Share your thoughts and fears TTC

[ShortandSweet96]

You know what? I've learnt more about the women's body and pregnancy since TTC than I ever did through a sex ed class!

While having a bath (and shaving my legs ready to DTD) I got wondering. How is it your cervix can dilate to 10cm to make.way for baby's head.. but then the rest of you hoo-ha is likely to rip to your bottom hole when the head comes through?! It's brilliant and beautiful our body's can cook up a baby and carry for 9 months with minimal damage, but why wasn't we created so that we don't have to tear?! I'm terrified of tearing and the pain of it all. I'm the biggest will alive but I won't let it stop me.

I'm not asking anything, I just wanted to share my thoughts.

The reason childbirth is so difficult in humans is because of the evoutionary arms race between the size of the pelvis and the size of the skull. The human pelvis needs to be a certain width to enable walking on two legs and the skull needs to be big enough for our massive brains that make our species so successful.

Hence the very tight squeeze when a baby is born!

More info here: www.bbc.com/earth/story/20161221-the-real-reasons-why-childbirth-is-so-painful-and-dangerous

With DD I had a tear. She got stuck so they had to cut me because she'd came so fast I'd only had the gas and air that got taken off me while I pushed so I had no pain meds. Honestly I was out of it it was painful but as soon as she was born it just got forgotten. My mam held her while they were stitching me up that was the worse I screamed my mam brought DD back over and I went silent and still just seeing my baby calmed and relaxed and I didn't feel any more pain it's amazing. Ttc #2 and I'm worried about being cut again but then I think about when my mam put her next to me and how happy I became. Childbirth is the scariest and most happy day of your life