TTC FIRST BABY THREAD NO.5!

[Delilah7]

Hope all my lovely ladies have found it again. Thread no.5. Best mumsnet group ever 😍😍😍

@delilah7 anything to report on the sister situation? Did you manage to ignore her?

@cupcakesandglitter and other tempers I got a rise today on my temp too, just as AF is due - I thought it's meant to drop??

@Crossfitgirl I usually only notice a drop after AF starts. Might be a good sign :)

I still have the weird cramps and sore boobs I had with both CPs but I'm also getting spotting :( which usually means AF is almost here. Tho still a few days before AF is due...

@Crossfitgirl hi lovely. hope you're ok. I have and my brother quite easy really as none of them have tried talking to me xx

Hello all! Minor good news is I never have to do an exam again.

Bad news is I think I'm out this month - missed my most fertile day and needed to resort to syringing a few times.

One thing I will say for syringing is it's low effort.

@ValidUser well done hun for passing!!

You never know though. Keep faith x x

@validuser yay for no more exams! This stringing really intrigues me... is it like a special syringe or just bog standard non needle one? Does your OH just get his swimmers in it himself? I like low effort! Lol.

@delilah7 Good, do you feel less stressed about it?

@cookiewaffle the spotting is so annoying isnt it, it makes you think you could be pg but then if you usually get it before AF it just drags out the lead up to AF!
And sorry lovely, I can't test with you tomorrow.
Massive temp drop today, massive cramps, and AF is massively here. Eurgh.

Aaand onto cycle 7 :-(

@Crossfitgirl he jizzes in a sample cup, I use a medication (single use each time) syringe because they're smaller.

Some people wait for the semen to liquefy, but I just shove it up clumps and all.

Very romantic.

@Crossfitgirl PUPO - pregnant until proven otherwise. I Just mean eating right and getting a good amount of sleep etc

@Crossfitgirl trying not to get stressed out but I worry a lot and I worry about Christmas and how that'll be :( xx

@laurenmay yes there's no harm in treating yourself well! It's only a good thing to be in your best health. I'm trying to eat less sugar and cut down on drinks (not that I drink a lot anyway, but trying to abstain completely in the 2ww) though when AF comes a lot of us on here do resort to wine!!

Have you decided if you're going to test or just wait until you're late? That'd mean testing on Monday right?

Xx

@Crossfitgirl I've never really been a drinker, i normally drink like 4 times a year at work dos. I don't drink tea or coffee either... Coca Cola is my down fall, I'll drink maybe 3/4 a day.
Yeah AF is due tomorrow so I will be testing Monday... I want to be optimistic but I'm afraid of getting my hopes up again just to be disappointed. So I am waiting (and praying).

@delilah7 oh it's not even Halloween yet! Loads of time! What do you usually do at Christmas? We always stay at home and invite my parents round to ours so we don't have to go anywhere 😁 we sometimes get invited to my SIL with all her rough family and about 20 kids so we just say nope sorry we already invited my parents round so we're tied to that... hehe!

@validuser that does sound romantic!! Haha - but whatever works, did you say you have back problems? I sometimes wish I had the option to do that... DH would never go for it, but for those times when I'm just not in the mood at all Or too tired etc, a practical option to get it where it needs to be would sometimes be welcomed!!

@laurenmay well good luck, I hope AF stays away. I have only tested twice in the 6 months we've been trying and both have been after AF was due, after seeing the struggles in here with the FRERS, whether to trust them or not etc, it's just not worth it.

But the waiting can be sooo hard especially when SSP rears her head!

@Crossfitgirl first house I've been in to do as as last Xmas I had surgery so couldn't. I've invited mum and dad and in-laws round for Christmas dinner. And normally Boxing Day we would go to my sisters but I just don't want to.

Mums just sobbed to me and I'm torn. I so have to say something to them... I can't deal with this anymore. It's going to make her and my dad even more unwell.

I can't believe there's another thread already! I'm sorry I'm not keeping up to date, please everyone update me as to what's been going on! I've tried to read through but there's just too much to get through!
@FivexFive good luck with AAT! I'm AAT qualified, loved doing that course!

@Crossfitgirl @ValidUser I have on occasion when I’m too tired just got on all fours, handed DH the lube and told him to make it quick 😂😂 almost as romantic as the cup and syringe!

@delilah7 if you do, maybe try and say something that is not going to make the situation worse, sometimes getting involved and having a go at people only makes it worse, but sometimes just leaving it means that things resolve on their own, people realise they are wrong and come around...
And also, this is really hard to do but sometimes, even when someone else is in the wrong, and you are right, if your end goal is for everyone to be happy then sometimes just swallowing it hard and being nice to them, or telling them you are sorry (not for anything you have done, but if they feel that you have upset them for whatever reason, EVEN if you haven't done anything wrong, sometimes acknowledging they are upset too and apologising can prompt them to think about you, to calm down, and realise maybe they need to apologise, and apologise too).
I have found that recently, after arguments with DH, sometimes even when I'm totally mad at him and have done NOTHING wrong (e.g. he's got mad at me for not washing his shorts, and I'm totally not in the wrong but he's mad at me anyway) I have actually apologised, and actually he was mad at something totally different (I.e. not washing his shorts = I wasn't thinking about him = I clearly don't love him = he's mad because he's insecure that his wife doesn't love him!) So actually just apologising for making him feel like that, even though it was through no fault of my own and I hadn't meant to, resolved it - he realised how thick he was being and apologised back and was extra nice to me for ages after.

Haha. Anyway that's just an example, I don't know if it helps with your situation at all but i have found sometimes it's easier to just swallow your pride for your own sanity and be the bigger person, I've found if I think we'll I'm doing it for me because it means I don't have to stress about it any more, it makes it easy!

@purplestar9 I wouldn't even bother trying to catch up - SO much chatter, just start again from now lol. A few AFs have come, a few SMEPs will be starting, some sad news of MC and some BFPs - the usual ups and downs of all this! How are you? Xx

@stormtrooperjulian haha haha 😂😂😂

🐕 style I like it haha

I'm totally doing that next time! I need to get some decent lube lol. Soon as I come off my period, it's every other day the whole month!

Hooray @ValidUser for no more exams and boo for AF :( I'm still keeping my fingers crossed for the syringing. Would be a great story to tell!

@Crossfitgirl ahh no worries my dear, sorry it turned up :( I think SSP is going on overdrive. Spotting has stopped, cramps still being weird. I'm starting to think its either wind or I have some serious disease which I'm sure Google could find for me. Still in theory 4 days til AF....

@Crossfitgirl yep far too much going on, not even sure I'll be able to keep up now!
I'm good thank you! Just waiting for my appointment for my 12 week scan now. Sometimes still doesn't feel real!
I hope everyone here is doing okay and I'll try to check in a bit more often!

Glad everything is going well @purplestar9 :) I'm excited for you for your 12 week scan!

@CookieWaffle thank you!
My sister had her baby last week, little girl. She's so cute it's unbelievable! I was helping to look after her other two kids while she was in hospital ( she was there for 5 days!) and that was exhausting!
And, I found out a couple of weeks ago, that my other sister is pregnant too! Not sure if I told you all. She's two weeks ahead of me!
Christmas is getting expensive haha!

@Crossfitgirl thanks Hun. The only probably is I've done that for years and I've had enough. I understand where you're coming from as I always think that way but when it's to do with my mum and dad shit changes. Xx

@purplestar9 congratulations to your sisters! 😍

Ugh, spoke too soon. AF is here early...

@CookieWaffle sorry for AF darling x x