TTC FIRST BABY THREAD NO.5!

[Delilah7]

Hope all my lovely ladies have found it again. Thread no.5. Best mumsnet group ever 😍😍😍

@cupcakesandglitter I have already got my hopes up because of symptoms I am going to do a test tomorrow on CD30 if it's BFN again then I'm going to assume I've not ovulated and get back on the BD'ing! (Once water infection completely gone anyway!)

What does Fx mean? (Still quite new to some abbreviations)
Oh no! So sorry about the possible appearance of AF! Could it be anything else? Implantation or anything?

@Mrsof20118, so sorry you’re no further on. I find the not knowing what’s happening the hardest bit 😢 Take it easy over the next few days if you can xx

@EssJayyCee sounds like a good plan! Fx means fingers crossed 😊 I have zero idea, I ovulated so long ago I don't think it could be implantation x

@mrsof20118 on the first day it started as a little bit of dark brown spotting and got pink and a little heavier in the evening. Then the next day it was like fresh blood, not as heavy as a normal period tho, but with a couple of odd looking clots. Didn't get as heavy as a normal period but lasted 5 days in total, went back to the drs a week later and the test was neg.

@EssJayyCee yes it’s the one step ones 😊

@mrsof20118 I hope you’re ok

@stormtrooperjulien on average how many opk do you use in a month? I'm just trying to work out how many to buy.

Got another BFN this morning. I guess it wasn't meant to be this month

@EssJayyCee I'm sorry Hun x x

Just checking in guys.
Been having a hard time at work, feeling as though ive been having borderline panic attacks and needed some down time.
@katbecool thank you for your lovely comment to me when I posted before, it really made me feel better.

I can't catch up right now but I will have a little look later and say hi to all the newbies and reply to people etc xxx

@Crossfitgirl love to you xxxxx

@EssJayyCee I did one a day starting at CD10 and got a positive on CD15 which was back to negative on CD16. So I used 6 that month. But I think some ladies test multiple times a day to be sure they catch the surge, cos it can be fairly short and if you only test once per day you can miss it.

@stormtrooperjulien Ahh thank you. I work long days mon-fri so wouldn't be able to do it multiple times as I wouldn't be able to do them at work! I have 2 hours at home in the surge time slot!

Still no perioddddddd. 😭

Ok ladies, catching up! some of this is very late so if my replies have already been answered, it's cos I'm copying and pasting my replies as I go along and haven't got to the last part of the thread yet!!

@essjayycee lots of the symptoms you had - tingly nipples, headache, dizziness etc and spotting can all be normal parts or your cycle as well as pg symptoms. For me I've found they aren't the same each month - one month I have sore boobs, next month I don't, next month it's sensitive nips, next month it's dizzy spells. I think mother nature tries to confuse us bit also we are so much more in tune with ourselves when ttc!

YES I feel like something is wrong with me, I'm on cycle 6 and sure it's me. Cycle 2 though, I wouldn't worry. It's very rare it works first time! Also, TOTALLY with you on the DH not being up for it thing. A few of us have issues with DH not getting on board, not being in the mood... we've had some right discussions on here about how best to basically rape them 😂😂

@cupcakesandglitter @katbecool @delilah7 I think internet cheapies OPKs all the way as I can waste as many as I want! I find CM monitoring really hard, cos once I've got it and have sex, I then don't know if it's more EWCM or if it's just sperm still coming out for days after!

@mrsR16 good luck on the testing this weekend xx

@wildcatseverywhere 6 days late!! What's going on, fingers crossed for you that it's a BFP eventually! Sometimes it appears much later than your period is due so I've heard.

@fivexfive thank you, I'm getting better at saying no and I do need to learn to delegate! I worked all night Friday and worked all day yesterday and prioritised my to do list, I plan to go to my manager when I'm next in on Tuesday for some advice. Hopefully I can offload some things maybe. How are you? Are you OPK-ing this month?
I am with you on DTD in non TTC time too, got to make them feel needed... haha even though technically it's just their sperm maybe 3 days a month 😂

@senorasurf 👋 hey!

Ok got about halfway down. Gonna try read a bit more and reply to some more!!

Oh @Delilah, that’s so annoying! It’s the ‘am I, Aren’t I’ waiting that I find most frustrating!! Will keep everything crossed for you - this thread is due some good news!! x

I’ve decided I’m gonna try and not even think about babies or TTC this month, as September has been such an emotional rollercoaster for us. We’re away on holiday next weekend so hopefully that’ll take my mind off my empty uterus (and I can drink wine and lounge in hot-tubs to my hearts content! -That’s the only up-side to this months TTC disappointment!) I just need a wee while off - hopefully relaxing might help xx

@Teachermummy83 it's annoying as I've took a digital but they aren't as sensitive. Or it could just be I'm not pregnant! But it's weird for me to to be honest.... I'm not expecting it but I keep going to the toilet as I'm abit watery down there lol so keep thinking it's AF. Boobs are tender too!

Good idea. Have a relaxing holiday hun. When you don't think about it it'll probably happen! xxx

@Teachermummy83 bare in mind i took one like Thursday or Friday! X

@Crossfitgirl thanks Hun, but as I suspected it was a BFN! Had some spotting this morning which was weird but had nothing since!

Ok here goes next lot of replies!

@delilah7 still no AF? How late are you? Could be that your periods are just a bit thrown off since MC still? Your last cycle wasn't a normal length was it? Hate this waiting game! Any symptoms??

@essjayycee yes use OPKs and totally worth it. I use cheapies and I think I prefer them to clear blue as the clear blue missed my surge this cycle but the OPKs are cheap enough to use 3 a day!
(Ok... sometimes 4 🙄)

Welcome @teachermummy83 it's a slog isn't it. How long have you been trying etc?

@cupcakesandglitter maybe just count them all as you're tearing at the same time, and make a note of your sleep pattern, and see what it says? I personally find interrupted sleep doesn't seem to affect my temp but that's just me, I know it's not the same for everyone.

@feverbee NO!! Don't do it!! You won't believe the test anyway! Step awayyy from the stick. Away!

@delilah7!!! 3 digitals?? Come on now, you're a bad influence on poor @feverbee 😂 although you're late so I'll let you off. Sorry for BFN though. Eugh I just want to know for you!!
Also sorry you're feeling shit, do you have chocolate available? It's Sunday, take a nice bath or something maybe, relax? You have all of us to vent to anyway:-) we're here for you.

Welcome @summer28 :-)

@validuser I've had a runny nose for a few days so my SSP is back. I also don't feel pregnant at all, so obviously I'm one of those people that doesn't get symptoms so I must be pg!! Not due on till next weekend how about you?

@mrsmcntobe you know what I had the same thing 3-4dpo. Could be the egg travelling down the tube or implanting? That's what I'm going with!

@dovegreylove see my last post for DH problems, we all have those issues sometimes, and mine downright turned me down in the whole ovulation week last time !!! They just don't get it and sometimes need repeated education on actually TRYING to concieve.... yes DH that means having sex when you aren't always in the mood!
Alternatively, me, @flapjackered, @delilah7, @cupcakesandglitter and a few others (sorry prob missed loads of us!! But that's all I can remember!) have discussed the many ways in which we force sex upon them 😂 And there's many many ways. The best one seems to be just getting naked and straight to the point... hehe!

@mrsof20118 have they not scanned or anything or would it be too early? Thinking of you today, fingers crossed it is something and nothing, and it it's not a sticky bean we are all here for you xxx

@lougg catching up is a nightmare isn't it! How's the house stuff?? Nice to see you back xx

@Crossfitgirl no af still. Normal cycle before miscarriage was 28 day's. Cycle after MC was 30. And this one is now 32 days. Yep. I took two really early the week I was due. And one literally a few days before AF was due... I'm just so confused hahaha. I just want it to come if it's coming.... 😘

@crossfitgirl, hope your manager is supportive on Tuesday! Good luck :) I've handed a load of my original duties over to a new girl to focus on doing accounts. It's exciting but scary, the admin side was my work baby so handing it all over feels like a loss of control! It'll all be good in the end though :) I still have some smiley sticks left, so will probably use them to try and get my ap up to date with accurate info. Then I can just use that to track it all, hopefully! We have a deal: I make more effort on non smiley days and he steps up when we get a face!! Xx

@Delilah7, ok so this is going to sound weird but stay with me... I talked to a friend who is older and already been through the ttc game. She advised me that early detection tests cause loads of extra stress. Apparently the best way is to time it as best you can, but then TRY to wait and not test. If af is late, she actually recommended waiting until my NEXT one is due before testing! That way, the result will be more accurate and you're past some of the most dangerous time?? Now this advice was given with best intentions, but obviously also with benefit of hindsight. It sounds impossible, but also I see the logic?! Just thought I'd share, would be interested to see what you ladies on here think? Xxx

@fivexfive that's a really good idea with the deal, cos then he's making the effort when you want it, and you're making the effort when he wants it. You're both thinking about each other then. I love it! Might suggest that next cycle!

@delilah7 I think what Five is suggesting is a good idea, saves the potential heartache of a chemical, but waiting all the way til the next due AF seems a long time doesn't it!

@FivexFive @Crossfitgirl I don't think I'd hold out that long hahaha but defo could hold on maybe another week xxx

@FivexFive I think that's a really good idea - I've read on threads that women whose AF never turns up, are advised by the doc to wait until the next cycle anyway.. if AF hasn't turned up for me in the next week I'll definitely consider not testing! Although I may still do OPKs in case I ovulate again? FRERs do bring stress too!!!! Xx

Think of the money we'd save on tests!! X