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@gjchapman good luck! 😂 look after your noonie too 😂

I'm coming down with something I think, nose is bloody horrid today. Managed to DTD with DH last night.... it's ruined me 😂 I don't have any energy today at all.

How is everyone? Xx

@cupcakesandglitter I had a stinking cold this week too, so gross when you're trying to be all sexy lol

Do you ladies drink during the 2ww? I had a few at 1dpo because even if I did conceive, before implantation I wouldn't have shared any blood supply.

Since then I haven't. Don't plan on changing it, but wondering what others do?

@ValidUser I have previously and gone with the "drink til it's pink" as I think it would add more stress not to if I was going out somewhere. But I definitely drink less than I would normally and wondering this month whether to give myself a complete caffeine/alcohol break. I'm currently 2DPO

Morning Ladies!

Hope everyone is having a good Monday

my obsession with trying to work out if i have OV'd or not has reached a new level. After those almost positive OPKs last week I got the CB ones and have been doing them every morning, all negative so far. On one hand i might have ov'd last week ( prob 15/16th so CD 21/22) on the other my cycles recently have been so long that i might not have even ov'd yet and still have another week to go! :( I don't know which so have decided to think positive and just go with last week so today will be 4dpo.

I dtd CD 8,11,13,15,16,18,20,21,23,24 so far so i'm hoping there would be plenty of little swimmers floating around. As a back up i'm going to keep going with the ov tests every morning and dtd in case this is another really long cycle but will maybe test the 28th at 12 DPO. ???

now that i've typed this out i realise that i am a lunatic but i'm still going to share, lets face it, i've said worse on this lol!

hope everyone doing ok ?

love to all! x

Is it the clear blue digital ovulation tests @ttcat32? As I found these take a little while to get used to your cycle anyway? I had days of negative before almost 9 days of a flashing smiley before the static and then another cycle it jumped straight from negative to positive with no flashing smiley at all?! That being said they do seem to pin point ovulation pretty accurately (for me anyhow) and I used them alongside cheapy opks and my Flo app to double check.

Pretty sure you've covered all bases with that baby dancing record though 😉😂 fingers crossed for your bfp this month!

@ValidUser I have been having a few glasses of wine over the weekend and nothing during the week. I feel like soon enough we won't have a choice so enjoy it while we can. 😊

@ttcat32 with the clear blue digital I think you need to start using them at the beginning of your cycle so they can work out a base point to mark against. If you're using them mid cycle (apologies if you aren't) they may not work properly as they won't be able to read the rise properly. Sorry if that's not what you're using but just incase as they are damn expensive! Sounds like you've done it enough times to cover all bases though, you must be knackered lol

@sunshine1987 I agree! Mind you, sex usually makes me feel loads better 😂

@ValidUser I've drank this month, but before ovulation I think. TBH since it's become a reality that we can start TTC, ive gone off alcohol. Same with cigarettes - I was a regular smoker but I woke up one day and went cold turkey, not looked back since.

I wouldn't put pressure on yourself not to drink, get that glass of wine if you want it 

Omg @ttcat32 I think you've definitely covered all bases 😂😂 best of luck 💕 xx

@MrsM2017 it's the digital ones but not the advanced, didn't realise when I picked them up but basically they give you an o for negative or a 😊 for positive no flashing ones.

I hope for poor seabiscuit sake you are right, I think he is sick of DTD! At the risk of putting him off for life I have been trying to give him every third night off 😂

Are you going to test again tomorrow? 🤞🤞🤞x

@sunshine1987 thanks, I think the instructions were saying mid cycle for longer ones like mine so could start around cd17. I'm not sure if it tracks the way the advanced one does, it's maybe more of a yes or no. Although I could be completely wrong and literally peeing my money away 🤷‍♀️ To be honest I think I'm just trying anything to feel like I have some control/ idea of what's going on because the cycles are so unpredictable☹️

At this rate you lot will have 5 year olds and I'll still be here waiting to ov! 😂😂

@cupcakesandglitter I'm nothing if not persistent 😂 although not exactly sure I can keep up this rate.

@ttcat32 haha I know that feeling! 😂 My poor hubby threatened his would fall off after we did SMEP this month! 🤣

Planning on testing tomorrow if AF still doesn't show....praying for a bfp 🤞🏻

@ttcat32 ah I've not used those before so completely ignore what I said. Understand what you mean about wanting to feel in control of it all, hope you get your positive soon

Struggling a small bit today. AF due tomorrow. I think she's on her way. 10 dpo, negative FRER.

I know it's only month 1, but it's a bummer all the same.

@ValidUser I'm probably not much help but I don't drink anyway. But from what I've read, it's recommended for both partners to not drink or smoke (or at least majorly cut down) whilst TTC, not sure of the implications but I think it's just so the body is healthier really.

Hello all!
Sorry, been a bit AWOL recently so I thought i'd have a quick update. I'm currently on CD 28 - 6 DPO (long cycle!) Nothing to report really, just been trying to keep myself busy! So I have about 8-9 days till AF is due I think...

How are we all? 😃

@purplestar9 I have 9 days till AF ( if I count miscarriage as period! ) x

@ValidUser keep positive! You're not out till it shows up and even if it does... you have a large drink, treat yourself to something nice, and then start again. We are all here for you!

I think the hardest part of the this all is the stress and expectations we have of ourselves. It's easy to encourage others,but we can't always do the same for ourself, it's always "our fault" in a way!

Keeping everything crossed for you xx

You know what, @ttcat32? You're absolutely right.

This table from countdown to pregnancy reassured me a bit. Even if I have conceived, implantation may not have occurred yet.

And if needs be, I'll enjoy some g and t and a creamy cake.

Thank you. ❤️

@ValidUser ❤️ right back at ya!

Be gracious with yourself, you have done what you can and what will be will be x

That's a really useful chart @ValidUser - that makes me feel a bit better about my drunken eve a few days ago!

@purplestar9 - I am on 6dpo too but have a shorter luteal phase so af is due on Sunday which is 12dpo. Still seems so far away 😩

I have absolutely zero symptoms at the moment and with bad diet and so much wine i am not holding out much hope! However tww is still torture!

Think AF just got me! Grumble!

@validuser I drink as normal before ovulation (hardly at all anyway) and I have tried to drink as little as possible after ov, but still allowed myself one or two. I asked 2 work friends with kids who said they didn't stop drinking as normal til they were PG. I also know people that got drunk then found out after they were PG and babies were fine!
I think it's totally personal.
For me personally, I think one is fine. If I had say 3 or 4, or a bottle, then found out i was pg and miscarried or something wasn't right with the baby, I know I would always wonder if it could have been avoided, even if it was not anything to do with alcohol - you would never actually know - so for me, cutting down post ov is worth it.

I am having a bottomless brunch with friends this weekend (before ov) and this cycle I had a g+t on 2 occasions in the 2ww. Imagine if we all took the "Just to be safe " route and go teetotal whilst ttc... we'd all be batshit crazy from denial of wine!

@ttcat32 sounds like you have covered all bases with all that BDing!!!! Wow!!! I would be positive and go with you oving when you got the faint lines. Even if you haven't ovulated yet, bloody hell- all that sperm surely must be able to dig an egg out and get it!!! Hehe.
Have you considered temping? Xxx
Amazing work on dtd!!!!

How is everyone? Keep trying to start convos with you ladies and think you might be missing them x