Don’t want to leave too late for #3 with new partner ...

[Startingagaingirl]

Hi! I’m new, pls be kind :).
I have 2 children with ex husband ages 6/9. I met a lovely man, who’s my soul mate, last year, who has no kids of his own (he is 10yrs younger than me ) we’ve discussed kids and he/we would love one. I am
35 and have read so many stories of it taking forever to get pregnant the older you are.. I also don’t want it to be stressful TtC. We were going to have the coil out in Oct/Nov time... but I keep thinking maybe we just have it out now and see what happens! I’m scared of leaving it too late and wishing we started trying sooner. Oh the dilemma!!

Again, I’ll just say that no one is attacking op. Lots of us have been in op’s position and it really, really hasn’t worked out, It’s somtimes worthwhile having people give you differing views to what you desperately want. Even if you don’t agree!

I’m happy others have found their happiness! However, it’s never a guarantee so it’s worth op seeing things from every side before she makes her definitive decision.

No I understand that Teddyisahe and appreciate what you are saying totally. I just feel that the op didn't ask for relationship advice at all so couldn't get my head round everyone giving it to her! Just had a trigger shot so perhaps I'm a tad sensitive lol. Wish you all all the best!

But surely most people weren’t giving relationships advice? OP was asking when she should try for a baby, I (and others) said wait a year or 2 when she’d known her partner longer. It was an answer to her question, even if it wasn’t the answer she wanted.