7th month TTC

[blueym]

Hello,

I’m in my 7th cycle of ttc No1 and feeling slightly impatient, I’m 27 and I get a positive OPK every month, get ovulation pains and have a very regular 28 day cycle.
I do feel positive that it will happen and I don’t feel too upset, I guess I’m just feeling slightly impatient and possibly a wee bit worried.
Has anyone got positive stories of conceiving after 6 months of trying? Is this normal?

Thank you!

Hi blue,

I don't have a positive story myself (yet!) But I just wanted to say that I am in the same position as you, cycle 7 and seem to be ovulating regularly each month - based on opks, cm and ovulation pains - but with no luck yet.

Unfortunately this month I haven't actually ovulated, which is strange, so I'm not sure what's going on but other than that everything appears to be very normal.

I am trying to remind myself that it's normal to take up to a year, but it's hard isn't it!

It took us 6 months and for the last couple of those we both gave up sugar and white carbs, so perhaps you could try that? There is some decent evidence out there to support a low sugar diet boosting fertility in both men and women.

Me too, Lolipoplady! You only hear from ladies who fell pregnant super quick. How do you know you didn’t ovulate?

Thanks for the tip @LittleKitty1985, I don’t eat much white carbs but my hubby does so that could be worth a shot. Did you do anything else different when you conceived?

No, but tbf it could just have been luck. I think 6 months of ttc is the average for people in their 30s

I am also 27, TTC number one for seven months and have a regular 28 day cycle! So I had to comment and let you know girrrlll I feel your frustration!
I don't usually get upset but I woke up to my last period and cried my eyes out so apparently I'm a little more upset than I thought.
All my friends seem to get pregnant shaking hands with their partners!
I hope it happens for us soon! ❤️

@blueym I didn't get a positive OPK and also my cm stayed watery for days on end which it wouldn't normally. As it happens I did a test this morning and it's very almost positive so looks like I will finally ovulate in the next couple of days!

Fingers crossed that we will all get a BFP soon! It's so frustrating isn't it.

No tips I’m afraid...
But in the same boat.
I’m 26 and TTC since January and not a whisper as yet.
Best of luck to all ❤️

I think one of the problems is that people don't really talk openly about ttc - few people announce they are 'trying' and most folk actively cover it up so that friends/family don't suspect, partly throwback to the whole thing about not announcing until you are 12wks pregnant.

I think if people were perfectly honest, you'd find they were trying longer than they let on and I wish everyone could speak more openly about it as you'd be amazed how much support you'd get in rl.
My first pregnancy ended in mmc and it still took 5mths after that to conceive, despite apparently being extra-fertile after first pregnancy. 2nd child took around 7-8mths.
Orgasms are important as well as trying to remember what it feels like to actually be in the mood your body is actually remarkably good at flagging up when you are fertile - I'm convinced both successful conceptions happened when I was particularly horny!

Took me around 20 cycles (actually lost count which I never thought I'd do!) Happily I'm 23+5 today! Just takes some of us longer - although hopefully for you not quite as long as me!

We’re going on to be on cycle 9 in a few days so you’re not alone. It seems to be everyone falls pregnant quickly but I think people just don’t talk about it taking longer than expected which doesn’t help

Totally know how you feel! I’ve been off the contraceptive pill for 7 months and have been TTC (trying to conceive) in that time (6 months properly trying using opks). I’m 34.

Getting impatient I had some blood tests done at my GP surgery because I was worried that my periods were short (only last two days of proper flow!) even though my cycles are fairly regular between 27 and 30 days and I do get a ‘peak’ on the opks every month. I was also worried about a short luteal phase - mine is 12/13 days (up from 11 a few months ago) but I spot from day 10 or 11.

My GP had no idea about the short luteal phase thing but said I could test for progesterone 7 days after ovulation rather than on day 21 so that’s what I did (which was day 25).

My gp said my day 3 and day 21 blood test results were ‘normal’ although my testosterone was just outside of the upper end of normal (it was 1.7 and should only be 1.6). She said that wouldn’t be PCOS because my fsh/LH would be inversed from what they actually were.

However I’ve looked online and am not sure my results are normal at all. My fsh was 10 which seems very high. LH seems low at 3.5

My day 21 progesterone was 42

Anyone else had similar results or any advice??

Not sure if this thread is still active... but i am in your situation just now... 27, cycle no 7 started this week and starting to get pretty down about it! I think I tend to get my hopes up and look for any wee sign. Hopeful for the future still and hoping it happens for us soon 🤞

Hi ladies, in the same boat - been trying since July 20 and not even a hint of a BFP - I have regular 30 day cycles and ovulate every month (apart from one month as I took too much EPO, will not be doing that again!). I try and be positive with every new month but it is very upsetting when AF does arrive, I've also stopped testing really early I test the day before AF is due to manage my expectations but still doesn't make it any easier - as much as I say I will stay away from these forums I always find myself back here in every 2WW!
I've just turnt 32 this month, part of me does wish I started trying earlier xx

I'm not sure if my last reply sent so I'll try again haha..

I'm with you 100%, not even a hint of a BFP. I think you spend so much of your time trying not to get pregnant that its really surprising that its not that easy to just fall pregnant! But I do think as time goes on I'm finding it harder to stay positive and feel like an awful friend as terrible as it sounds im scared for another friend to tell me they are expecting.. im scared ill cry as much as I mnow im happy for them!

I just wanted to see if anyone else has had implantation bleeding? My cycles are normally every 28 days and a spot the day before for as long as I can remember.. however the past 3 months ive had spotting up to 4 days before .. google has me belive its implantation and then AF arrives to ruin the party, and this month 2 days early. Im starting to worry there's actually something wrong.

Hello! I am in a similar boat so totally know how you feel.. TTC since getting my implant out in May and getting very impatient 😞 I had high hopes for this month as had a couple of new symptoms but back to CD1 today! I am 31 and although I know I am still young, I now wish I had started TTC earlier as we were ready, we were just waiting for one final holiday we had booked (which never happened anyway! 🤦🏻‍♀️)
I feel like I am only living for TTC at the moment, it's absorbing all of my head space so determined to change, and I am going to distract myself with decorating my flat and tell myself it would have been more difficult to do that while pregnant. I like the idea of not testing early so as not yet get hopes up, I am going to try that this month and see if it helps.
Good luck ladies!

I’m also on my 7th month after a very early miscarriage/chemical/not sure what it was!

It’s hard, I wake up positive, set things to focus on then digress and end up here 😩 7 months is nothing but try telling your mind that hey!

Good luck to everyone this year 🤞🏻

I'm in exactly the same position. I'm 31 and started trying in June/July. Currently 7dpo and no symptoms and feeling so disheartened and sad and like it will never happen. Also wish I'd started earlier and finding it so much harder because of covid making me feel like my life is on hold!

I read somewhere that you should seek help after 6 months of trying if you are having TIMED intercourse in your fertile window. (I use OPKs and BBT) so am tempted to seek help privately if no luck after cycle 8. I guess the NHS will still make me wait 12 months despite it being timed?

@friendlyBadger when I spoke to my doctor he said I have to wait until I have been TTC for 12 months before he can refer me for any tests (I think if you are over 35 it's 6 months), me and my husband have decided we will go private for a 'fertility MOT' in March if it still hasn't happened by then just to rule out any obvious issues or get the ball rolling in the right direction if there are any problems xx

Ah ok thanks @hopefully2021! Good luck and hopefully we won't need the tests in a couple of months :)

I have a private appointment booked for 6 Feb, and just having it booked has been helping to keep me positive. I have also been tracking, but making sure that I don't rely too heavily on the exact ov date and continue over the month (just because that's what it recommends on the NHS website). My luteal phase has been on the shorter side which is the main reason why I bit the bullet and booked an appointment.

Wanted to flag that the Dr I'm seeing seemed really busy and I could only get an appointment more than two months in the future so if you are thinking about going in March, maybe best to start looking around now and checking their cancellation policies for in case you do get pregnant before then .

Thank you @LondonladyTTC, do you mind me asking who you ended up booking with and if you have booked a couples package? I've been looking out of curiosity at clinics in Harley Street and have been reading reviews etc to try and help me pinpoint who I would like to go with if it ends up going that way!
@friendlyBadger fingers crossed, wishing us all lots of baby dust over the next few months xxx

Thanks @LondonladyTTC and @hopefully2021. Good tip about the 2 month wait. I'm also London-based so am also interested in which clinic you are going to? I've been looking at ARGC which seems good from the reviews. No idea how long the wait is though.

I've actually already had blood tests and an ultrasound for non-TTC reasons and they were all normal (except my lining was slightly thin but nothing super serious I don't think) so unsure really what other tests they can do? Still good to have a second opinion and also see if there are any other tests they can do though.

Hi @hopefully2021 and @friendlyBadger , I have booked with the Fertility Plus clinic on Harley Street, mainly because one of the consultants who works there specialises in short luteal phases which is I suspect is what is what my main worry is (although Sod's law, it was 11 days for the first time this month so in the normal range!). One of the ladies in the short luteal phase group saw him, was proscribed clomid and then conceived first time which kind of enticed me to book! I just booked an initial consultation and will see what he recommends scan/ test wise.

@friendlyBadger that is great that you have had a couple of tests already and they have come back normal.

I so hope we all get pregnant soon! It is honestly taking over my life... I don't even feel like I can focus 100% on work at the moment but the sensible side of me says I should keep focussed on my career while I am waiting to conceive... constant mental battle to stay focussed!

Lovely to chat to others who are TTC in London! It feels a bit more like a community!

So nice to be chatting to locals :) i don't really ever post on forums so was nervous but everyone seems so friendly.

Ah i've heard about fertility plus too. I read their reviews a while ago which looked amazing but they were a bit more expensive than ARGC. Tbh though i'd happily pay more for it to happen sooner!

I know I feel you re taking over your life. Ive found TTC to be detrimental to my mental health and it's taking over my life too. So hard during lockdown especially because life feels so on hold!

Also @LondonladyTTC i assume you've tried this but i took b6 last month and it extended my luteal phase by a couple of days and have read about a lot of success for women with short luteal phases. I stopped taking it though as I had a weirdly light period that month so was worried it had been caused by the b6