The caravan of crap! for those of us who are browned off but not to the extent of those over there in the hut

[Thelittlesoldiersmummy]

Well welcome to the caravan sat on the top of a hill somewhere in Dorset some days its good here the weather is fine and all is happy other days the weather is crap and so is everything else!

Feel free to come in be happy, sad or just moody - Just no counting dates or charting or temping just us girls having a chat over a cupper looking out the window through the orange (yes orange) curtain x

looneytune glad to hear that you have been able to talk to your DH .

Day 32 and still no sign of AF. This has never happened to me before, but not testing again until next Tuesday, if that is still BFFN I will make an appointment to see the GP.

I am bracing myself today to see a friend who has just confirmed she is pregnant with her second. She fell pregnant the first month of trying for her first and i suspect it is the same story again yet she says she understands how i feel !?

She is only 2 years younger than me at 35 and supposedley was diagnosed with endometriosis in her early 30's.

I probably sound very bitter and no i shouldn't but she used to be a very good friend until she let me down badly when i needed support from her a few years ago and i realised she is the type of friend you have for the good times, not the bad (although i was always there for her when she went through a bad time).

I am sure it will be fine when i do see her and i am quite glad i found out last night and not today as hopefully by the time i see her i will have banished all my nasty bitter thoughts!

Just wish i knew what was happening with AF ????????

Bobbydazzler - thanks You don't know how much I'm hoping you get the result you want!! You really have waited long enough!! Hope it goes ok with your friend. When she says she knows how you feel, maybe she's like me and says that by mistake but means she understands how stressful it must be as she'd find it hard if it was her? Anyway, your feelings are understandable and if she knew you are ttc then she could have kept that news to herself for a bit couldn't she?!

I think you're so strong for waiting until Tuesday!!! Everything crossed for you!!! Have you done ANY tests yet? I just asked my crystal................

hi all nothing much to report here had a good night out last night drank a wee bit too much wine and paying for it today, got annoyed with my Mum again yesterday she phoned and first told me about my brother buying a house, step sis's wedding, aunt moving abroad etc then I said "oh I'm fine thanks for asking" she was like I knew you were else you would have phoned. She knew I had a scan on Wednesday never to ask how it went etc don't know why I even get upset she has been the most unsupportive person ever. She didn't want me to have 3 children in the first place (because she only had 2) anyway rant over.

bobbydazzler - don't know what to say to you honey you seem to have a good plan worked out about visiting the doctor of no AF, am still keeping everything crossed that your BFFN turns into a BFFP

looneytune - how are you today?

ladypig - welcome to the caravan, sorry to hear about your troubles ttc makes me feel very when I seem to fall so quickly, makes me feel very grateful though

TLSM - course you can still come in the caravan for a bit, am so happy it's just back pain, if ever back pain was welcome.

Right off for a little nap now got in at 1am last night girls up at 6.45am my body is not used to it anymore.

sweetkitty - I'm fine thanks, just not sure I can wait til Tuesday to hear from Bobbydazzler!!! I'm also not sure what to do at the moment since what happened with dh. Although we're sorted and are bound to now be having sex again soon (when AF gone), I'm not on the pill and not sure about ttc - all a bit messed up now thanks to dh! As for your mum, how terrible and insensitive Is she always like this or has she just been like this about what happened? Hope you're hangover goes soon

Right, off to Wales now til Monday but taking laptop with me and hoping sil will let me connect to her internet .

Bobbydazzler - hope your day was ok with your friend and that you weren't too upset. Oh.....and if you happen to cave in and test early, fingers crossed and please let us know [wink[

Byeeeeeeeeee

looneytune - have a fab time in Wales, don't know what to advise re your DH and ttc only you can decided that one. Re: my Mum yes she has always been a horror unfortunately she was the one who I stupidly phoned the Saturday after finding out I was probably mc-ing in a state after DP had gone out drinking and I was all over the place and when I told her she said "maybe it's for the best 3 would be expensive" talk about support! Anyway won't be phoning her again in a hurry if I need anything. She lives an hour away comes to visit once every 6 weeks if her partner drives her, sits and watches the DDs play, gets tea and lunch made then goes home again because she doens' like leaving her dogs too long. Never offers to babysit or help out. Still sorry don't get me started on my family

o'h bobby hope it turns into a positive xxxx
looney you poor thing - remember that's what we're here for - just let it all out if you need to.

well, spotting here today [not a sad emoticon but a worried one] but it's very very light so we're just keeping fingers crossed. i had spotting at 9 weeks last time and know it can be quite common so just hoping it all stays ok.

xxx

Hi all caravan frequentees,

I am back from a lovely weekend at which AF still failed to make an appearance. I am now day 34, normal cycle 26/27.

Sorry Looney but have decided now i am not retesting till Thursday as i reckon by then i will deffo be 21 days dpo and therefore if i get another bffn i can say i am definately NOT pregnant and go and visit the GP to ask them what is up with my normally very regular period.

Jacob hope the spotting goes away and all is ok.

Sweetkittysorry your mum is crap at handling what you are going through, hope you have others who can help you more than she does.

Looney hope all ok with you and your DH. everything turned out ok with my friend, we ended up having a nice time in each others company, i just have to accept her for what she is, i have other much more supportive friends that i can turn to .

Little soldier of course you must keep popping back to the caravan as you are our founding mother after all .

x

sweetkitty - how awful, families eh!!!

jacobandlysette - fingers crossed all is ok. Have you seen a Dr?

BobbyDazzler - No need to apologise, I'd much rather you waited than test too early FINGERS CROSSED!! As for me and dh, things are fine again now but I'm at a loss as to what to do about ttc. I'm using a Persona monitor thing and am supposed to be doing my first test this morning (need to read rest of instructions). Dh still wants to carry on ttc as this issue that came up is not something new and we always stick together and sort it. He mentioned divorce as was scared of counselling (long story) but he has really apologised, said he never meant to say that word and once he said it, he didn't know how to get out of it. He got himself into a bit of a state about us splitting up and we both agreed that we love each other dearly, dh just needs to get some help with how he is sometimes and he's making the new appointment tonight. I don't think I can actively TTC like I was last month as tbh, I couldn't face it, one month was bad enough. Maybe we'll just carry on like we did before coming off the pill but just happen to not be on the pill iyswim. Dh did really hurt me but I'm over that and pretty sure we'll be fine (didn't think that at the time though!).

TLSM - you better keep coming back! After all, as BobbyDazzler said, you started this!! Anyway, is it today you were having the scan?

hi all went for my scan this morning - wish they had warned me it was ging to be an internal one anyway my Bud is in the right place although too early to see yet as only 5+2 and I think I oved late so maybe a little less!

jacobandlysette hope all is ok i would pop to the docs if your worried

Looney glad everything is getting back to normal with DH I would have said he said what he knew would hurt you most MEN!

Bobby everything crossed for you for the end of the week x

TLSM i bet that was an interesting experience....

spoke to the out of hours service over the weekend and they said to rest, and then doc said to rest with feet up today and it should stop..... i said that's easy with a 13 month old but a good friend has come over to look after him today so i a mat least reting and napping (am so tired too!)

Hi,

Nothing to add to my post of yesterday apart from still no period but still determined not to retest until Thursday, as that will be a week from when i did the last test.

A RL friend reckons it is cos i am stressed about it and thinking about it all the time, but I did not really think i was more stressed this month than any of the previous months. I took it worse this month when i got the first BFN but after that i have just been expecting AF to come so don't understand what has happened if i am not pregnant.

I am not remotely expecting to get a BFP on Thursday to be honest, i just want to leave it to then so i can be really sure i am definately not and then go to Drs to find out what else could be happening. I know i am not menopausal as this is the first month it has been so late and my FSH reading after my last period was normal. I am not stressed otherwise in my life, i have not lost or gained weight recently and i have a good diet and sleep like a baby so really don't know what is going on .

My DH thinks i am pregnant or else i am having a phantom pregnancy which is apparently were the body fools itself into thinking it is pregnant !

Oh, oh, oh........CD6 and just tested this morning's urine on persona thing and it's now got a red light!! (the stick itself had a line). I need to check the manual online when finished work (late as 2 younger ones staying over tonight) but does anyone know if this red light means I'm not able to have safe sex i.e. I'm fertile atm????? PLEASE, ANYONE!!!!

Oh.....guess that helped me decide what I wanted to do about ttc

looneytune - glad you have sorted things about a bit with DH and are feeling a bit more positive about things now. I have no clue about Persona I bought one off a mumsnetter and bought some test sticks for it but never got around to using it and thought I wouldn't have to after falling the first month, I do believe it gives you loads of red days until it "learns" your cycle. I think just relaxing a bit and not obsessing is a good idea although I know it's hard to in reality.

bobbydazzler - don't know what to say to you really I'm kind of rubbish at advice sorry I think you are doing really well not testing until Thursday at least if you get a BFN you can get on at the doctor to investigate thoroughly.

TLSM - for you glad the bud is in the right place heres to a stress free pregnancy and birth now for you (I agree internal scans are the pits, I call them dildo cams)

JAL - hope you got a good rest too

I just wish the whole thing was not so horrendously distracting currently!

I know if I did get a BFP that would not be the end of it as i will then be petrified that something will go wrong whereas with DS I was not like that at all, not even during the first trimester. I was blissfully ignorant then !!

I can't bloody believe it, my DH talked me into testing tonight..............................

AND I GOT A BFP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I was SO sure it would be negative again, I could not believe it when i saw that fantastic word and i have to keep going back and rechecking.

I am still going to go to the docs asap as I have an underactive thyroid so want to see if i need to up the dose during the pregnancy.

I don't think it has sunk in yet. I have been waiting 15 months for this, i am also petrified this time that it won't stick, so if ok i will be hanging out in the caravan for some time to come.

Thanks for all the support over the last few days. I was in depths of despair last Tuesday night and yet i was pregnant then and just did not know it!

Now I am happy but scared at the same time.

Congratulations bobbydazzler!!!! That's fantastic news. You must be over the moon.

dg x

yup that about sums it up but dead nervous and slightly disbelieving of my good fortune at last as well.

Only last week we were talking about clomid and ivf so i know that in just getting a bfp of my own bat i am bloody lucky but also know there is a long way to go now..........

Wish you all the best with your pregnancy! Hope to see you on the ante-natal threads sometime soon! Have you worked out your due date yet or taking things slowly?

bobbydazzler - that is such fantastic news great to see first thing in the morning. So so pleased for you heres to a healthy and happy pregnancy for you and the LO

The caravan of crap is getting a bit quiet now.............

Thanks Sweetkitty but I am not counting my chickens until i get to twelve weeks so like TSLM i will be around for awhile yet if that is ok.

Digigirl, I am going to work out my due date on my calendar in work

Can I join in? I've been lurking in the caravan for a while now (under the sink - behind the orange and brown curtain on a bit of elastic) .

Bobbydazzler thats fantastic news, many congrats, and so pleased for TLSM too that all is where it should be.

I won't post my story now it will bring the mood down. I'm on CD10.

AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH

I am so bloody pleased for you Bobby that is brilliant news makes my aches and pains and sickness a little easier! So you must be due around the same time as me then here is to the next 8 months

See guys it can and will happen to everyone you will get your BFP

bobbydazzler - how brilliant. I am so happy for you. I was exactly the same when pg with DD. I didn't test for well over a week because I had convinced myself that lack of period meant something else but actually it just meant I was pg! I am in middle of 2ww (or in my case 10-12 day wait) so I am hoping I get good news too!

BobbyDazzler

I KNEW you were coz my crystal (checked the other day) was going MENTAL swinging up and down (for yes) and it said you would get a yes from testing on the day I mentioned it but then after I posted, I did think maybe I should just leave it - very hard though!!!

I understand exactly what you mean about now being pregnant, very happy but scared - I was like this through my whole pregnancy with ds due to MC before him. He was fine though but I'm sure my worrying stopped us bonding so well as I never let myself get attached. So, my advice to you is TRY and stay happy and NOT worry. Anyway, the crystal says you're going to be fine and have no problems!!

I'm just SOOOOOOOOOOOO pleased to wake up to this news!!!!!!!!!!!

TLSM - so glad all is ok Yes, those internal ones aren't the best!!

jacobandlysette - if you find that you are worrying about the spotting, please INSIST that you are checked out. I went through a week and half of bed rest (no ds then so could actually rest) and I found that made me think too much and I found it all very hard just waiting. Now if I ever go through that again, I will insist that the worrying won't help my pregnancy and not let them make me just wait!! I really hope everything is ok!

sweetkitty - thanks And , of course it's going to need to learn my cycle before can give more green days, I was just getting carried away at having a red light!! Anyway, read the manual online and it says that you should have 2 natural cycles of set length before using it so I'm now scraping it for this month! The stick itself had a line but maybe that just means the test worked?

liger - welcome And, don't worry about bringing moods down as we're all here to support each other, that's the point of the caravan! If it helps to talk about it, then fire away!

Right, best clear up the kitchen stuff and have a wash (late start as 2 mindees decided to wake up and cry their eyes out at midnight so we're all a bit tired!)

Still for BobbyDazzler