The July 19ers - STILL never beaten, and rocking our FJs for a lucky thread

[Frazzlerock]

Here it is! Our lucky one 🤞

So now CD30 and temp raised slightly this morning so reached for an Asda cheapy test. Not even a hint on a line..... so I’m out. Just waiting for AF for sure. Couldn’t help keep holding onto a bit of hope but it’s not happened 😢

Betty I'm really considering doing it again! I'm so self conscious of my teeth. I just wish I'd persevered with it at the time then I'd be a good few years clear of having them off! Actually I regret not choosing ceramic or lingual braces, I think they would have fit in with my routine much better than invisalign did.

Good luck with them! Future you will be so pleased that you persevered even if it was tough!

That sucks tigsy. This TTC malarkey is a real bitch, your chart looked great as well. AF and lead up to AF are definitely the worst, I was in such a terrible mood. I feel better now I'm heading towards the next ovulation but it sounds like your next o won't be at a good time.

Bad luck @tigsy. Such a bloody rollercoaster isn't it. I proudly told my sensitive-as-a-housebrick DH this morning that AF had started - he looked at me as though I had gone completely mad.

But you have to take anything that resembles progress as a positive don't you? I'm going to start BBT again tomorrow and will check my stocks of OPKs today so I can be ready....

Also just calculated that I'll be CD27 / 11dpo on my birthday 😬

I'm really sorry @tigsy - your chart looked great too 😥 milestones like that are the worst, absolutely understand where you're coming from.

Oh @BettySwoll0cks that is really insensitive re the braces! Was he joking?!
I had invaslign too around 5 years ago. You get used to them. They are fab & definitely worth it!
Your AF comment made me laugh... my dh keeps eyeing up the thermometer at the side of the bed & asking what exactly I hope to achieve using it 😂

@Kinsters glad your thrush is clearing up!

I didn't get to have The Conversation with DH last night as we had a huge drama with his mum (went into hospital for a non invasive, routine appointment & apparently it "went wrong" & she needed morphine etc 🙄). He didn't get home til gone 8 and then we realised our oven wasn't working 😫 so spent most of the evening on the phone to the diagnostic team. Ffs.

Ah @tigsy its hard not to have a bit of hope isn't it. I hope AF turns up soon. Is there any chance it could still be too early? I've read stories of people not getting BFP until REALLY late. Sorry, I'm not helping much am I!

I'm with you all on the events when pregnant. I should have been 16 weeks in Berlin. I booked it when I was pregnant too and was really excited to take our little bump away on holiday.

@Betty your DH!

My temp has gone back up to 'land of the living' levels this morning so god knows what that ice dip was yesterday morning.. I did wake quite a few times in the night that night and had terrible anxiety so never got a straight four hours sleep. Perhaps that affected it.

I went for train tracks metal braces 2 years ago as my teeth had moved since my teenage days. I decided I couldn't be bothered with invisalign and didn't want to pay a fortune so told them just to whack the metal on me. Luckily I only had them on for a year but I do have a metal wire behind my teeth now. And it was really painful each time they tightened it. So I feel the.pain......

Not surprisingly there was no action last night and am 95% sure I have ovulated now. There was a small temp rise this morning and I now have creamy cm. Desperately trying not to think about it and trying to be positive for next month......

@Frazzlerock
No I don't think it's too early.... I'm 12dpo today and CD30. It wasn't even a maybe squinter. It was one stark line and nothing else.
I didn't expect anything else, I thought it was going to be anovulatory when no sign of Ov by cd16 but it shook up on me and fills you with hope.
I guess we will never quite know but I'm now angrily waiting for AF as I'm getting all the aches but nothing happening, not even a bit of spotting :(

And now realised that if I get my bfp in the next couple of months I'm going to have a Christmas baby - which I know isn't a reason to stop trying and I shouldn't even be thinking it.... but I was so pleased we were having a summer baby and it's just all not as planned!! I want my plans back!!!
We have one DSS who's birthday in Jan and it's a god damn nightmare!!

I'm so upset today :(

@Tigsy I’m pretty sure an Asda cheapy test wouldn’t show as positive on 12dpo x

@tigsyboo know exactly what you mean. July was perfect timing for us. Between Oct - Feb is awful timing as it's DHs busiest period with work, he's doing 13/14hr days at the min, plus commuting, so bar those 2 weeks paternity, I'll be completely by myself.
Know I sound ridiculous as beggars can't be choosers but was so excited to have a summer baby with DH around loads to help, easy with the horses & dogs, birthday picnics in the park....

Ps hope AF shows up soon xx

@rather I’m so glad you understand!! It feels the most self centred and ridiculous thing to moan about, as I’m so desperate for a baby now... but it’s just not how it was supposed to be!! It’s not like I’m going to say ‘forget it until May/June though’ because we all know what can happen with these plans!!

I found this @rose so I think I’d have seen a hint of a line.... Asda cheapie is 20ml/u

At 14 DPO, the average HCG level is 48 mIU/ml, with a typical range of 17-119 mIU/ml.
At 15 DPO, the average HCG level is 59 mIU/ml, with a typical range of 17-147 mIU/ml.
At 16 DPO, the average HCG level is 95 mIU/ml, with a typical range of 33-223 mIU/ml. *
At 17 DPO, the average HCG level is 132 mIU/ml, with a typical range of 17-429 mIU/ml. * At 18 DPO, the average HCG level is 292 mIU/ml, with a typical range of 70-758 mIU/ml.
At 19 DPO, the average HCG level is 303 mIU/ml, with a typical range of 111-514 mIU/ml. At 20 DPO, the average HCG level is 522 mIU/ml, with a typical range of 135-1690 mIU/ml.

Same re Summer baby. Mat leave would have been perfectly timed so I wouldn't have to move jobs in September (new job = me moving to Swindon with DS and leaving DH behind). Its a total disaster for us tbh. If I'm not pg by early Summer then I don't think it will happen for us again, with the separation and my age 😕

@Tigsy I understand re the Christmas baby thing too xxx

Oh no Betty! How come you are getting a new job that is going to separate you? I’m assuming it’s not a permanent thing? There are still plenty of months between now and summer, so the the chances are good.

I wanted a Summer baby just because I bought such gorgeous little clothes for Popsy. I was hoping I'd get pregnant straight away after losing him so I could still make use of the newborn summer clothes .
I've no idea what I'll do with those, unless it takes me so long to get pregnant again that we don't have a baby until next summer, or I keep having more MCs until then. Oh I don't know.
If only we had crystal balls eh?

@Rose68 it's a temporary assignment for 8 months but I could really do without it. Anyway I'm trying not to get too stressed about that because the pressure is the last thing I need! But yeah. A July baby would've been perfect.

That's really interesting about a summer baby as I was actually the opposite. When I got pregnant last year (in Jan.....) I had a due date of 3rd Oct and that was perfect for me as it misses the busiest time of year at work, and also I wanted an eldest in the year child.
BUT, I came round to it - summer off etc etc even though it's crazy hot here then. And I was looking forward to a July baby.
The earliest now would be Nov I think as no chance this month. But really, I would take anything at this stage!!

Sorry about the test @tigsyboo that's so rubbish x

It's funny talking about summer and Xmas babies, I remember at start of TTC journey I didn't want an Xmas baby and wasn't keen on idea of another summer baby after labouring during a heat wave. Hoped for a September baby. But that was all out window once it was taking a while!

So phoned up GP about the results regarding the miscarriage tests... They have nothing, not even a report that I had an ERPC!? Kinda fuming. Idk what I'm meant to do now?

@edixb I do feel that I’d be happy with anything... I think I’m just grieving the loss of everything that I had planned. It’s just daft things like the youngest DSS would have been at the end of y6 and new baby would therefore have got into the school without being a catholic (something I’m VERY against!) as they had a sibling in the school... now whenever it happens the youngest DSS will be in secondary school when baby starts school, and we don’t live in a catchment area for good schools... so it means moving too!

It just felt like our plans were all so perfect as was the timing and I feel robbed of it all

.... sorry for moaning 😓

I totally get it @Tigsy. Every single time I've made plans in my head and in real life and they've all been robbed. It's so shit.
Hopefully for our next ones, we can all make plans and not have them taken away from us xx

@Twittlebee how did your scan go?

I wanted a September baby first time round and got just that. Now I just want a baby at any time of the year. But I do agree it’s definitely an advantage to have a child thats at the older end of the year.