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Anybody else thinking about IVF

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cedar12 · 27/05/2007 18:13

I have just been refered for IVF we have choosen a hospital in woking I am already being seen by a consultant who works here.
Just wondering if any body else is embarking on IVF thought we could all help each other get through it.

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cedar12 · 26/06/2007 08:41

Hi Acinonyx and Baggio Good Luck to both of you. Baggio I think I am dreading the 2 week wait the most as well it bad enough normally!I have been have reflexology over the last couple of months and my dr is happy for me to carry on until transfer. Managed my 2 litres of water yesterday. My dr only wants to put back one embryo because of my age and I already have a child, I am really not sure what to do its such a hard decision.

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Acinonyx · 26/06/2007 08:56

Cedar - wrt this decision, think about how you would feel about twins and the risks involved. You should only put back 2 if you are really Ok with that outcome. If you are young and have a child already, then your odds are probably very good. If you are only going to put back one embryo, is your dr suggesting a 5 day rather than a 3 day transfer? That's what we did in order to choose the best 2 embryos, as around half will not make it from 3 to 5 days and it is not always the best looking embryos that do make it. We put back 2 though because of my age (42). Just something to consider. Jill

baggio · 26/06/2007 10:44

Morning cedar . . I was not told to drink 2 litres of water !! weird how different people are advised different things and a bit annoying because you want to feel you are doing everything possible !! I am 38 and have a child and i had 2 embryos put back . . am keen for both to implant but one would do !! have a feeling of gloom and doom today .. after eleven years I don't feel like anything will work but should be visualising best outcome obviously !! going to buy pineapple now !!

Acinonyx · 26/06/2007 11:40

Baggio - as a dedicated pessimist who is totally allergic to positive thinking I comfort myself with the thought that if stress and positive thinking affected ttc so much most people would have no children and a few people would have 10.

At my age, I relaly have to veiw this cycle as being for closure although dh, ever the optimist, takes the view that it might actually work. Jill

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cedar12 · 26/06/2007 12:16

Hello Acinonyx and Baggio. Its so hard to be positive isnt it I will keep everything crossed for both of you.
Acinonyx, Would love twins but worried about the risks. Not sure if I could cope loosing any more babies. i am 28 and I have a dd who is 4 concieved naturally no probs, but I have had 2 ectopic pg in the last 2 years. I have 1 tube left and it open but less chance of having another ep if i have ivf. Will ask the dr about 5 day transfer.
Baggio it so annoying that everyone seems to give different advice. I suppose we just have to trust the drs. I fell pg last time very quickly when I was very stressed so dont worry about being pessimist if it helps. Enjoy your pineapple.

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ZipadiSuzy · 26/06/2007 12:28

TO ALL YOU IVF THINKER OR DOERS!

Always have hope and faith that the treatment 'WILL' work, after many years of trauma, take a look at our results on 'my profile' worth every penny!!!!

I SEND YOU GOOD LUCK

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cedar12 · 26/06/2007 12:31

Thanks Zipapadisuzy, just looked your profile they are all gorgeous

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ZipadiSuzy · 26/06/2007 12:47

I just hope I can give you strength to feel positivity and hope, I feel so much for you ladies out there, and just the memory of the heartache comes rumbling back with a lump in my throat.

TheApprentice · 26/06/2007 12:55

Hi ladies!

Its me again. Just to say i am still thinking of you all.

Baggio, although of course its good to be positive don't get too hung up on that if its hard for you to do. If its any consolation no-one could have been more stressed than I was after embryo transplant and it still worked, so I'm not convinced about how important that is to the outcome. Also I was absolutely CONVINCED it hadn't worked over the two week wait, as I had exactly the same symptons I'd had when undergoing IUI which didnt work for me.

TheApprentice · 26/06/2007 12:57

ZipadiSuzy, can I ask, are all your children born from IVF? Am interested in people who've undergone it again to try to get 2nd child, as this is a decision dh and I will have to make soon. (ds is only 6 months but there is 9 month waiting list)

baggio · 26/06/2007 13:05

Hi.. Theapprentice ....thank you !!u have just made me feel much better ...

just need to ask if anyone had bad tummy ache after transfer cos that is main thing thats worrying me ..

TheApprentice · 26/06/2007 13:13

Baggio, I had period pain like tummy pains day after transfer. Don't know whether that was relevant.

TheApprentice · 26/06/2007 13:15

Is this your first IVF attempt , Baggio?

baggio · 26/06/2007 13:27

yes first attempt .

very low period like pain but still there now 3 days after trf .. think it may be side effect of progesterone supps . . i had bleeding first day / now spotting too which as u can imagine didn't cheer me up !! maybe i am just going through whole list of side effects...

TheApprentice · 26/06/2007 13:34

I think you have to try hard not to read too much into side effects coz as you say they could be due to drugs and hormones.

Am keeping my fingers crossed for all of you.

ZipadiSuzy · 27/06/2007 11:23

The Apprentice - yes all 3 children IVF 8 years between, not by choice, we couldn't afford it, then MIL died we had inheritance money and thought its now or never and went for it! wham bang thank you mam!!!!

Obviously you looked at my profile and can see I had twins the 2nd time round! joy oh joy

The treatment is so much easier now though, my ds who is 11yo now and it was a 3 month treatment, whereas the twins who are 3yo were a 2 week treatment, it was so fast in comparison.

I went through an early menopause at 16yo I had to have egg donor, my dsis did it the 1st time and the 2nd time was unknown donor! although I did have triplets 1st pregnancy but had m/c very early on, besides all the previous 12 years of hell!

ZipadiSuzy · 27/06/2007 11:30

baggio - congratulations, this is the worst part of the treatment, 'THE WAIT' try not to worry too much about the pain, I do remember twinges, and I felt a little queasy, all turned out to be positive, so I know its hard to say, but try and relax, look after yourself and take it easy!

baggio · 27/06/2007 13:09

Feel better today and even a bit silly for being so worried but difficult to think about anything else ....having now heard from others in same boat or who have been thru it, its so much better ....wish I had asked for detailed description of ivf experience before I embarked ...so would be glad to share any details with anyone about to start !!

Have an eleven yr old who was conceived after 2 mths of clomid so maybe should have tried ivf a long time ago but used to be ever hopeful !

ZipadiSuzy · 27/06/2007 14:08

baggio - never feel silly, IVF rules your life quite easily,

TheApprentice · 28/06/2007 12:10

ZipadiSuzy, your story is inspiring! I imagine its been a long hard journey for you. Luckily my dh and I can afford some more ivf, but if we decide this is the way to go we need to get a move on, as I'm already 40.

ZipadiSuzy · 28/06/2007 12:35

The apprentice - hia, thank you for that compliment, but really we are just an ordinary couple with everyday normal problems like anybody else. We were very lucky that we had some inheritance money to pay for our last treatment! (but not in the sense that mil died for it) although what a lovely tribute to her, for us to have twins!

I was 43 when I gave birth to the twins and I bought them home from hospital on my DH's 50th birthday, so GO FOR IT!!!!!!!! oooh I'm all tingly on this thread!

In all seriousness though, it is one of the most emotional thing you can go through! and I hope I can support anybody out that needs it.

ZipadiSuzy · 28/06/2007 12:38

baggio - how are you? I'm biting my nails, and I don't even know you, but really, we are here for you if you need any support at all.

Acinonyx · 28/06/2007 15:26

Cedar - I would have been happy with twins but worried because it is a high risk pg and I have known a lot of twin pgs, and although most were OK some were not. I lost my first IVF pg so I know how anxious you must feel about another loss. It is the worst possible outcome.

Baggio - keep us up to date. Looks like my ER will be Monday. Headaches and nausea are annoying and I'm feeling like a fat bloated chicken ready to lay.

Zip - I was 43 when I had dd from IVF (dh was 45). But isn't 40 the new 30? Jill

baggio · 28/06/2007 18:11

Hiya ...feel better today again still got a permanent low pain but no spotting weird spotting last night but hoping against hope it could be implantation now i am 6 days after E T .

I'm thinking about next ivf already just in case whereas I always thought I would just have one cos of expense ...am inspired by Zipadisuzy story too !!

hope you are ok today cedar ?

ZipadiSuzy · 28/06/2007 19:54

Acinonyx - '40 bing the new 30' hu-hum, I'm knackered and feel 60, but me thinks that is because of twins and their age (3.8)

baggio - nothing wrong with planning your next IVF treatment, I think its a copeing mechanism in us, keeps our mind strong, although after so much I had made a decision to stop, but it worked

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