TTC FIRST BABY THREAD NO.6

[Delilah7]

New thread before I forget and lots of new people join ❤️❤️❤️

@cupcakesandglitter that's not too bad, hopefully this one is just a blip and it will go back to normal next time. Fingers crossed for you for the promotion, are there many people going for it? Do you think you're likely to get it?

@Charm23 I need you! Otherwise I will be sobbing at my bfn and getting annoyed with myself for testing early (like I do almost every month 😳) it is DEFINITELY your month 💪🏻 ...and my month, despite the wine/crappy food and general lack of exercise which is obviously ideal for baby making! 🤭...must do better next cycle.

@FlapJackered hopefully, I'm done with waiting 😂😂 I have zero idea! I think I've got a good chance of getting it but because it's a step up from my role now I know there are going to be people far more experience than me that are going for it. Just not going to stress and hopefully it'll be good news xx

@FlapJackered Oi I won't have any of that BFN nonsense this early, think positive girly!! I'm feeling better now but earlier just wanted to test to get an early inaccurate answer! Don't worry I haven't tested and I still plan to test with you!

Had a grump on tonight with OH.

Found out he's away with work next week overnight at the ideal time for babymaking! Also the first in 18months we've spent the night apart. He gave up the nights away for me cause I hated being away from him (selfish I know)

And then on top of all of that, the Halloween party I aranged through work was a shambles! In my opinion anyway.

Just an overall grump and feeling sorry for myself and needed a wee rant x

@cupcakesandglitter were you regular before the implant? How long have you had it? Also, good luck with the interview!

@Charm23 I am feeling the same, definitely getting the urge to test now at 9dpo and DH still hasn't got around to hiding the tests! If he doesn't do it today I am going to be in trouble tomorrow morning!

@cupcakesandglitter 🤞🏻🤞🏻

@Rachael321 that's annoying, but is it just one night? If so I am sure that won't make much difference as long as you cover the days either side. My DH works away quite a bit. It's annoying but there's not much to be done about it unfortunately.

Morning ladies. Temperature drop for 3rd day in a row (now 10dpo) so think I'm out. Whole degree drop today

Just saw this on Fertility Friend they have released info on their users charts and how long it takes to get a bfp by age. Quite interesting! It makes me feel a bit better for not getting pregnant immediately!

Sorry to hear that @EltzBee although 10dpo still seems early for a drop? Or do you normally have quite a short luteal phase?

Think I'm caught up now! Sounds like some busy weekends

@FlapJackered resist the test! I'm the same as dpo10 but seeing that temperature dip by a degree has made me think it would be pointless to test anyway today. Try to say strong and wait.

@cupcakesandglitter sorry to hear it was a lonely month. This site is such a supper network during this time.

@flapjackered thank you for this! Makes me realise it’s normal not to have fallen pregnant yet x

@FlapJackered average is 12 days, due to late ovulation my original due date of Friday just one has moved to Tues/Wed this week.

Very close to the cover line now :(

My normal time is 8.30 but body clock woke up half 7 not knowing about clock change! Lol

@ValidUser you naughty girl! 😂😂 when needs must hahaha! I hope so babe but not too positive xx
@Charm23 i think you'll get BFP too!!! Most of you girlies testing I'd like to think would! Xx

@Rachael321 sorry you're feeling that way honey :( xx

@FlapJackered that is interested. Seems for a 23 year old it's maybe 7 months! Which is what I am now haha. Xx

@rachael321 sorry you're feeling poo, my DH works away too quite a lot - but it's his job - there's not a great deal he can do. I was also away on a course just at baby making time this month! Sometimes life gets in the way, try not to dwell on it too much and make sure you DTD the days around it :-) I got sooo mad one month at DH not having sex around ov, but actually people have got their BFPs with DTD even 4 or 5 days before ov, so I realised its just not worth getting mad over.
What happened at the Halloween party? I'm sure it wasn't that bad! At least you made the effort to organise something 👻

Good luck @cupcakesandglitter! I'm sure you'll boss it!

@flapjackered @charm23 when did you agree to test? Have they been hidden yet? Listen to @@eltzbee, no early testing! And @eltzbee sorry about the drop, is it definitely too much to just be a fluctuation? It does look like a gradual drop but the 2 before the last one could still just be normal fluctuations above the coverline and today just an anomaly? Any AF signs?

@flapjackered thanks for that! I wonder if their data takes into account when people actually started trying rather than just charting their temp? As i had already been trying for 4 months before I started temping.

@delilah7 it definitely puts it into perspective doesn't it? Really helpful! I'm on month 6 now, but cycle 7 and I'm 30 so that clearly means that we should both pretty much catch this month or next month right?!! Haha. FF says so!!

@Crossfitgirl no sign of AF except no CF today which is usual for when she's here...so think I'm out. Feeling sad today 😥

DH also potentially got to go to the states for work next month.

Sorry to be so negative, feel so sad today that signs are it isn't our month again.

BFN this morning at 13dpo and just noticed some spotting when I wiped so I’m definitely out. Feeling a bit down about it, I’d hoped that maybe this was our month. Am feeling that maybe it will never happen for us. I know that’s silly after only 3 cycles though. I dunno, I just can’t imagine ever seeing a BFP? Sorry for being a downer.

@stormtrooperjulian we're all allowed down days! It's so disappointing and so hard!

@FlapJackered that chart's made me feel slightly better! I'm on cycle 3 at the moment, so theoretically should be able to have a bfp within the next 4 months! 🤞

@Crossfitgirl be nice if it happened!! Xxx

@EltzBee I'm sorry Hun. That must be hard :( xxx

@stormtrooperjulian you will get one I promise!! Sorry AF might be turning up xxx

It was a surprisingly good shag, actually. Probably because it felt mildly like something we shouldn't have been doing. 😂

The fertility friend thing is really reassuring. Most sources don't clarify if people are tracking things and I feel like "we do it at the right time every month so why am I not pregnant yet?" But people using FF probably are tracking, which normalises things somewhat.

@ValidUser Haha! You're braver than me - I completely refuse to DTD when staying with the ILs. Having said that though, DHs grandparents were staying with us when it was my FW and we did it anyway .

@Rachael321 Aww I know how you feel. My DH works away often too which can annoyingly fall right at the wrong time! Just make sure to DTD right before he goes and as soon as hes back and I'm sure you will still have a chance! Tell us about the Halloween party? What went wrong?

@FlapJackered Uh oh! Put a blindfold on and hide them yourself? Would that even work? Was it the 2nd you wanted to test on? Only 6 days to wait... Also, I'm 28 and Cycle 8 so according to that chart I should be pregnant already which is weird because I thought I would have noticed haha

@EltzBee I don't know much about temping but I'd like to still be optimistic until you have your answer! Goodluck

@Delilah7 For some reason it's frightened me with you saying that!! I can't even imagine a BFP happening! Should I keep thinking positively or start telling myself its gonna be BFN??

@Crossfitgirl I think it was the 2nd? We head off on our weekend away then so hopefully I remember before we go! I'm not hiding mine, I'm hoping to have the will power to not test early!

@stormtrooperjulian Sorry to hear about your BFN hun Everything you're feeling is natural and we're right here with you having felt it before so don't feel guilty for feeling sad about it. Hope AF buggers off nice and quickly for you and you can start afresh!

Thanks @MrsR16 @Delilah7 @Charm23 😊 I’ve had a word with myself and feeling more cheerful now, so onwards and upwards and on to cycle 4!

@Rachael321 @FlapJackered I’m the one who works away a lot in my relationship, I do try to arrange things around fertile times and so far I haven’t been away for the full fertile week, but it’s part of the job so I just have to accept it if it happens and try not to be too annoyed!

@Charm23 be realistic but hold hope! There's never anything wrong with going ' in 90 percent sure it's a BFN BUT there's a 10 percent chance I could be! ' xxx

@stormtrooperjulian sorry lovely, looks like us three were all out of luck, here’s to next cycle 😘

@Charm23 yes testing on the 2nd if AF doesn't get to me first. Is that the right day for you too, or are you testing the day before?
If the chart says you should be pregnant right now then I am pretty sure you are, it is serious scientific research after all, I don't think it would be wrong? 😂🤣
As @Crossfitgirl mentioned i think it is assuming people start ttc when they join the app which is probably not true for most. I had done 2 cycles before I joined ff so I think you can add at least a few months onto those results. I just thought it would be much less time than that so I was pleasantly surprised that it's not unusual for it to take a while.

@EltzBee I don't think you're out quite yet, it is not over the coverline and it is still early to have af, see what tomorrow's temp brings!

Sorry to hear that @Rachael321 😩 how're things this morning? X

@KatBeCool i was regular and super heavy - had the implant for six months max (put on four dress sizes, and it made me miserable) but I had it out last year in August so my body really shouldn't be doing this 😩

Thankyou for posting that @FlapJackered - it makes me feel loads better actually. I feel like I only ever hear the two extremes - people that talk about catching straight away, or people that need IVF later down the line. I put myself under so much pressure thinking that I must be infertile and I'll need IVF and even that won't work - stupid really. It's reassuring to see that it doesn't take one go at all for everyone.

Thankyou @EltzBee it definitely is x

Thanks you @Crossfitgirl ❤️