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I want a baby but my partner doesn't and says I don't deserve to have his seeds what would you do.

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Annmarie33 · 04/09/2018 07:38

I'm 34 I have a 16 year old daughter from a previous relationship I have been with my partner for 10 years I would really love to have another child I have discussed it with my partner but he says he doesn't want to have a child with me and that I don't deserve to have his seeds it's really getting me down I feel like I'm stuck in a dead end relationship with a man who clearly doesn't love or respect me anymore he says things like I can barely look after my self never mind a baby and is constantly bringing me down my own daughter always says to me why are with him he treats you so bad she also likes the idea of me having a baby I am a brilliant mother to my daughter she has grown into a lovely kind young woman and she gets upset when she sees me upset I feel like I have so much more love to give and feel like something is missing in my life I work all the time then come home cook clean and do everything for my daughter and partner I feel like I can't speak to friends or family about this because I don't want them to think bad of my partner I'm not sure what to do I do love my partner but don't think he feels the same way.

OP posts:

therealimposter · 04/09/2018 07:39

Leave. He doesn't deserve you and you deserve better.

CryptoFascist · 04/09/2018 07:39

Your daughter is right, why are you with him?

BasinHaircut · 04/09/2018 07:41

Your partner is a cunt.

GreasyFryUp · 04/09/2018 07:41

Please leave. You potentially have another 10 years in which to find someone who loves you and wants to have a child with you. You deserve what you want from life.

MaisyPops · 04/09/2018 07:41

Leave.
You are free to want a child and are not unreasonable for wanting one.
He is free to not want a child and is not unreasonable for not wanting one.
That alone is enough to leave. You want different things.

He also sounds like an arse.

StealthPolarBear · 04/09/2018 07:41

You don't deserve to have his seeds? Is he part of a cult?

Maybugger · 04/09/2018 07:44

Arrogant twat.
Just why do you stay with him?

DelphiniumBlue · 04/09/2018 07:47

He's horrible, why do you even want to have a baby with someone as nasty as him?
Your own daughter is telling you to leave him, what sort of example are you setting by staying with him?
It must be really bad for her to be saying this. She can see what's going on. Listen to her and stop pretending to everyone else.

Singlenotsingle · 04/09/2018 07:48

It's obvious isn't it? LTB. Or tell him if he doesn't feel you deserve his seed you'll find someone who will provide some (and he can bring it up!) Seriously though, at 36 you have to make a decision soon.

n0ne · 04/09/2018 07:48

WTF? Where is your self-esteem, OP? Kick him to the curb, he doesn't deserve you. You still have time to find a decentman who pulls his weight, treats you with respect and wants a child with you.

Pudding01 · 04/09/2018 07:51

What would you tell your daughter in the future, if she came to you with this problem??

Simples, you'd tell her to sack off the arrogant t#@t!

His seed clearly isn't good enough for your eggs. Get rid, learn your worth and do it with the right person x

ApolloandDaphne · 04/09/2018 07:52

He really isn't very nice. I would leave if i was you and find someone who respects you.

Lemonsugar245 · 04/09/2018 07:52

Walk away you deserve so much better. Also it sounds like emotional abuse. Please think about seeking help for a domestic abuse charity. They will be able to give you the support and if you need help leaving provide it. You have to think would you want a child growing up in that environment. You also have a 16 year old girl who shouldn’t believe that is a acceptable.

auntyflonono · 04/09/2018 07:53

Your friends should think badly of him, it's who he is!

JiltedJohnsJulie · 04/09/2018 07:58

If you “don’t deserve his seed” I hope you’re still not having sex with him.

Please leave him OP. You deserve much better than this.

CaMePlaitPas · 04/09/2018 08:05

... What a creep. LTB.

eurochick · 04/09/2018 08:19

He has a very high opinion of his spaff....

He's a cunt. Ltb. Have a nice life with your daughter.

0ccamsRazor · 04/09/2018 08:29

Why are you with him Op?

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Annmarie33 · 04/09/2018 08:42

You all say leave like it's a easy thing to do it would be one of the most hardest most stressful times I don't deal with stress easy and if I left he would take everything I know deep within my heart I deserve better and shouldn't be with him but I feel stuck and scared to leave.

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Eatmycheese · 04/09/2018 08:46

What a disgusting, misogynistic turn of phrase.
Let him go and sow his 24 carat gold twattery elsewhere

ThanksHunkyJesus · 04/09/2018 08:48

Why would you want to inflict him as a father on an innocent child? Leave him and get a sperm donor.

flowery · 04/09/2018 08:49

”I feel like I'm stuck in a dead end relationship with a man who clearly doesn't love or respect me anymore”

Why are you stuck?

Stormzyandme · 04/09/2018 08:50

Unbelievable

Lemonsugar245 · 04/09/2018 08:50

@Annmarie33 please speak to a domestic abuse charity. They will give you support emotionally practically and even legal side. It’s not easy but the right decision is never easy in these situations.

Immigrantsong · 04/09/2018 08:53

Why do you want a baby with this man.

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