I hate the ttc process

[RobynC19]

So I'm going to say it I hate ttc, the scheduled sex the constant upset and pressure the fact that every one around me, my sister in law my two best friends are pregnant or worse have already had there babies and I haven't even had a hint of pregnancy. I want it so much and I feel like everyone else just winks at a man and it happens. I feel a complete failure and not much fun to be around I'm constantly breaking down. So yer I hate ttc I just want a baby to love x

I do totally get you. Not everyone talks about their journey and so it feels like people do just get pregnant at the click of a finger.

How long have you been ttc?

I have reached the dreaded 1 year mark
I'm 26 ttc baby number one
Yourself ?

Have you used the clearblue ovulation tests yet? Using them was the only way I found out that I actually ovulated a few days late (and sometimes a lot late!)
The cheaper store ones never worked for me so if you haven't yet I'd recommend them! They aren't cheap though but it's worth it. Good luck!

I'm 33 and been trying for over 18months have an infertility appt on Tuesday which I'm dreading the nearer it gets.

Its so crap. X

Yer I have been using the ovulation strips for the last 6 months I seem to be ovulating at a normal time, my husband has a sperm analysis in may, I have already had blood work done and a internal ultra sound all came back normal, next step is the x ray but there waiting till my husbands results come back I honestly don't no why they don't just get them all done and out they way at the same time the waiting is the worse

@smarty14 how did your appointment got ? Currently 7dpo feeling normal xx

I hated it too. I get really stressed about it and then stress about the stress ruining things, if that makes sense!

Sorry to hear you’re struggling I hope you get some answers soon.

It's awful isn't it.
There are some threads on here for people trying to conceive. May give you a fresh enthusiasm?
Good luck, I read once that someone else's success doesn't increase your delay. But I struggle to be around babies.
Good luck x

I feel your pain too. Been ttc 1st baby for 2 years in May. Aged 34, all investigations fine, offered IVF if no success by then. Seems like a friend or colleague is announcing a new pregnancy every week and it's getting harder. Also the double whammy...work in Maternity so there is literally no escape. Just keep swimming...x

Virtual hugs ladies 🤗

TTC is really difficult, I'm not as far time wise are in to the journey as you are OP & others but didn't want to read and run

Got invited to a friends last weekend for a hold of her newborn and got to feed him 😥 and meeting another friend this weekend with her 8 month old. 2 girls at work are about to go off on mat leave so it's baby chat central...aaah 😪

Hey, know how you feel, at 39 we’d been trying since sep 2017 and not even a sniff. I was hoping after using ovulation kits, having HSG, trying IUI, doing acupuncture with Chinese medicine, SPEM plan, clomid but nothing. Then found out last summer I have cysts on left ovary and possibly endo, had laparoscopy last Oct to remove, still nothing.

I’ve been so pilled up on pregnacare and other supplements but don’t have any joy. Given hubby green juices, pills and lots of Brazil nuts (which he wouldnt always eat or drink) and getting frustrated with him when he wouldnt always perform.

As a person who doesn’t always reveal such personal journeys, to my surprise I stupidly broke down in front of my MIL and SIL last spring (we aren’t close but get on) as to ttc journey and tbh since then been trying to avoid subject when MIL brings up (she’s only done twice) SIL is more sensitive and won’t quiz.

And my mum, every time I visit her she will ask “what’s going on?” I put on brave face but really I’m dying inside as it may never happen.

I hate the fertile window and honestly have lost patience that I’m starting to not give a damn BUT then that pang comes back! Likely hubby and I will have to try IVF in summer. We won’t be telling anyone about IVF as that will be too stressful.

I found it fucking awful and really hated waiting to see if my period would come. I actually started to dread that week each month.

I'm glad that I'm not alone I get fed up of been on the super positive threads where people get pregnant every other day. Don't get me wrong I hope we all get our baby but it's nice to know we have worked at it x

It is fairly crap, isn’t it. I hope you all get the news you want soon.

It’s just not something you can easily complain about in RL. I’m on my way home from work and keep thinking “oh great, got to DTD tonight. Yay.”. DH prefers not to know about dates/counting etc, but he’s also not an idiot and it does make it hard to get in the mood when sometimes we’re both tired and it really makes it feel like a chore rather than fun!

I agree I almost have to pre warn my husband I'm gonna need him this week as he works late and he needs to try get home earlier so I'm awake, why do I never seem to ovulate when he is off work, I also have a very physical job working with disabled children the lifting and physical attacks aren't helping tbh

I was like this. We both had issues and it took nearly a year. It was very hard and I sympathise. People who just 'have fun trying' don't understand. We were lucky to have two healthy babies in the end but ttc killed our sex life and it never recovered. For all x

Oh god can I jump on? It's the worst thing in the bloody world. We've actually pretty much given up TTC because of the misery it brings. Even having time off (ie. no ov kits, scheduled sex etc) I'm STILL miserable that everyone gets their BFPs and there is babies everywhere... and then there's just me..

Oh and also (sorry to carry on my rant) but I waited a couple of years until DH was fully on board and everything was right for us - and now I feel like a failure and annoyed that I can't just get pg straight away (like everyone else)

I feel your pain op. It took us 2 years and 7 months to conceive ds who is now 3 and we’ve been ttc since June last year. It’s so fucking hard. I can’t stop thinking about it and dh is so laid back and I just want to be pregnant now.

I totally get it, we are ttc #1. DH is convinced that something is wrong but GP has told us to keep going until we’ve had 12 solid months of trying.
I’m 31 and DH is 39 and the stress of waiting is awful. His family no longer ask if we’ll have a family of our own but I don’t think it’s out of kindness.
All a bit soul destroying really 😕

Anyone else pretending their life isn't on hold whilst ttc...but really you haven't booked holidays, you rarely drink, avoid hot tubs, make sure you haven't got family staying when ovulating, dont sign up for events not suitable when pregnant, havent donated blood...it's taking over my life.
I've tried to draw a line under it all and book us a holiday before we have a meeting about ivf!
Glad I found this thread, it's comforting to know people in the same boat but at the same time I feel sad more people are suffering the same as me everytime the next period starts! Hugs all round ladies xx

I remember the life on hold thing. Actually in our case we did end up going on a road trip holiday, I convinced just beforehand and spent a fair bit of time puking at the side of the road

@skyfullofstars totally with you there. It's not even like I want to do these things and I'm holding myself back - i DONT want to do any of the things you can't do when pregnant 'just in case'. We've been talking about going on holiday mostly because I'm sick of this country but I know I'm not going to 'relax' and magically forget about TTC.

TMI here but does anyone else have this issue - I can sort of not think about TTC sex but as soon as we start BD all I can think about is getting pregnant? Like I can't not think about it even when BD

@cupcakesandglitter i hate to admit when we do i'm like ooh could be the time we concieve

RobynC19

I feel like everyone else just winks at a man and it happens.

I think that's the perception because you only hear the success stories and in real life no one ever talks about it. One of my close friends only told me once she was pregnant that it had taken her 2 years to conceive. Until that point she'd only told her sister.

I stupidly told several people when I started TTC and now it's extremely awkward because I'm obviously not pregnant.

notsurewhatshappening

ttc killed our sex life and it never recovered.

I'm really worried that we're approaching this point. The other day DP made a comment after we DTD and was surprised when I said that actually it wasn't my fertile window and I'd only jumped him for fun.

This whole process is killing me too. I used to be so hopeful and optimistic but now I think that it'll never happen. We're looking to buy a house and I just think what is the point of getting a 3 bed to rattle around in? That would be so depressing, a daily reminder that I still haven't got a baby.