Sex every day or not?

[susso]

Right, bit of a weird one. Me and DP normally have sex every night, of course we miss a night every now and then but for years, since we've met we've just done this!

Anyway, we have officially been TTC for about 5/6 months now and nothing really seems to be working. I get that people wait a lot longer than I have and that it'll happen in its own time, but I'd just really love it to happen soon..

But my question is, is our every night sex habit helping us or hindering us? I've read in some places that DP's swimmers may be more effective if we abstain from sex then have it? Is this true? I'm in my FW now and I should be ovulating pretty soon. Also does anyone have any idea why we might not be having any luck? Really not sure if it's due to timing or my CM not being right or anything else...

Any more tips would also be amazing! Thanks so much ladies 💕

My GP friend told me maximum every other day (so about 3 times a week), so his sperm count has a chance to build up between goes.

This also means no wanking on the off days!

Oh, it's also something to do with how long both the sperm and egg can survive. So if you're doing every other day as a minimum, you're more likely to hit the egg as it's good for 72hrs. Whereas the sperm lives a much shorter time so need more hits of sperm per egg.

Something like that! Biology is failing me this late in the day.

Perhaps abstain from sex the week of your period and the resume to 3 times a week from the the second week onwards.

Thanks ladies! I was thinking that we might need to cut down a bit to every other day. Just feel like DP will have a moan as he is so used to DTD every night! Don't want him to feel like I'm just having sex for a baby either as this has caused him to be quite upset in the past. Fingers crossed he takes the news well 😂x

Not sure if you've been checking your CM which is why you brought it up. But there's some good fertility gels and lubes that are pretty much a synthetic CM which helps the swimmers live longer and swim better (just like EWCM would) if you think your lacking the right amount or consistency.
I've brought Tescos own which is £10 for 7 pipettes so enough for the whole fertile window and a bit :)
Just keeping my bases covered and I've read lots of positive stories about different brands like preseed and conceive plus.
Agree with PP about less sex otherwise the sperm won't have chance to mature. If you read how many sperm start the journey to the egg and how many actually reach it, it's worth giving it a helping hand.

Every second day from day 9 and three consecutive days mid cycle for ttc. Have fun the rest of the month and be spontaneous.

@MsHopey yeah I was thinking of giving pressed a go this cycle, I've heard loads of good things! I do get EWCM but just not loads of it- the gels would most definitely help 😊 thanks!
@HotTeaCup thanks for getting back to me! Being spontaneous for the rest of the month is probably key to keeping things fun x

My DH and I conceived by dtd every day during my fertile period but we don't normally dtd every day so I don't know if that made a difference.

Try holding off for a few days before the fertile window and see if it makes a difference 😊

I am so jealous 😂

Thanks @Mrstobe90 that's a really good suggestion, I'll Defo Try that if we're unsuccessful again this month! X

@ReginaPhalange89 hahaha!😂 Honestly we've just always done it every night since we've been together! We must just have very high sex drives🤣 we thought it was the norm but now discovering that it may not be 🤣x

Even during your period ?!?! He better get used to less sex now before the baby arrives

No need to cut down IMO. I was told that only if he has weak sperm it needs to 'build up' to be strong enough to swim the whole way.
We just found having as much as possible did the trick.

When me and my Wife tried for our second it cam to light that I had issues with my baby batter. We did the every night thing and nothing, we went to every 2 or 3 days using the specialist lube from Boots and after well over a year got lucky.

I was given a 4% chance of conceiving naturally and put the success down to the gels. I was told by the fertility clinic that every day did not give my sperm count enough time to build back up.

There are loads of whacky things to try like a cervical dip, we never went this far but basically you do the business then orgasm again after as this is meant to help suck the sperm up.

I would say enjoy the trying and don't let it become a chore. Also prepare your fella as after the baby he will not be getting some everyday.

@Notmorewashing he's a very thoughtful man and knows he won't get as much when baby comes 😊 he doesn't force me to have sex (obviously), we have mutually high sex drives so this will be something we will equally have to get used to.

@Bella898 ahhh good to hear! Only time will tell I guess, I will give both methods a try and see what works 😊 x

@Daddyto2monsters I will Defo give the gels a try now, I've heard very good things about them! Yes I've read about lots of wacky things hahaha I'll maybe give some a try! Thanks for replying. 😊

We was trying for 8 years and was told we would never have children..... We decided to then do it every day solid... 31 days later we was pregnant...9 months later a fluffy head little boy appeared. We are trying again and are on second cycle... 56 days now and it's tiring lol... But if we don't have time for sex then we don't have time for a baby ..