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TTC FIRST BABY - THREAD 10!

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MrsEG · 20/12/2018 19:07

Hey guys, running out of room on the old thread so starting a new one! Let’s hope it’s lucky number 10!! Will try and tag everyone now :)

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EltzBee · 21/12/2018 19:53

Hey @ValidUser hopefully it won't be too long for your op.

ValidUser · 21/12/2018 21:23

@EltzBee hopefully not! It's frustrating and demoralising, but even if I need ivf, I should have a baby come 2021 (on the later end). And I'll only be 31 then.

If not, I'll foster or adopt and we'll give a child who needs a home a loving one.

Crossfitgirl · 21/12/2018 21:28

@validuser I miss your crazy 😁😘

MrsR16 · 21/12/2018 21:30

@ValidUser aww hun! I'm glad things are finally getting in order for you. I'm also loving the option to adopt or foster! DH and I have already spoken about that and if we have major problems having our own, then we'll take that route too xx

God I'm so emotional tonight! I keep looking on our local rescue centre at dogs and welled up because all those dogs there won't have anyone at Christmas. I nearly cried at the greatest showman after the fire (when PT carries Philip out)... what is wrong with me?!? Haha!! 😂😂😂

cupcakesandglitter · 21/12/2018 22:35

DH has popped into the shop so I'm sat in the car. It's raining and I've got cramps round my right ovary and I know AF is coming... so I decide to have a meltdown in the car. I'm not even sad AF is coming I'm just sad in general. These hormones can piss off now, I feel so dramatic looking out the window crying

Keyboard91 · 21/12/2018 22:40

10:40pm and I’m led in bed, needing to pee ... and having a strong urge to POAS. I know I’ll be disappointed if/when it’s a BFN so why bother before sleep!?! Stupid brain!!

EltzBee · 22/12/2018 00:02

@cupcakesandglitter ah hun! Sending you hugs hugs. Our hormones are a right pain in the arse and ttc is such a rollercoaster. But hey, you're allowed to be dramatic and feel this stuff! Look after yourself, and if you need help emotionally, ask. Flowers

@Keyboard91 we've all been there! Try and resist.

It's now officially Saturday according to my clock so I'm due AF today, will update at a more sociable hour! Got a banging headache at the moment.

MrsEG · 22/12/2018 00:11

Survived my works Xmas do! Had 3 glasses of wine at dinner and then called DH to pick me up - currently at McDs drive-thru...

@ValidUser So lovely to hear you’re feeling positive! As you say you are really young so have so many options. I’m 33; I didn’t even meet DH til I was 28 (one week before I turned 29!) so you really have time on your side. I have absolutely everything crossed for you.

@MrsR16 That’s How we ended up with our dog - we went to dogs trust for a fundraiser and came home with a 6-month old rescue pup who immediately ate the sofa... we adore him though!

@cupcakesandglitter Oh bless you. There are really bad days on this TTC journey. Cry it all out.

@Keyboard91 Try and hold out! Keep yourself busy in the meantime :)

@EltzBee Hope the headache goes and I really hope AF doesnt show!!

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DuchessofPemberley · 22/12/2018 03:56

@cupcakesandglitter I’m so sorry you’re having a bad day with it all. I get you - I’m having an overall sad day with it too. I just feel so fed up with how hard it is.

KatBeCool · 22/12/2018 04:16

@Charm23 so you like all the Christmas stuff like gifts, food, and family but you don't like Christmas? Mhmmm 😂 and as for moving on quick, you're ready when you're ready and if it's immediately, it's only to the best. Personally, I don't see a reason to mourn for months instead of trying again.

I'm Rhesus Positive, don't know the group though.

@cupcakesandglitter it's ok to be emotional, even with silly things. I did notice that ttc isn't helping and is easier to trigger now that it's been over six months. So don't be hard on yourself.

Does anyone's lower abdomen itch a day or two before ovulation? It happens to me every time, it is so weird. Usually only on one side, goes away if I scratch it, no rash or anything, and I could tell it's internal. DH laughs at me.

starkid · 22/12/2018 07:47

Ok so I told you all a few days ago about clearblue digital deciding I was ovulating a week before I usually do (cd11).
So even though I'd already had my peak symbol, I went ahead and carried on doing the ovulation tests (cheap ones while the symbol was still showing for 48 hours) every other day still. They were all negative, and now today it's suddenly showing peak fertility again (cd17)!

Today is when I'd expect a positive as per my normal cycles, but I had high then peak results already so now I'm really confused :-/ please impart your wisdom wise ones!!

sunshine1987 · 22/12/2018 08:30

@charm23 I’m currently pregnant and spoke to my midwife yesterday about rhesus negative (my mum is, I’m yet to find out my blood group). It’s one additional blood test so they can work out baby’s blood type. If rhesus negative then they don’t do anything, if rhesus positive then they give you the anti d injection once at 28 weeks I think she said and that’s it x

EltzBee · 22/12/2018 08:32

Morning ladies. Temp has done a huge dip below the cover line as expected, so just waiting for AF to actually show up now. On to next cycle. At least temping helps see what's happening and take some of the mystery of the cycle away!

Keyboard91 · 22/12/2018 08:37

Resisted until this morning. POAS, BFN. And to really rub that in, I had what looks like start of AF a day early when I wiped. So a Christmas BFP is well and truly off the cards!

Although I’ve not been tracking ovulation, we’ve DTD pretty consistently every 1-2 days during a 2 week window each month for 3 months and it’s disheartening. My mum just had to breathe near my dad and she was pregnant. But I’ve had to take so much medication over the years for what is now known to be a rare neurological disorder and I’m anxious as to whether that could have damaged my fertility. But by the same token, I know a lot of other women have to keep trying each month so trying to to worry yet. OPKs are in the post, ready to start tracking ovulation from January onwards.

Doesn’t help that a couple of friends have had (exceptionally) cute babies in the last few months and they keep popping up in my Facebook feed so I can’t escape!!!!!!

Right, enough of my boring typing. BFN means I can go to town on Xmas with alcohol. Look for the positives, right? If DP wasn’t snoring like a runaway train I’d go back to bed!!!!

MrsH497 · 22/12/2018 08:50

Well most apps predict AF being due today no sign and a BFN this morning not even a hint of a line SadSad

ValidUser · 22/12/2018 08:54

@starkid Clearblue usually gets my days wrong (early) (I don't temp, but progesterone levels suggest my cheap sticks are more accurate!).

@cupcakesandglitter I feel your pain!

@sunshine1987 lovely to see you.

@Crossfitgirl 😂

@MrsEG you are so right. I'm a spring chicken!

@Keyboard91 Sorry for the BFN.

Here's a funny one. I had spotting at 1dpo. I never have ovulation spotting. My hope is we got an egg from the good side and the tube is still patent - apparently ovulation spotting can come from the ovary (less common than uterine lining, but it happens). Here's hoping!

ValidUser · 22/12/2018 08:55

@MrsH497 sorry for the bfn. X

sunshine1987 · 22/12/2018 09:15

@validuser hope you’re well lovely, I’ve been on here reading every day, can’t keep away lol. The ladies on the other boards aren’t as lovely as you lot xx

MrsEG · 22/12/2018 09:39

@DuchessofPemberley Hope you’re startinf to feel better - it’s totally normal to have bad days on this TTC journey!

@KatBeCool Not an itch but sometimes a dull type of twinge, not painful and usually on the day I ovulate. I’d never noticed it before TTC!

@starkid How odd - maybe you ovulated twice?!

@EltzBee Sorry hun. Hope you can console yourself with Yule logs and gin. Onto January!

@Keyboard91 Sorry about the BFN. Even when we do everything right, we still only have like a 30% chance of conceiving, so don’t beat yourself up. Everyone’s lucky month will come! I find OPKs very useful to take the guessing away from my ovulation day.

@sunshine1987 Lovely to hear from you! How are you keeping?

@MrsH497 So sorry hun. Maybe try again Monday in case the dates are wrong?

@ValidUser Hopeful!! FX!!

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Crossfitgirl · 22/12/2018 09:42

@starkid it's not unusual for your body to gear up more than once for ovulation, so you get 2 peaks in a month but if it wasn't quite enough the first time your body will try again, hence the 2nd peak. Maybe that's what it is?

DuchessofPemberley · 22/12/2018 09:57

I’m actually really angry. I’ve been using OPKs for six months (the first month was a test month, we weren’t TTC) and I’ve got no peak reading three months out of those six.

What is the actual point if you can’t rely on them?

I get high oestrogen readings for ten days, so we bd a bit and hang on for the peak and then realise it’s probably gone.

I know we could do it every day or every second day during the fertile period but I worry that it would put my DH under too much pressure, and after the year we’ve had I’d like to avoid that.

I feel like relying on OPKs has actually hurt my chances, because we have some nice relaxed bd in the first few days of the FW, and then hang on for a peak day that doesn’t come, and by the time I realise that it’s too late.

It’s not impossible that we conceived this cycle, but it’s less likely , and I’m so angry and upset because I don’t know what more I can do.

I tried to be less obsessed this cycle, took my temperature, did my OPKs, but didn’t google anything, came on here less often, hoping that would make me less emotionally invested. Thought about it less, because all I had to do was dtd when my tracking stuff told me to. Right?

Fuck it anyway.

DuchessofPemberley · 22/12/2018 09:58

Apologies for the rant, I’ve no one in real life to let it out with and I’m trying not to put too much pressure on DH. He’s knows I’m upset, but maybe not the extent of it.

It was quite cathartic Blush

starkid · 22/12/2018 10:13

Thanks guys. Guess it's best I assume this is my actual ovulation then and get cracking dtd again! (This cycle has been so stressful, I like to be eased into my fertile week not thrown straight into DTD NOW NOW NOW) haha Grin
With that positive test put in my app, i'm now being shown as due on AF New Year's Eve (although that would only be in 9 days time, and my luteal phase is usually 11 days long, so am thinking 2nd Jan)

Crossfitgirl · 22/12/2018 10:33

Aww @duchessofpemberley how frustrating for you, rant away that's what this thread is for! If OPKs aren't always accurate for you maybe it's not the best thing to rely on for your timing? Have you tried temping at all? I stopped doing OPKs altogether and temped instead and it seemed to be better for me, I found it less stressful and it meant we just kinda DTD around the time we thought and when felt good,up until the temp rise. i found I started looking more for other signs like EWCM which is one of the best indicators if you're not tracking in other ways.
Totally feel your pain though, for me the OPKs did seem to work but the clear blues and ICs were Contradicting each other so I stressed out thinking we'd nailed it one day to find the CBD told me ov was the day after! And even then, one month my OPKs showed ovulation but my DH flat out refused sex during the whole fertile period! I had a proper meltdown and it wasn't long after I decided to scrap the OPKs. Lol.

MrsH497 · 22/12/2018 11:08

There's nothing there is there I'm not just being pessimistic

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