TTC First Baby. Anyone else?! New Post

[Delilah7]

Hi ladies. We reached the max posts!! @BambiOnIce80 I'm feeling ok, just feel abit silly. My flo app says I'm due tomorrow but I am always 28 days and always have cramps which I don't have yet. How about you xx

@Hopefull37 welcome :) first response early test is good and also clearblue how many weeks.

@Buttons28 welcome 😘 mine came back to normal very quickly but I was always very regular. 6 months is between the Normal of when it can get back to normal!

@ValidUser you crack me up 😂😂😂😂

@CookieWaffle that was the horrible thing to the wait until the midwife appointment :(

@starkid first Pee is normally best for pregnancy test. However I did mine when I was on my second wee and still got a positive.

Ladies, had abit of a meltdown last night. Talking to OH about me ovulating and he goes ' we didn't say we was gonna try this early after the miscarriage '. My hearts just sank. I'm now worrying about everything!! I don't know if my DTD in my fertile week and on Friday and Sunday when me ovulating is today supposedly would be enough :( xx

@Delilah7 just checking, so you have DTD this round? We did it twice last month. Only takes one time :)

And btw, really don't worry about what the Internet people might be thinking cus you're probably wrong :) I gotta admit I've had a hectic weekend away (and with no Internets) so I've skimmed over a bit.

I definitely think you need to try and find some distraction, this is all stressing you out too much and I worry for you. Look after your mind as well as your body xx

@CookieWaffle we done the deed Friday and Sunday and apparently I'm ovulating today according to flo. And I defo felt the pains yesterday. It is stressing me out tremendously. I don't want to now be on a different page to OH. He's very closed so I don't actually know how he felt about it all! Xx

@Delilah7 I know how tough that is, mine doesn't speak much and I don't like to stress him by talking about it. We've hardly talked about what's happening to me now. I just sent him some links to read which he's not even mentioned. Hopefully he'll come out and chat on his own.

@Delilah7 my heart goes out to you ❤️ TTC is such a complicated journey and I think we can get so (accidentally) obsessed with it that we can forget that our DP's might not be on the same page as us 100% of the time 😔 My DP has been great so far, but he's ex-army so he's pretty good at following orders 😄 The ex (of 39 cycle fame 🙄) was totally on board with the idea of TTC, but when nothing happened after 6 cycles and I started looking at fertility tracker apps, OPK's and fertility lube he got really angry and said it spoilt the mood and demanded I didn't discuss it with him at all (it'll be no surprise to y'all that we're now divorced 😂).

Anyway @Delilah7, I'm not saying your DP is even a shade like my ex - I'm just trying to say that there's a great big spectrum of how on the same page they are as us and I think we can forget that it can be quite difficult for them too.

Talking of - it was the last day of my fertile window last night. I couldn't really be arsed (having already managed 3 days in a row is quite a lot for my itty-bitty sex drive), but DP was insistent that we make the most of FW. So I'm preseeded up and ready to go (sorry for the spatterings of TMI) and then... nothing. Poor DP just couldn't manage it after all. So - I think we can forget the pressure TTC puts on them too.

@CookieWaffle stay with it. They surprise you at times when you really doubt what they will be like. Just hard when I'm an open book and he's so closed!

@BambiOnIce80 so glad you've got a better other half now!!! Totally agree. I think he feels we fell naturally without anything and he doesn't want me to get obsessed as I know aswell as he it will take the fun out of everything. He's doesn't want to feel he's schedule of when to have sex and when not! 😘

And @CookieWaffle is absolutely right. You need to look after your mind as well as the physical you, especially after what you've just been through.x

My DP is very stoic, he probably is a little scared but won't let on. We did have the odd performance issues, possibly just picked the wrong times. I would just give him the dates and let him pick when he was ready. However when I actually got a positive OPK I was so excited and had to show him, he then instigated the next bit and voilà :) Lucky bloodmoon day!

@CookieWaffle lovely 😘 glad he's changed his tune abit xx

@Delilah7 I hope I don't have to wait 6 months! I can't remember how my cycles were before the pill and I've been on it for years. Guess that's not going to help fingers crossed it starts soon. Never did I ever think I would be looking forward to AF as much as i am right now.

Have been carrying on as normal in the mean time and taking my BBT just to get into the habit of it. I think the warm temperatures have messed with the results a bit but it seems to have settled down now.

It's nice to have somewhere to talk as I've found DH may be getting a bit fed up of me chatting future babies when nothing seems to be happening right now. Don't really want to tell friends and family as they will just keep asking and that's added pressure

@Buttons28 not everyone has to wait that long... just keep positive. It will turn up. We are all very happy when we first see AF so you're not alone there 😘
My OH must be fed up of baby talk too. But I said it won't stop EVER. 😂😂

Things have gone a bit weird here. Thought AF had arrived yesterday as mentioned - pink on wiping (sorry TMI!) and some brown spotting but since then.... nothing. Now on CD30 which is long for me (I usually have 27/28 day cycles). Took a test early on CD28 but BFN.

I could just be in for a random long cycle I suppose?! I have no idea if or when I ovulated this month as my temp charts were completely all over the place - I was trying a new timing for temping and it didn't work well!

Am not going to get any hopes up because then it would be like having the 'ooh, maybe!' excitement followed by the 'nope' disappointment twice in one month. Glares at stupid brain.

@Delilah7, I'm sorry to hear about your DH feeling uncertain. I think TTC (and pregnancy loss) is tough for men in different ways than it is for women. I said to my DH yesterday that I don't feel I have anyone to talk to about all this and he said "me neither". Except of course I have Mumsnet and a few friends who let me rant now and then. But DH would get completely side-eyed if he tried to chat about TTC with his male colleagues! So I think they tend to bottle it up and don't have the same outlets for working through all of the emotions related to it.

@TakingtheLeap thank you. Just one of those things he is very closed with emotions ( come along way bare in mine since I've been with him ) but I think it probably just brought up feelings of losing his dad and stuff...
keep calm regarding AF. If it doesn't turn up there's a reason either way! Xx

@TakingtheLeap it's a nightmare when our bodies throw random things at us and make us second guess everything, isn't it?! I've had random long cycles before - maybe once a year. I read that it can be a sign that an egg wasn't released that cycle or was released late and it's a pretty common/normal thing that everyone goes through every now and then. That said, might be worth doing another test in a day or two in case your early one was a false BFN🤞

Hi All. Not been on in a few days since AF turned up after being a bit hit and miss! Sorry if I've missed anything, this thread goes crazy fast!
So... Turns out I was pregnant but miscarried very early. Glad I didn't do an early test as I don't think I'd have coped.
Hoping for a better shot this month.
@Delilah7 how are you doing lovely? Xx

AF finallllly showed up yesterday. It’s my first ‘proper’ period since I’ve been off the pill. I had spotting for a few days immediately after coming off. So is this the start of my second cycle TTC or is it technically the start of my first?

@Hofty personally I'd say this was C1. But that's just my opinion

@BabySquid I'm sorry lovely. :( it's horrible to go through so I'm glad you didn't take a test either. I'm ok, struggling deep down putting a brave face on! Xx

@Hofty I'd say CD1 too x

@BabySquid you mean the cycle I started yesterday you would call cycle 1?

@BabySquid sorry to hear :(, I had an early miscarriage last month but unfortunately I noticed it, however I am up the duff this month so fingers crossed this is your month xx

@Hofty I'm not sure but at least it's the start of one, hopefully this month will be a nice steady cycle xx

@TakingtheLeap are your temps still high as far as you know? Even with the weird weather and waking up at different times my temps havent been too far off this month.

@CookieWaffle up the duff 😂😂😂😂

AF came today so that's that. Will join you all here next month when I officially start TTC!