Tell me all the reasons not to have a third

[wingingatlife]

Is anyone else in this quandary of head over heart? Dh and I would both like a third but there's so many practical reasons for us to not...

Dds are 4 and 8.

• Even if I got pregnant instantly, there would be a 5-5.5 year age gap between these two.
• Would need a bigger car
• School fees. We can afford two lots but a third would be too steep and it'd be grossly unfair for a third child to not have the same education.
• Our house is fine for a baby but we'd need to move in a few years - ££
• I had PND after dd2 and remain chronically anxious now.
• Dd1 was a car crash birth, dd2 an elcs so would require another section.

All fantastic reasons. Thank you.

I'm a third child and my brother (second child) has always resented my existence. I grew up feeling guilty for existing. It's affected my mental health a lot.

Thank you everyone. Rationally we both know a third wouldn't be the right thing for us and these comments have strengthened that for me.

I had my third when my other children were 5 and 8 and I must admit that I found it very difficult going back to having a baby again. Although my older two were at school they still needed lots of attentions, taking to hobbies and after school clubs and weekend/school holiday activities are harder to plan to suit all ages.