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TTC First Baby Thread 18 Already!

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ValidUser · 21/05/2019 20:08

Starting new thread - no stats though.

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Lozzlepop · 30/05/2019 11:56

@purplefig we fly out Wednesday early morning working Monday in the office then Tuesday morning from home can't wait! WHOOOOOOO! You are doing well with the smoothies, I am still on the porridge for breakfast as its so blimming cold here still!

On a side note currently 11DPO (according to Glow) with AF appartantly due on Tuesday. I think I will try and hold off testing until we come back from our hols as I am still not 100% convinced that I OVd this month after the MC.

FlapJackered · 30/05/2019 13:22

OH MY GOD! How did I miss this!!! @Bettythecat I am SO happy for you! You really do deserve it! 🎉❤️🎉❤️🎉
That line is amazing too. I bet you and your DH are over the moon, please send some of your luck our way!!

FlapJackered · 30/05/2019 13:35

I am so sorry you've had such a rough time @MrsEG and there are times when things are going to feel really hard. Allow yourself to be sad when you have a shit day as there is no requirement to keep it together all the time. Chocolate and wine definitely help though!
Also what a DICK of a gp! I would complain as that is just a horrible thing so say to someone who has been through what you have.
I personally would take the aspirin as I think at such a small dose it is unlikely to be the cause of problems. Would it be worth talking through your worries with a private consultant who has a bit more knowledge?
Also on the BFN podcast they were talking to someone who set up a site called Adia, it is set up by someone who had multiple miscarriages and she said on the podcast that on the site you can access to consultants to ask questions, there may also be someone on there who knows about Aspirin? Www.adiahealth.com
Xx

Dollywilde · 30/05/2019 13:39

Just popping in to say a huge congrats to @bettythecat - I am over the moon for you lovely Smile

AF turned up yesterday and I'm feeling a bit low so hiding off the board for a bit. Will re-emerge when I'm feeling optimistic about the new cycle. Thinking of you all! X

LokiCat · 30/05/2019 13:56

@MrsEG I completely understand. It must be so frustrating when someone whose profession is to help you just brushes you off! I really hope they redeem themselves in your afternoon appointment.
I really hope you have a better evening xx

@purplefig good on your for sticking with the smoothies! My pee has joined the neon club, was quite a shock when I first saw - you guys weren't kidding! 😂
I ended up going to play badminton with DH, so not relaxing but felt a lot better when I left! He's making dinner tonight so I'm looking forward to this evening 😊

@Lozzlepop you have so much more willpower than I do, but it makes sense to want to completely enjoy your holiday without thinking about POAS! I know you weren't really trying this month, but fx AF doesn't show up!

@Dollywilde sorry to hear AF arrived. Take your time and I hope you feel better soon. We're always here ❤️

Lozzlepop · 30/05/2019 14:19

@Dollywilde sorry to hear AF arrived and that you are feeling a bit down, we will all be here when you are ready to return.

@LokiCat haha I think it's cause I really want to enjoy the holiday and just relax, I have felt really relaxed these past few weeks and I'm not sure if that's because I think that I haven't OVd this cycle 🤷🏽‍♀️who knows but I know we deffo need this break. Hopefully if AF does show up she doesn't last long #Neverhappy haha!

ValidUser · 30/05/2019 14:46

Sorry to hear about AF @Dollywilde. X

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Bettythecat · 30/05/2019 16:12

Honestly ladies I can't tell you how blown away I am by all your congratulations and love. It's making me feel all emotional. This little corner of the internet is such a gorgeous supportive place- I don't doubt that if I met each one of the person I would love you as much in real life as I do virtually over the internet. Also appreciate all the understanding about the cat hair 😂. We've got 4 of them so it's a constant battle to keep on top of it!

I'm going to try and respond to you all so here goes!

@Larrydavid I don't have endo sorry but wonder if you have tried tracking your cycle using temps? I found the mouth thermometer a bit stressful to rememebr to do and time right so I have been using OvuSense for the last few cycles which is really amazing. Just wondered if it might help you get a bit more of an idea what's going on with your body as you're recently off birth control too.

@Larrydavid you enjoy that flat white girl!

@ImMeantToBeWorking I think we take a lot of emotional strain on during TTC. Lovely that you can talk to him about it though- it really helps.

@MrsEG it's so heartbreaking to read how thoughtless they have been with you. I'm so sorry what a horrible rough ride you have been through. As others have said don't be afraid to take a day or two to feel shit and angry at the world- always makes it easier to pick yourself up again if you have given yourself the space to just feel how you feel. Agree with @FlapJackered that if it's an option open to you financially it might be worth speaking to someone privately to make sure you are really getting the best and most sensitive care. We all also understand what it's like to see BFPs on FB or wherever. It's so hard. I used to get through it by thinking that maybe they had also had struggles or miscarriages that I didn't know about.

@Lozzlepop Loved the idea of you skipping off for coffee! Really made me smile!

@purplefig Thank you lovely and that's no problem. God knows if the supplements had an effect or not but worth a try I suppose (as is everything!)

@FlapJackered Thanks so much! We are over the moon but trying to be cautious and hasn't really sunk in yet I don't think. It feels like quite a shock still since I really don't have many actual symptoms other than the ones I think I mainly imagined in my head through hoping!

@Dollywilde Thank you and I'm sorry you've had a shit day. Don't give up hope but give yourself the time you need. Sometimes it's good to try and ignore the boards and groups to give yourself a bit of headspace from all the TTC "noise".

@ValidUser I hope your jabs have the desired effect and you are reporting your BFP here soon. Keep us all updated!

I hope you don't mind if I keep checking back in here to see how you all are. I still don't feel like I am on the "other side" of the journey quite yet so don't feel quite ready for the pregnancy boards.

If I don't speak to you over the weekend I hope you all have good one and manage to get a bit of time without TTC on the brain (harder done than said I know).

ELW85 · 30/05/2019 16:42

@Purplefig - the course was great, thanks but a little sad. It was basically how leaders can identify mental illness at work and prevent suicide. I lost one of my closest friends this way last year, so it was hard but obviously worth it if I can help anyone :)

@MrsEG - really sorry to hear that you're having a rough time and that the communication and care hasn't been what it should have been. Sending you massive hugs (for what it's worth!)

@Dollywilde - sorry AF arrived, and you're feeling low. We'll still be here when you're up to it!

ELW85 · 30/05/2019 16:44

@Bettythecat - couldn't agree more with what you've said about support and how fantastic everyone is!
Have a wonderful weekend :)

MrsEG · 30/05/2019 17:06

@Lozzlepop @purplefig @Larrydavid @ValidUser @FlapJackered @LokiCat @ELW85
Thanks lovely ladies. Second GP appt was no better - but she did say she had called the RCM clinic to try and chase up our appt. But I think we are going to go private - a friend sent on details as to who she used and they’re really close by, so I’m going to give them a call tomorrow. I feel like I just need to do something, anything to feel in control of the situation again! @FlapJackered I will definitely look up Adia too, I had never even heard of it!

@Dollywilde So sorry about AF, look after yourself and I hope your next cycle is your lucky one xx

@Bettythecat Massive congrats again and please do stick around as long as you like! I so agree with how supportive everyone is, I’m not sure how I’d have gotten through certain days without everyone. We are all absolutely delighted for you!!

rose555 · 30/05/2019 17:13

Just checking in and saw very happy news!!! Congratulations @bettythecat - so happy for you.
Hope everyone else’s weeks are going well. I’m 10DPO and feeling a little different than other cycles - tightness / bloating feeling in my lower abdominal region and sore boobs (but I get those a lot anyway). I basically feel almost like my period is coming, but maybe very slightly different. I’ve also had a cold sore threatening for a few days which has really arrived today. I never get cold sores!
So... am curious to see if this is anything promising or not....

Lola871 · 30/05/2019 17:14

Evening ladies, I'm out for the month. No sign of AF yet but a BFN, and if I ovulated late then I won't have caught it, so just waiting for AF now!

Fingers crossed for a few more BFPs this month though!

MrsH497 · 30/05/2019 18:00

@MrsEG aw lovely sorry you've had such a pants day! GP's do seem to be a real luck of the draw. Sending virtual hugs

Tashdreams · 30/05/2019 18:55

@Bettythecat congratulations!!! Has the dreaded google helped with the decision on whether to continue with the extra vit c etc?

@purplefig @ELW85 @LokiCat @orangeloo thank you for your support - I don't want to count any chickens, but I've got some spotting today (CD62) we share so much here haha, here's the warning about tmi....
It's dark brown jelly like clotting in the tissue when I go to the loo - not enough to warrant a tampon or pad, my periods have always been very light but not this light. I don't want to get my hopes up, it's certainly not enough to be classed as AF but maybe, just maybe, she's on her way. FX!!

Kiza · 30/05/2019 19:07

@Bettythecat just caught up from last night and congratulations, so happy for you and lovely to hear about a BFP in this group.
How do you all keep up with the convos?
Also how do you remember each persons previous comments when typing your response? Is there a way of reading the messages at the same time as typing a response or do I just have a rubbish memory? 😆🤦🏼‍♀️🤷🏼‍♀️

ELW85 · 30/05/2019 19:10

@Tashdreams - that’s awesome news!! Fingers crossed but it sounds like AF is at your door :) never thought I’d be happy for someone for that, haha!

@Kiza - it’s hard to keep up to be fair, but I just try and remember. It’d be my luck that there’s a better way to do it that I don’t know about!

Larrydavid · 30/05/2019 19:17

@Kiza omg I thought this was just me! My memory is so bad, I can only remember two things at once!

Fivebyfive2 · 30/05/2019 19:18

@MrsEG, really sorry to hear you're having such a rubbish time. Thinking of you xxx It's nice to have lots of nice stuff planned, but also there's nothing wrong with taking time to be sad if that's how you feel! Gp's really are a lottery. I don't blame you for looking into going private. Also, galaxy chocolate is the breakfast of champions 😋

Larrydavid · 30/05/2019 19:22

@MrsEG - if you have a question you need an answer to, ping it over, my best mate is a GP and knows lots about fertility and is stuck on a plane with me for 7 hours tomorrow - I can see if I can secretly ask her (without giving away that we're also trying! Secret squirrel style)

@Bettythecat I've not tried temping - I honestly didn't even know where to start looking but will check out your suggestion. I really wanted to be all chilled about ttc but equally need to give it a good go before my periods get super painful again!

I'm heading to New York tomorrow and I think AF due the day I'm back. Hoping it will be a good distraction!

MrsEG · 30/05/2019 19:37

@MrsH497 Thanks lovely, how are you feeling? Are you still off work?

@Tashdreams Fingers crossed AF is finally on the way for you!

@Fivebyfive2 thank you lovely. How are you doing, have you had your booking in etc yet?

@Larrydavid Oh That is so so kind of you, thank you! From what I took today, GP was basically saying that because we got pregnant 3 times, there’s nothing they can do - they would only do the standard fertility tests if we were struggling to conceive. As we have miscarried all three, it needs to be a specialist. But if you can drop in to convo and see if she agrees that would be fab!!

So I have a private appointment booked for next week :)
In a weird turn of events, as my birthday is Monday I did one of those Facebook birthday fundraisers for Tommy’s as a way of letting people know about what’s been going on with us (hoped to raise £100; it’s at £600 and counting in just over 2 days)
We’ve had people who we haven’t seen in years message us with similar stories, and one girl (from high school!!) gave me the details of the private clinic and consultant she used. She is currently in her third trimester, after 3 losses. I called tonight and have an appt with the same consultant next week :) it’s my birthday present from me to me!! Will let you all know how it goes xx

Fivebyfive2 · 30/05/2019 19:50

@MrsEG, that's amazing!! And good on you for the fund raising, you're awesome! Keep us posted and I hope the appointment goes well xx We have our booking apt on Monday when I'll be a little over 8 weeks! As that is time we realised there was a problem last time, I have warned dh I may be a tad, ahem, crazy(?!) next week?! Hopefully all will be OK though! Xxx

MrsH497 · 30/05/2019 19:53

@MrsEG I'm doing ok day 2 of no tears which is good. Still off work and waiting for a start date for my new role as I don't want to go back to my old team. The lady who announced her pregnancy just before our MC initially was offering sympathies and now has avoided contact with me and been posting about her perfect "babymoon" holiday just hurt.

So I'm doing better thank you lovely xx

MrsEG · 30/05/2019 19:54

@Fivebyfive2 Will definitely keep everyone posted! Good luck on Monday. It’s so hard being pregnant again post-loss - maybe mention any anxiety to the midwife to see if they can prioritise your scan or even give you an early one at the EPU? Anything to keep any madness at bay! I have all my fingers and toes crossed for you though for a super healthy happy 9 months! Let us know how you get on! Gosh 8 weeks already where has that gone!

ELW85 · 30/05/2019 20:01

@MrsEG - fantastic news about the consultant!! It’s so great to hear success stories, and so hopefully it’s comforting to know that you’re going to see that person after such a poor experience!

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