antenatal threads, but not yet.

jacobandl hope all stays positive for you.

Newkid hi and thank you hope you get there soon.

x

looneytune · 29/08/2007 23:29

Just got in from BBQ at friends and thought I'd say a quick hello before logging off.

liger - I'm so so sorry about your losses. How terrible, I just can't imagine what you must have been through. Going through a MC was bad enough for me, I just don't know how people cope with what you had to go through, and to have it happen again is just double You sound like you've been very brave and I really wish you all the best in ttc. You certainly have been through enough haven't you!!

BobbyDazzler - , I'm still sooooooooooo happy for you! You've waited long enough!!

As for me....I'm off to the Dr's tomorrow morning (9.55am - shitting myself but TRYING not to!). My lovely brother has come to my rescue and is looking after ds and mindee (all with her mums say so - my brother has known mindee for over 2 years and she hasn't seen him for a bit so she's dead excited). I really really thought he'd say no but once he knew what it was about, he was there for me! As for mindee's mum.......she just said 'oh, good luck at the Dr's, but you know it'll be fine, things always are'. I was so angry coz she didn't have a clue how serious this was for me and it's like all she cared about was her childcare being sorted. No apology for her messing up about my day off!!! And she lied....she told me her dh was away til Friday and then this evening told me he's dropping mindee off tomorrow . Anyway, rant over (had a bit to drink tonight - oops ).

I'll be back tomorrow to share whatever the Dr says (if that's ok?)

Night night everyone xx

anniemac · 30/08/2007 01:36

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bobbydazzler · 30/08/2007 08:30

Thanks Anniemac, littlesoldiersmummy got one as well, we are due around same time (fingers crossed)

Looney it is really sweet that you are still so pleased for me, you must be a much nicer person than me, as i am afraid to say i used to be quite when people announced BFP's, particularly if they had not been trying long, not nice I know. Good luck with the Doc today, I am going to see the miserable one in my practice tomorrow

looneytune · 30/08/2007 09:36

Bobbydazzler - the reason I'm so pleased for you is I remember you were trying for over a year? and I can only imagine how stressful that must be. Remember, I'm only on my second cycle so I'm sure I'll end up feeling too. Right, best the kids are all wild from my brother messing about so I think I'll sneak off to the Dr's now and leave them to it! Good with your appointment, can't you ask for a non-miserable Dr?

liger · 30/08/2007 09:51

Good luck today Looney - will look out for a post from you later

bobbydazzler · 30/08/2007 13:02

How did the Doc's appointment go Looney?

I don't mind the miserable GP as I know exactly what I want to ask when i go. He was the first appointment I could get so I took it. He is ok really, I just call him miserable as he would not refer me for hormone tests when I saw him after six months FTC. He told me I needed to wait a year, even though the NICE guidelines recommend earlier referrals and tests when the Mum is 35 plus. It has all worked out ok in the end (so far) so I can forgive him now.

Just to clarify and so I don't sound really horrible I too am always pleased and not just for people who have had a struggle conceiving or conceiving again. Now I have got there I can genuinely be happy for everyone though including my friend who i was so worried about seeing last weekend when all along I was pregnant as well. She has her 12 week scan today so I will phone her to find out how it went and tell her my news.

With DS we told people straight away as everyone knew we had been trying and I am rubbish at keeping secrets. Also if it all does go tits up will need their support in RL.

looneytune · 30/08/2007 13:17

Liger - thanks

Bobbydazzler - it really annoys me that they wait so long to do tests when I've just been set up to have all the same tests when only on 2nd cycle. She said she may as well do the whole lot whilst they're looking at my other things.

To save me retyping, this is what I put on another thread:

Right, Dr's.....she took my very seriously and has arranged all sorts of blood tests including the ones they do for people who've been ttc for over a year. She just said she may as well. I've had blood taken today and have 3 holes with bruises where they tried to get the blood out with no success (always happens to me!) Anyway, the nurse called the Dr in and eventually they got some using some vacuum thing (apparently I went grey at one point! lol). Anyway, got to wait until next week (hopefully Tuesday) for the results. A couple of things upset me because I thought if the test showed I'm ok now, then they'd be able to see if I'm likely to start the menopause soon. She said no, if this test is clear then we must just get down to business and try everything to get pregnant asap coz in 6 months etc, I could start it. Basically they can only see from the test if I've started already. She also said that as soon as you start the menopause, that's it, your chances of getting pregnant drop dramatically. I thought it was a gradual thing but no I'm pleased she was honest and now am just waiting for the results. Feels a bit funny being given a booklet called 'Living with the Menopause' when you're only 31! . Anyway, really proud of myself as managed to not cry when I spoke to the Dr. Waited til I got in the car and burst into tears. I've been having hot and cold flushes for a couple of years but put that down to being a childminder and it being none stop. Now I've been told this COULD be a sign but very well could just be the nature of my job.

Anyway, that's it really. Catch up later xx

sweetkitty · 30/08/2007 13:19

Hope it went OK for you at the docs today looney?

I'm so delighted with all the BFP's in the caravan of late maybe someone threw some babydust over it, hopefully some will land of us still waiting.

looneytune · 30/08/2007 13:36

Thanks sweetkity, I've posted below what happened.

sweetkitty · 30/08/2007 13:41

sorry looney x-posts I'm glad they are taking you seriously though and doing all the tests at least you will know for sure then, with me I hate not knowing would rather know and deal with it.

How are you feeling about it all now?

looneytune · 30/08/2007 13:46

sweetkitty - not sure how I feel tbh. A part of me is really really scared but just want to know, it's definitely the not knowing that makes me worry! But IF it's a problem, I'd much rather know now rather than after a year of ttc! If the result is fine then great but I'm a bit gutted that it doesn't mean I'll be fine for long. Basically, it could happen at any time but then again, it may not be for years. Sooooo, I have to not worry about all that and just get on with it!!

sweetkitty · 30/08/2007 14:06

True looney on the plus side you have nothing to say right now that's theres nothing wrong you have one DS already (who is adorable btw ) so can get pregnant so theres nothing stopping you ttc in a big way.

IF (and a big IF) you have started the menopause) better to know about it now than as you said in a years time because there would be nothing worse than the stress of ttc and BFPs every month then finding out you couldn't conceive anyway. And if it is bad news you take it from there and find out what else can be done, I'm sure you can get treatment for early menopause and having a baby on the NHS I read it somewhere I think but thats a long way down the road.

Will be keeping everything crossed for you x

looneytune · 30/08/2007 14:23

Yes, that's exactly it. I'm just going to see what the results say and take it from there!

looneytune · 30/08/2007 14:25

Thanks about ds, I was looking at yours the other day - very cute, especially the big hair in the bath tub!!

liger · 30/08/2007 16:58

Looney, I'm just glad that they took it all so seriously and were proactive - even if some if it is bound to be a bit scary. Well done for getting things rolling.

I've had a good day today, in a positive mood and I can tell my ds has enjoyed our day too. Did lots of giggling together.

I'm in a different time zone , so its evening here. Went out tonight briefly, joined in on a work do of my dh's - but they are my former colleagues too. felt a bit strange being the mum in that setting (ds was with us) but it was good to see old faces and for them to remember that I exsist!

Enjoy spreading your good news Bobbydazzler

sweetkitty · 30/08/2007 17:18

Looney - thanks I know they are utterly gorgeous in fact I feel so sorry for other people whose children aren't as gorgeous as mine (as does every other Mother ) they only look like angels though. I'll just have one more and have a gorgeous trio please.

jacobandlysette · 30/08/2007 17:44

liger where are you???

looney i agree with everything liger and sweetkitty have said - if you are menopausal then better to know rather than go through the agony of TTC and testing every month. but fingers and toes crossed that things are still moving around in there!

bobby do you have an EDD yet?

bobbydazzler · 30/08/2007 19:51

oops think I might have made a slight arse of myself on that old gimmer thread that is going by suggesting it was a bit insensitive and pointless . I should have just thought it instead of posting I guess......me and my big posting mouth! still quite new to mumsnet and the do's and don'ts of freedom of expression, or maybe i just have no sense of humour .

Hope you have not gone off me now Sweetkitty??

Anyway, Looney glad that you got taken seriously at the Docs, everything crossed all will come back ok for you and hope that it does not put extra pressure on you and your DH.

Jacob, I think my EDD will be around end of April/start of May

sweetkitty · 30/08/2007 20:47

bobbydazzler - course not I wasn't getting at you someone always gets offended at something as I said on the thread I've had my head bitten off as well, wish that old gimmer would hurry up and do a test I do hate the "oh am I pregnant?" threads, don't post on a forum go and buy a test and find out. Probably because I am the most impatient person ever and I would NEED to tests asap.

bobbydazzler · 30/08/2007 21:44

Wooh sign of relief !

Going to stick with spreading my happiness and keep my opinions to myself! I clearly never learn having got into trouble in the Hut as well

sweetkitty · 30/08/2007 22:24

bobbydazzler - just go back in say it's MY opinion sod you all I'm entitled to it just like everyone else

PS Did I tell you all I got a BFP

bobbydazzler · 31/08/2007 07:39

WOW CONGRATULATIONS SWEETKITTY

That is 4 BFP's in the caravan now!

liger · 31/08/2007 07:55

BLIMEY! I'm going to start spending more time in this caravan. Fantastc news sweetkitty tell us more - was that a complete shock or were you sort of suspecting. Sorry you may have said all this elsewhere - I haven't been on other threads for a while. Wonderful news