So tired of waiting to try

[Istolethecookie]

DH and I agreed 2018 would be the year we’d TTC but things keep getting in the way...

We had a fab new year’s holiday but in a destination with zika, so had to wait until June. Then DH was away with work for my June fertile window, and then I was sick for my July one. And now it’s my predicted ovulation day for August and DH was too tired to DTD - he is fast asleep and I am feeling irrationally grumpy. (Before anyone flames me I know he is allowed to not be in the mood and didn’t show the grumpiness, I don’t think).

Please help me snap out if it - I don’t want to get obsessive before we’ve even started trying properly! But it feels so frustrating to miss another month.

If you are just starting to TTC, why wait for your fertile window and not just DTD and try to enjoy it. Don't make it stressful and regimented from the beginning.

For what it's worth DH and I started TTC days after my supposed fertile window (in an attempt to just enjoy some good sex before I was fertile) and I got pregnant first time.

DH and I planned to just enjoy TTC for 6 months then start tracking ovulation seriously. I do appreciate I am extremely lucky to fall so quickly but could this be something you adopt to stop yourself from thinking about it too much?

Just in case you don't know - the best time to have sex to conceive is thought to be the days before ovulation rather than ovulation day itself.

Just have sex regularly throughout the month instead of trying to pinpoint ovulation. You’re only just starting out so there really is no need to get obsessed with opk’s/apps etc right now.

I know you are right. The crazy thing is I am not actually tracking really but my periods are so heavy since I came off the pill that I am using an app to know when they are coming and it shows fertile window too which then feels like a real thing. I might see if I can switch that tracking off so I don’t think about it so much for now!

If you are just using an app rather than temping/OPKs then it’s less accurate anyway - you might be in with just as good a chance tomorrow or even a few days later!

If you aren't monitoring when you ovulate with mucus/opks/temp charting and just using an app you may well be completely missing your ovulation anyway.

You're much more likely to be successful if you have sex 2-3 times a week throughout your cycle.

If you and DH have busy jobs/ tired and struggle to fit sex in then I'd suggest properly monitoring (apps are very inaccurate) and timing sex but this does make TTC very stressful - and if this is your firsts month you may be setting yourself up for a hard journey

Good luck

Thanks everyone. I have changed the app settings so it doesn’t show a predicted fertile window and feel a lot more sane already.

I’ll leave it like that until the end of the year and if nothing has happened by then maybe think about timing / tracking for 2019.

FWIW I used OPK's and was ovulating a week later than any of the apps said x