Just got 4 BFP, not sure if it's what I want

[Jellyfishgal89]

Hello! Am after advise not bashing so please - help a mama out with your lovely advise.

I have two sons 9 and 2. I fled a domestically violent relationship last year, it was tough but I got my babies out and we are now safe, content and happy.

I've met the most wonderful man, stable, funny and real good doer and we all ADORE HIM (especially my 2 year old as NM happens to be a traffic cop - a real neeenarrr man) We have only been together since April anddd I've just found out I'm pregnant.

I have PCOS so going from my LMP I'm due on my 30th birthday... we have just booked a birthday holiday to Las Vegas in Feb when I'll be 35 weeks (youngest was born at 34 weeks but that was due to ex partner and his shitty behaviour)

I just don't know what to do :( I'm scared because of what's happened to me before, worried that my boys won't adapt, concerned about affording a third... and I just don't know if keeping is the right choice. Advise? Please?

Oh OP that is a stressful situation. But congratulations

How do you think your DP would feel about it? Have you spoken to him yet?

Ultimately he sounds like a great partner and whatever you decide to do, you'll be able to make it work together. You need to do what's right for you, and don't beat yourself up either way.

The most important and first question you need to ask yourself (and no need to tell us) is if YOU want this baby. Everything else comes after that.

Thanks for your kind replies!

I told DP last night, it couldn't have gone better... He burst into joyful tears and held me so tightly.

He then checked himself and asked what I would like to do, I explained how I was nervous etc (my other two boys attend private school and there's no way I could afford another and wouldn't want this baby to miss out) . But money for me is not a real enough reason to jump ship... so we've decided to keep the baby. I'm about 9 weeks, booked the midwife today, Dr confirmed I'm due on my 30th birthday LOL #babyno3

Congratulations my lovely x

Congratulations! And what a lovely reaction from your partner, and a great birthday present! Good luck to you ❤

Congratulations!!!
I know how daunting it can be having another after being in situation you've had to escape from, but there ARE truly decent men out there and it sounds like you've found one.

Congratulations! Your DP seems lovely!