Staying Sane - Positivity during TTC journey

[KnitKitty]

Hi ladies,

So, TTC is an anxious and sometimes heartbreaking time and is just a constant roller-coaster of emotions:
Some of us have been trying for a long, long time and just feeling like it will never happen.
Some of us are trying after a previous pregnancy loss.
Some of us aren't seeing eye-to-eye with OHs.
Some of us don't have an OH to lean on and are going through it alone.
Some of us are trying with fertility treatment.
Some of us are trying for our first, and some our fourth
Some of us want to be trying but can't yet for one reason or another.
Some of us are dealing with health issues which may affect fertility or mental health.
And some of us are about to, or have just started trying and might be worrying about how long it will take or if this or that will effect fertility etc etc...

It's just not the funnest journey to be on and I thought we could do with a thread just for positive messages and thoughts.

SO, no negative messages on this thread, but feel free to post:
A positive mantra or affirmation you use or think someone else could use
An idea of how to relax or pass the TTW time
A nice thing that happened to you recently
A success story despite the odds
A picture or word of hope (rainbow pictures most welcome)
A positive message to those who are going through one of the above scenarios at the moment even if you're not on the same journey as they are right now
A nice/positive quote you've read or heard
Or something which brightened up your day

The idea is that anyone having a wobble for whatever reason can come here and soak up some positive energy to help them feel better.

I'll go first:
A mantra I have been repeating to myself at the moment is "Good things happen to me. I accept miracles in my life."

A word of hope for anyone thinking of coming off the pill or who has just come off the pill and who has a history of endometriosis; I have suffered with endo in the past and was very worried that the moment I stopped taking the pill I would get all clogged up with endo again, but I conceived in the second month after coming off the pill and I have a colleague whose wife conceived two children (one the first month after coming off the pill, the second the third month after the pill) without a problem even though she has endo too.

Right, who's with me? Any more positive stuff to share anyone?

DP Dearest Partner
CP Chemical Pregnancy, didn't get to 5 weeks

Biggest hugs @CookieWaffle. I'm so sorry you're going through this again and so impressed with your strength. I'm glad you have a plan, and that it's giving you some hope.

@KnitKitty did you talk to them today or are you waiting until next week? I love your mantra. It's something you and CookieWaffle embody beautifully.

@Lov3Rosie that's a lovely one too. It reminds me of mine. I attached it. I think "unless you're busy" can easily be replaced with "unless you're TTC", "unless you feel like wallowing at home" or a multitude of others.

DH and I have booked a last minute hotel in the country, so we can up our quota this weekend.

I'm so sorry CookieWaffle. Huge hugs xxx I hope you're being extra kind to yourself at the moment. Take things easy. xxx

Thanks Lov3Rosie the stye is getting better. :)

I did manage to have a chat with my manager today and I'm glad I did. I felt better just for off-loading.

I had quite a good day actually, and one of my customers brought me an orchid as a thank you!

Quote for the weekend:
"Storms make trees take deeper roots." Dolly Parton

And just wanted to add this proverb...

Thank you ladies, it's been a tough day. I just don't know how people who have dealt with multiples handle it. But I need to learn as it's just part of the process, something I never imagined but quite common.

Glad you had a good day KnitKitty and a good talk with your boss xx

ChaosMoon I hope things are progressing well with you xx

@CookieWaffle Sending my big hugs to you xxx

@CookieWaffle they seem to be, thank you hon. I have moments of anxiety, but I'm doing fairly well keeping them at bay.

My mum had a number of miscarriages before me and my sister. I think the way she sees it, is that if that hadn't happened, my sister and I wouldn't have existed. Your children will come along at the right time for them. What you go through to get them, can only serve to make you value them more, and make you an even better mum. Hugs.

@KnitKitty I'm glad it went well!

Ahh @ChaosMoon that's understandable. I'm so happy for you, hoping that this is your time too. xx

What this journey has taught me is there's some that have short journeys and some that have very long ones! I just have to prepare myself that it may be a longer journey than I had hoped, and if maybe this journey gets too long and tiring to remember I still have a happy life whatever the outcome. DP is still positive that he will get me that baby tho :)

I think the past couple of months has shown that we've got some good things going for us, my cycles are pretty normal (no menopause yet!), I've got some eggs and they're meeting up with the sperm, we've just gotta get over the next hurdle of getting the good egg and the good sperm to meet up. It's like my body is match.com!

My affirmation for this week:

Courage is more than sheer bravado - shouting, "I can do this!" and launching out with a "do-or-die" attitude over some reckless dare. It is looking beyond yourself to what is best for another. True courage is not a matter of not being afraid - it is a matter of taking action even when you're afraid. :)

Hi all, what a wonderfully supportive thread. I had DS1 (now 2) after an EP then MMC. I am currently 4+5 with DC2 after two further MCs. I have dealt with my two main sources of stress by changing jobs and going NC with my parents. Now just trying to stay positive and hoping this tiny little lentil will stick. You guys are really helping, baby dust and hugs for you all xxx

Thanks @Eastend2015 for the heads up about this lovely thread

And thanks @KnitKitty for setting it up! Definitely needed!

I have just found out that I am pregnant again- after 3 MCs in the last year

It's very very early days- AF due tomorrow so I am quite anxious but trying to stay calm and positive and I think this thread is exactly what I need

Hope everyone has a lovely Monday

Thanks @Eastend2015 for the heads up about this lovely thread

And thanks @KnitKitty for setting it up! Definitely needed!

I have just found out that I am pregnant again- after 3 MCs in the last year

It's very very early days- AF due tomorrow so I am quite anxious but trying to stay calm and positive and I think this thread is exactly what I need

Hope everyone has a lovely Monday

Thanks @Eastend2015 for the heads up about this lovely thread

And thanks @KnitKitty for setting it up! Definitely needed!

I have just found out that I am pregnant again- after 3 MCs in the last year

It's very very early days- AF due tomorrow so I am quite anxious but trying to stay calm and positive and I think this thread is exactly what I need

Hope everyone has a lovely Monday

Thanks @Eastend2015 for the heads up about this lovely thread

And thanks @KnitKitty for setting it up! Definitely needed!

I have just found out that I am pregnant again- after 3 MCs in the last year

It's very very early days- AF due tomorrow so I am quite anxious but trying to stay calm and positive and I think this thread is exactly what I need

Hope everyone has a lovely Monday

Erm I don't know what that posted multiple times

I promise I'm not THAT obnoxious

Hey guys can I join over here as well please?

Really, really struggling. 14 cycles in and just been referred to the fertility clinic. 3 CPs so far. Working myself up so so much about what’s wrong with me that I can’t think of anything else.

Hello @spottyyellowdress. I’m so sorry for your losses. I hope the fertility clinic will give you some answers but unfortunately they can’t always identify the issue.

Have you spoken to your gp about counselling? My recurrent miscarriage consultant referred me and although I have only had my assessment session so far it really helped me. A few month ago after my last loss I said to DH I felt like I was stuck down a well in the dark screaming for help and no-one could hear me. It was such a horrible time. I wouldn’t wish these experiences on anyone but being able to cry my eyes out with a qualified bereavement counsellor really helped me get a lot off my chest. We are all here to help

@zarala that had me in stitches. Largely because I keep doing things like that too!

Welcome and congratulations to you and @Eastend2015. And welcome also to @Spottyyellowdress . I'm really sorry to hear about the losses you've all had but very glad you've found your ways here.

For those of you who are struggling today, I found this lovely metaphor this weekend. No matter how dark the night, the sun always rises in the morning.

@eastend15 that’s lovely, thank you so much.

I haven’t - I think that’s something definitely worth pursuing though. Thanks so much for the suggestion and I hope you’re in a much better place.

@cookiewaffle oh gosh just read back- I’m so sorry for your loss. I hope you are taking care of yourself and sending you lots of hugs

@spottyyellowdress yes much better- I changed jobs to get away from a boss that was full on crazy and decided to go no contact with my parents after many years of a very difficult relationship.

Hey new ladies!

@Eastend2015 ahh thank you so much. Still feeling a bit broken and fragile but getting there :) xx

@zarala don't worry I've done that before too!

@Spottyyellowdress so sorry to hear about your CPs, I may be joining you at the fertility clinic too. I really hope they can help you, and that this thread can help you too, it certainly has for me xx

@cookiewaffle ttc is such a rough journey. The ladies on the ttc after loss are really lovely. Also take a look at the uterus monologues blog uterusmonologues.com/author/uterusmonologues/

Hi all,

Sorry for the radio silence. I've been on holiday and also not feeling very positive after a BFN last week, and having my usual phantom pregnancy symptoms along with new ones that my body likes to throw at me when AF is imminent. (my body is a huge bully but I know its game now). Once AF gets her fat arse in gear and shows her face I can focus on a new cycle and will be back with fresh positivity for another cycle. Hope you're all okay xx