TTC FIRST BABY THREAD NO.5!

[Delilah7]

Hope all my lovely ladies have found it again. Thread no.5. Best mumsnet group ever 😍😍😍

Well ladies it seems many of us are in the same boat when it comes to getting our legs over! I think with the talk we get about how all men want it/think about it all the time, it can be a bit jarring when they're reluctant. On one hand I get that it's pressure for them, but like we've said, we feel it too (more in some cases) and if they want a baby it's something that needs to happen when it's FW. Keep explaining, diagrams and all, hopefully it will sink in...

I admitted defeat at work and let them send me home (which they tried to do yesterday) due to the gross cold/flu thing I currently have. Dh has said, smiley face on stick or not, he is NOT coming near me until it clears up :(
So here I am at home, stuffing lemsip capsules down my throat, hoping it gets better before we get a static smiley face!

Think I might be one of the few who's OH is very rarely reluctant!
He's generally happy to for it every night! Or if were both off work I think the record was 5 times in a day and a half
But we've always been that way. Don't know how you all manage, id be going mental

@FivexFive I'm with you girls too 😩 I said this month I wouldn't obsess about anything so I'm not temping or chatting anything. Said we'd only DTD when DH initiates.... and it just isn't happening. I know there are valid reasons some nights but it just feels like excuses and rejection 😩 I'm not going to get pregnant from immaculate conception!!

I'm still also getting the same pains again that took me to hospital a couple of weeks ago, but I'm so fed up with everything I don't even care right now

@cupcakesandglitter @FivexFive I'm with you girls... my OH likes me to initiate. Tbh he initiates a lot.... so I'm thing to return the favour but it really kills my vibe if he doesn't want too!! Now... @FivexFive make sure you rest up and take some tablets or medicine. Need you fighting fit! And @cupcakesandglitter I'm sorry you're going through a lot right now hun. What helped ease the pain before?
Love to you both x x

@Crossfitgirl
To be fair he did initiate this morning so only 12 hours late on the smep plan!
Good idea on the text. I might steal that one. Another golden Crossfitgirl seduction tip! 😂
I get the being dirty thing but he is a little obsessed by it, if he showers in the morning he would need to shower again in the evening if we are going to have sex and if he is too tired the idea of a shower then sex is too much! 🙄
You're doing really well for being so early on in your cycle. I don't even contemplate it until a few days after af finishes but then storing all that energy for the marathon smeping!

@cupcakesandglitter I feel your pain, so frustrating isn't it. Have you spoke to him about it? I am tempted to give up all the tracking, but I know we would just miss the window as I am so irregular.

@FivexFive sorry you're still feeling rough. Get lots of sleep and lots of water - I find that is normally the best recovery. Fingers crossed you get better before that static smiley!

@Delilah7 haha! Stupid noonie! Although I am glad in a way as I really wasn't in the mood this morning so it got it over with nice and quickly!

@cupcakesandglitter just reread your post - you should definitely ring the GP asap if you're getting pains again. X

AF came today - I have terrible cramps, nausea and hadn’t hip pain and I’m working late but at least I know we can start again once I finish AF.

@FlapJackered I sometimes feel like that 😂😂

@PeoniesforMissAnnersley sorry for AF hunny xx

@Delilah7 it just seemed to go away on its own, I'm guessing it'll go away again this time.

@FlapJackered I have spoken to him about it, but he doesn't understand it I don't think. It's so irritating because I'm irregular again now too, so I know that we'll miss it. We've only had sex once in the last almost two weeks!! Wtf is going on 😭 have you spoken to your DH about it? Sorry if I've missed it x

@summer28 well done for holding out on the testing!

I’m sure these opk sticks don’t work for me. I think I drink far too much water and wee is just too diluted. Taken them for the past few days and a very faint line and not getting darker to positive. I think I may be ovulating though as had twinges and a bit of lower back ache on one side yesterday.

@mrsof20118 you might want to consider bbt charting if you can never get non-diluted wee. OPKs work for me because I know I don't drink a lot (which I should) but somehow I never get thirsty. It might take a couple of months to establish a bbt pattern though so maybe drinking less around the time you think you ovulate might be easier.

I've got such a headache 😔 finally kicked off between my brother and mum. Mum was sobbing. Brother was upset. I walked in on it and happened to get brought in too as he wanted to talk to me...

Hope you've all had a better night ❤️

Sorry to hear that @Delilah7. Try get some rest and do something to relax you if you can. Easier said than done I know x

@cupcakesandglitter I have spoken to my DH about it several times and each time he makes the same noises about being on board and that he understands and makes the excuse that he is just lazy and tired a lot, but I do find it exhausting having to make all the effort. I did have a little cry about it to him a few weeks ago and he did promise - we will see how this cycle turns out now I have told him he is initiating.
Maybe you need to have another chat with him as they seem to forget about it as soon as it's been discussed 🙄

@Delilah7 oh no, I'm sorry hun. Did they manage to talk it out at all?

@mrsof20118 I drink loads of water and have had positives with 3 out of the 4 cycles I have used them on. I think it is just about doing them enough to catch the surge also trying to hold in the pee a bit each time! It does help to temp though along side.

@PeoniesforMissAnnersley Sorry for AF, she's a mean old thing!

Hi everyone,

I posted the other day about how my AF has been shorter and lighter than normal.
But this one has actually been really long. It's day 7 I keep thinking it's stopped then I get more dark red/brown blood. Tonight it was sort of slimey mucus sort of thing. Sorry TMI.
I'm still getting cramps too.

Anyone else had this for AF before?

@FlapJackered oh god, they sound like the same person. It's so irritating isn't it!! I'm sick of initiating 24/7 especially when I want a baby, because I feel like when I know I'm ovulating that's all I want it for. It would be nice to feel loved and wanted - being lazy and tired really isn't a good excuse 😩

@EssJayyCee my periods are allll over the place. What you're having atm sounds like what I usually get - not for 7 days BUT I am super heavy for the first few and that's what it sounds like x

@Delilah7 Sorry you've had to deal with it today 😩 glass of wine, feet up and relax - don't let it stress you out xx

@cupcakesandglitter There was only one day of moderate bleeding the rest of the days have been light. Yesterday was just spotting. Today it was a creamy light brown sort of thing then just been to the toilet and wiped with the Dark red mucus stuff.
It needs to stop.
I want to DTD!!

Does anyone else find TTC brings out some massive insecurities? The whole having sex more often sometimes makes me feel insecure when he’s just tired and not really up for it, like I’m doing something wrong or he just doesn’t fancy me as much anymore. Driving myself nuts when I know it’s just because we’ve decided to do it every other day so not as spur of the moment as it used to be

@sunshine1987 it's just your mind playing with you. He's probs always been the same but you never realised it before, now you're wanting it more often, it's hard for men to just change.

On another note... I had a dream that I had a baby last night, like I brought him home in the car seat, introduced him to my friends, even breast fed him!! It was so real! But he was tiny... like really tiny!
I think I've actually gone TTC mad!! (Not even the nice 'Alice in wonderland' kinda way!)

@mrsof20118 thank you - guess it needed to happen but still hard! Hope you're ok xx

@FlapJackered yeah I guess, Mum was awfully upset and it was so hard. I told him things that bothered me. He blamed me for not telling him how badly upset mum was but I said ' I didn't want to say anything as with how I was feeling towards you I could of said anything'. Hope
You're ok Xx

@cupcakesandglitter literally went to bed with a headache and woke up with one! :( hope you're ok xx

@BabySquid That's normal, as I have that all the time so I like to think it's normal 😂😂😂

@Delilah7 thank god someone else has them. Are they really odd, like in the dream something seems completely normal, but then when you wake up you were like WTAF!??!

@sunshine1987 DH and I don't even think about it. During the fertile week we basically know we gotta do it, no excuses from either one. And believe me, many times the mood is so not there. Mood comes during the deed 😂. One thing to remember, if he wants children with you, he is attracted to you. Tell him to think about sex all day. That does help. They're much more in the mood towards the night.

@BabySquid yes defo! I've dreamt about a me having a little girl a few times hun!

@KatBeCool @sunshine1987 I don't know if I agree with the ' tell him to think about sex all day ' if he's not in the mood don't pressure him. Would be the same if we weren't I wouldn't want my OH pressuring me x