I hate the ttc process

[RobynC19]

So I'm going to say it I hate ttc, the scheduled sex the constant upset and pressure the fact that every one around me, my sister in law my two best friends are pregnant or worse have already had there babies and I haven't even had a hint of pregnancy. I want it so much and I feel like everyone else just winks at a man and it happens. I feel a complete failure and not much fun to be around I'm constantly breaking down. So yer I hate ttc I just want a baby to love x

My best friend told me she was pregnant after a one try honey moon baby my other best mate got pregnant after forgetting met pill for 3 day and my sister in law got pregnant on her second month. People love telling me how quickly they conceived then saying things like. You two better crack on or my personals hated one you'll be next cause I never am it's just a pity comment

Ah people say the most hurtful things without meaning to half the time. I hate it when the conversation starts...so how long have you been married now? You just know where it's heading next!
My friend was moaning about how hard it was trying for 5 months like it was the worst thing in the world as her friends had all become pregnant their 1st month of trying, I wanted to put her straight but I couldn't bring myself too.
I've also started looking at clothes in a...could I fit a bump or breastfeed in these if it happened soon kinda way 🙄

So my periods due Thursday I'm trying not to get my hopes up to avoid disappointment but as usual I'm like but I could be

@skyfullofstars we have been married since August so as you can imagine people as abs are commenting a lot

So I'm 10dpo and I had sort of give up on posting this but, what do you think

I think it means you are pregnant 😊

There's a line on that

Looks like a line @RobynC19

Can I join? Been ttc for 2 years now and nothing - hospital have now said it will be IVF when my weights under bmi 30 - it's been a long journey so far and I'm not sure how much longer I can go on. Just hoping the waiting list for IVF isn't years... some of the appointments at the hospital we have gone in 3 and half hours late for!

Can't stop pissing on sticks af isn't even due till Thursday so trying not to get to excited, thanks guys for moaning with me though I have found this group more helpful than other overly cheery ones lol x

Hey @Pinkroseuk sorry to see you on here!

@RobynC19 that's definitely a line - congrats x

Same to you @cupcakesandglitter. How are you getting on? Xx

@Pinkroseuk shit tbh 😂 we're keeping ourselves busy doing stuff in the house but aren't actively trying anymore. Still really depressed over it actually, I get waves of real sadness when I think I still don't have my baby yet after years of waiting - kind of wish we started years ago! I'm trying to mull through it though I guess. How're you getting on? X

@cupcakesandglitter I'm pretty much the same as you- seems so unfair in ways that others just succeed in the first try! I try to look at it as it will happen when it's meant to but doesn't make it any easier. We're going away for a weekend ever month (just £30 travelodges) to take our mind off things that helps.
We were told last week we're gonna need IVF but hubby won't talk about it which isn't helping- I still have 15kg to loose as well that isn't helping xx

@RobynC19 omg massive congrats!! X

@smarty14 thank you still can't believe it I think I be taking a test every day at least until the expected aunt flow day has passed xx

@Pinkroseuk glad you're getting away for a weekend though, whether it's a travelodge or the Hilton it's the time together that helps I think! I think I read briefly about you mentioning IVF in the other thread (I'm a bit too depressing to be commenting all the time so I just silently lurk 😂) what're you thinking for the weight loss? I'm massively overweight and need to lose it too! Sorry DH won't talk about it, do you think he's just processing it or shutting it out? X

@cupcakesandglitter yes that's true!
Yes I have also been silently lurking the last few weeks! I have to loose another 15kgish so we can have IVF- I'm still not 100% sure I want to do it but I know whatever happens loosing the rest of the weight won't hurt!
So far I have lost 16kg and do feel much better but as I'm shortish (156cm) I need to get to 73kg to be under bmi of 30.
Literally cut out lunch and sometimes breakfast and halved my portions in evening and no snacks- upped exercise and it's coming off about 2kg every 3 weeks. It's just keeping going that's hard!

Hated every moment of it too - it happened for us funnily enough when we stopped trying. I remember the month before getting really annoyed with DH because he couldn't finish on ovulation day just too much pressure, I broke down in tears, he felt awful and after that we had a talk and decided we needed a break. Next month didn't even try, no tests nothing and pregnant! Been a long journey for us, we started trying Sept 16, 2 miscarriages and now 24 weeks with zero problems!
Hang in there, it will be worth it in the end! x

@Pinkroseuk oh that's fantastic - whether you go for IVF or not, the weight loss definitely will help, mentally above everything else too which is good. What're your thoughts about IVF? X

Glad it worked for you @MaltedMilk88 and you had your BFP. This is my second cycle of not doing anything and still nothing for me - I'm fact AF turned up 10 days early at CD23 which was fun

@cupcakesandglitter thats so frustrating! :( sorry I can't offer any better advice x

7th cycle after miscarriage and still nothing, really feel like shit ☹️ totally down in the dumps 🙁 why isn't this happening??

Same, 9 months in and totally
Over it xx

Just thinking of taking a step back from it all, I feel like it's all I think about - its not normal 😔

I’m 33, 14 months trying for my first. I hate the constant fake reasons for not drinking and everyone assuming I’m pregnant and having to tell them I’m not - when it kills me to say it. I’m currently in the 2ww, 8DPO, constant symptom spotting after we did a baby make-action this month- yet half the time I think I there’s no way because I don’t have sore boobs - when I normally do from ovulation to AF, so convinced myself I’ve not released an egg... I’m all over the place!! When will it be us?

Same - I feel like it’s my whole life but I can’t even share it with anykne