TTC First Baby Thread 19

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Filling up fast!

@1990shopefulftm
@Alltheusersnamesaregone
@cupcakesandglitter
@starkid
@Dollywilde
@ELW85
@FlapJackered
@ImMeantToBeWorking
@LikeTheFruit
@orangeloo
@MrsEG
@MrsH497

I'm sure I've forgotten some. I'll tag more!

@MrsEG - totally worth it; it was great to hear how wonderful they’d been with you!
And you’ve actually read my mind - I smashed about 4 M&S truffles in when I got home, haha!

Have a wonderful evening at dinner :) x

Thanks everyone! I think AF is here. I used to get premenstrual spotting, but not since my surgery. It's slightly heavier than spotting now.

On to cycle 2 of meds. Off out for dinner with my cousin tonight and I'll enjoy a glass of wine.

@MrsEG thank you. Haven't taken anymore. Af still not arrived but she's imminent 😂😂

@ELW85 so sorry to hear about your doctor, you will have to keep us updated with the private clinic! Tbh though, you shouldn't need to go private!!

Thanks @LokiCat with the temp drop and the cramps I'm not hopeful ha!

@ValidUser so sorry! Enjoy your evening out 😊

Hi girls
Is there room for another? I have been watching this thread for a while now and think you all sound like a lovely bunch of girls! Really just need somewhere to talk through the struggles of TTC.
Little bit about me: I'm 28 TTC #1 been trying since end of November but only on cycle 4 as my cycles are soo long since coming off the pill.
Thought I was on to a winner this month but BFNs and still no AF so back to square one!

Thanks @Lottiepink!

Welcome to the jungle/living room @that90sgirl!

Thanks @ValidUser it really is a minefield! Who knew it was going to be this hard?? My DH still can't get his head around it 😂

Hi all, I posted in the other ttc thread but thought I'd jump on here too.

About me.. 30 years old, been trying ttc for 14 months, this is our 15th. About 12 of them have been spot on with timings. We've both had tests done and all good, so just down to bad luck I guess.
Starting to feel like it's never going to happen and losing all positivity.

@ValidUser - really sorry to hear AF arrived 😣 xx
So I hadn't had any spotting still, so I did a FRER this morning... BFN! 😭 So now just waiting for AF come in next couple of days then onto cycle 12.

@MrsChicken89 - that is a long time! Fingers crossed for you for the future xx

@ELW85 Hope you enjoyed those truffles and managed to get an appointment booked!

@ValidUser Sorry about AF lovely. I hope you enjoyed dinner, and really enjoyed the wine!

@that90sgirl Welcome! Gosh I can’t believe you’ve only had 4 cycles since November - is it something you’ve ever discussed with your doctor?

@MrsChicken89 Welcome! Wow 15 months - how frustrating to find out it’s just a case of luck, but at least you know you’ll get there eventually - you just need the stars to align!! Are you tracking with OPKs / BBT etc? There are a lot of us here who completely understand the frustration - we’ve all been there.

@starkid Ah So sorry about AF hun I really am. Xx

Morning all! Had such a lovely dinner with friends last night - they are BIG drinkers so I drove as I have a super long day at work today!! It’s mine and DH ‘first date anniversary’ this weekend which we always celebrate so likely out for dinner again ha! Must dig out the stretchy pants...

@Lottiepink @MrsEG - thanks :) the truffles were amazing and the clinic emailed, so hopefully we’ll hear back today!

@that90sgirl @MrsChicken89 - welcome! You’re definitely in the right place for support; these girls are fantastic.

@starkid sorry to hear about your BFN :( it doesn’t get easier, but we will all get there xx

Hi ladies just thought I would check back in to say hello and see how you're all doing.

@MrsChicken89 @that90sgirl welcome! You've come to the right place for a serious wealth of TTC knowledge and support- it's a great corner of the internet. @MrsChicken89 how frustrating that you've had tests and no answers why it's not happening- as you say it sounds like maybe just bad luck. Do you have any plan of action for next steps?

@starkid what DPO are you now?

@MrsEG how was your dinner and how are you feeling? I saw you had a few low days 😞. You have some amazing friends but knowing you virtually on here I'm not surprised- you're such a babe.

@ValidUser so sorry to hear af arrived. It's always extra disappointing when you've tried something new as you feel like surely this should help. Onwards and upwards!

@ELW85 I agree with the others on here- to get a bit of peace of mind and feel like something is actually happening going private has got to be the answer. Might also be worth booking an appointment with another doctor and just focusing on your age and how long you've been trying to get them to refer you and basically force them!! Sounds like the person you spoke to wasn't very helpful at all- people don't understand the stress and upset of TTC so can be so dismissive.

Sorry @MrsEG was typing away when you had already posted!

Thanks @Bettythecat :) I tried to make it more about just my potential hormonal imbalance so she didn’t just out us in the TTC channel, but she looked at me like I was speaking another language.
Never mind! Today is a new day.

How are you anyway? How are you feeling? All good I hope!

@ELW85 the truffles sound amazing! Hope you're feeling better this morning and get an appointment soon.

@ValidUser sorry to hear about AF! I hope you enjoyed dinner and wine!

@starkid so sorry to hear about BFN. As you said you're not 100% sure about ovulation date, so hopefully you're still in 🤞🏽

@that90sgirl welcome! Wow how long are your cycles? That must be frustrating. It may be worth speaking to the GP, as you've been off the pill for quite a few months now. How long do they generally say it will take for cycles to regulate after coming off?
You're still in until AF shows! 🤞🏽

@MrsChicken89 Welcome and sorry to hear you've been trying for 15 months. Everything crossed that cycle 15 is the one for you!

@MrsEG ahh happy first date anniversary for this weekend - how cute! Glad you had a lovely dinner with your friends.

@Bettythecat nice to hear from you! How have you been feeling?

Morning all! Another miserable, grey day here! Had a gym session last night and I felt so much good afterwards, so going to try and make it a regular thing.
DH and I are going to dinner tonight, possibly enjoy some crazy golf tomorrow.
I'm out tomorrow night as well for a Mean Girls event, so will likely need to put in a decent gym session over the weekend to work it off 🙈

Hope you all have a lovely day! So close to the weekend!!

Thanks everyone, im in need of a bit of support at the moment, moods are very up and down about it all. I've used opks on and off over the year, but my cycles are very regular 26-28 days so it was always around the same time, so stopped using them. We just make sure we get lots of dtd in between cd10-16.
Next steps really are to lose a bit of weight get a bit healthier and carry on timing it right. It's very frustrating that it's just all down to luck.
The doctor has said we can be referred to a fertility clinic but I think I want to give it a bit more time first.

@Bettythecat - 11dpo possibly, not 100% sure when I ovulated as didn't get a positive
@LokiCat- very true, I might be too early still, you never know...
Mean girls event sounds interesting!

@LokiCat @MrsEG
They've range from 44days-58 days. Currently CD 50. From what I've looked at the guidance is to wait six months from coming off the pill and if I've not had periods in this time then to see the doctor. As I've had periods and I thought they cycles were getting shorter I haven't been to see anyone. But since this cycle is now longer than the last I might book an appointment to discuss options.

Hi Everyone,

Sorry to hear @ELW85 that the appointment didn't go well. If you feel you weren't heard, do think if you want to go private. I saw on the NHS website that it's locally decided when they help and at what point.

Welcome to the new people.

@MrsEG you sound/read a bit better, I'm glad to see.

Sorry @ValidUser that AF has arrived.

Things have been rocky at home, me and the DP fell out, he said some things that set my anxiety off big time. I started thinking if we'd be together. He's been away over a long weekend for stag party, come back rather down. I got so worried and stressed I called our employer's counselling service. We've talked a bit more and he said he wants us to carry on as normal/we were and wishes I could chill but there's things that he said flying around my head still, so hard now I'm off my SSRIs, feel like going back on them today. He said he wants to work on things and I'm just second guessing everything.

Morning ladies ☺️

@twinkleyeyes35 hello and welcome 👋🏻

@ValidUser sorry to hear that AF arrived but onwards and upwards for your next cycle! How you had a large wine 😉

@ELW85 sorry that the appointment was a let down, hopefully you can get a private one scheduled soon 🤞🏻

@MrsEG hope you had a lovely night, sounds sensible that you took the car or it would have been a very sore head this morning! I need the stretchy pants too- put in about 5 pounds on holiday 🙈 less than ideal and can’t go to the gym this week or next!

@ sorry to hear it was a BFN lovely

Hello @ welcome to the group!

@Lottiepink how many DPO are you? When I got my bfp I had the sensation that AF was coming too 🤞🏻

@MrsChicken89 hello and welcome to the thread! I wouldn’t say there’s anything wrong with getting the referral process underway while you keep trying- gets you in the system so to speak? Just something to consider!

@LokiCat that sounds like an utterly awesome weekend! What’s the Mean Girls event? Like an open air cinema?

Well it’s back to the grind for me this morning while DP is in his bed! The furry overlord was displeased with my getting up so was meowing his head off so I know he’s awake and can start the chores he’s been left 😂 can’t believe I have come home to an amber weather warning 🙈 it’s so grey and miserable! Hope everyone has some better weather than we do!

Well that was a fail! 😂 phone having a meltdown

@starkid sorry to hear it was a BFN lovely!

Hello and welcome @that90sgirl

@Imjustme2019 - so sorry to hear you’re feeling so anxious.
You’re absolutely doing the right thing in reaching out to services like that though.
TTC can put a lot of pressure on any relationship, so don’t feel alone.

@Lozzlepop - haha ‘welcome’ (in this awful weather) back!!
Actually laughed out loud at the ‘furry overlord’ comment 😂 The north east isn’t letting the country down; we’ve got biblical rain here!

@starkid sorry for the bfn, not out til af though!

@ELW85 aww that's great, hope you get an appointment soon!

@MrsChicken89 Welcome! Least you know there isn't any issues, but at the same time it's so frustrating after waiting so long. Hope this is your month 😊

@LokiCat sounds like a good weekend planned, even better that it starts tonight, enjoy 😊

@Imjustme2019 so sorry to hear that you and dp fell out, the fact you have anxiety will make you feel a whole lot worse too, are you going to go to the counselling? Maybe worth a try before going back on the tablets? But I have no idea about it, so don't take my word for it. If you need them, you're maybe doing the right thing to start them again?

@Lozzlepop it's all so strange, it's literally bad pains as if she will arrive, I normally only get to 10dpo sometimes 11 before af arrives, I'm 13dpo today. Just done an ic and it's a bfn. But I did try a few things different this cycle which has maybe just affected my luteal stage and made it a bit longer? Temp dropped yest, but gone back up a bit again today... limbo 😱
Our weather is rubbish too, hope the first day back goes ok!

Ahh sorry to the ladies that got AF/ BFN yesterday xx
@mrsch@MrsChicken89@that90sgirl welcome, I think you definitely need some support 💕
@Imjustme2019 I'm sorry you're having a bad day. Remember it's okay to not feel okay, give yourself a break and don't put yourself down any more for feeling that way. You are definitely taking the right steps there will always be setbacks xxx