Staying Sane - Positivity during TTC journey

[KnitKitty]

Hi ladies,

So, TTC is an anxious and sometimes heartbreaking time and is just a constant roller-coaster of emotions:
Some of us have been trying for a long, long time and just feeling like it will never happen.
Some of us are trying after a previous pregnancy loss.
Some of us aren't seeing eye-to-eye with OHs.
Some of us don't have an OH to lean on and are going through it alone.
Some of us are trying with fertility treatment.
Some of us are trying for our first, and some our fourth
Some of us want to be trying but can't yet for one reason or another.
Some of us are dealing with health issues which may affect fertility or mental health.
And some of us are about to, or have just started trying and might be worrying about how long it will take or if this or that will effect fertility etc etc...

It's just not the funnest journey to be on and I thought we could do with a thread just for positive messages and thoughts.

SO, no negative messages on this thread, but feel free to post:
A positive mantra or affirmation you use or think someone else could use
An idea of how to relax or pass the TTW time
A nice thing that happened to you recently
A success story despite the odds
A picture or word of hope (rainbow pictures most welcome)
A positive message to those who are going through one of the above scenarios at the moment even if you're not on the same journey as they are right now
A nice/positive quote you've read or heard
Or something which brightened up your day

The idea is that anyone having a wobble for whatever reason can come here and soak up some positive energy to help them feel better.

I'll go first:
A mantra I have been repeating to myself at the moment is "Good things happen to me. I accept miracles in my life."

A word of hope for anyone thinking of coming off the pill or who has just come off the pill and who has a history of endometriosis; I have suffered with endo in the past and was very worried that the moment I stopped taking the pill I would get all clogged up with endo again, but I conceived in the second month after coming off the pill and I have a colleague whose wife conceived two children (one the first month after coming off the pill, the second the third month after the pill) without a problem even though she has endo too.

Right, who's with me? Any more positive stuff to share anyone?

@KnitKitty that's lovely feedback from work, it's really nice to be recognised at work. We spend so much time there and work so hard it's nice to be appreciated. I hope you get that job if it comes around!

Thank you @VenusStar and @KnitKitty! Yes, this will be my first. It's a Boots digital. For some reason I wanted to save my FRERs in case I needed them later. Can't fathom the logic of that now... 😂

That's great news KnitKitty well done. It's nice to remember than life can throw all sorts of good things our way.

I'm so glad I get to share this with you all, sunshine ladies. I think I'd go a bit nuts keeping it to myself. Don't know how I'm going to be a normal person today. We've spent all this time practicing being positive, I forgot to practice being sensible.

Ahh I'm so excited for you @ChaosMoon, good luck keeping your cool today!

Well one positive in our house today, my fishies had babies so I'm glad at least someone in this house can get pregnant! We got 4 tiny little things swimming around this morning. They're so cute :)

Thank you, I'm finding it tough too @CookieWaffle, bfn this morning. I have no more tests, we're at a wedding tomorrow so am going to make sure I enjoy it :) xx

10dpo bfn with a frer. As expected!

@ChaosMoon congratulations! What fabulous news!!

@KnitKitty sorry to hear about your mc. I hope you get some good news soon. When are you planning to test?

@VenusStarr it’s got to be your time soon then! Hopefully this cycle!

Ahh it's torture isn't it @VenusStarr,makr sure you havr a glass of something nice tomorrow xx

There's still time @Chanel05! xx

I'm 10dpo too @Chanel05, ugh, feeling really flat today. Might have a lie down, finished my training early. Good news is I passed my assessment today.

Well done @VenusStarr! You deserve a lie down.
Thanks @Chanel05. I'm sorry the 2ww is proving to be a rubbish one for you both.

I hope everyone's got nice weekend plans, to distract and relax you.

@CookieWaffle going to test again on Sunday and then wait to see if af rears her head next week. I’m quite convinced she’s on the way.

@VenusStarr enjoy the wedding this weekend, hopefully you’ll be able to take your mind off things a bit. Great news on the assessment anyway 👍🏻.

@ChaosMoon congratulations! That's wonderful news, wishing you all the best for the next 9 months x

@KnitKitty sorry I took a little break from MN for a couple of days! Thank you for your fabulous image - it's definitely made me smile! The fertility massage is focused around your abdomen and the idea is to encourage circulation and stimulate ovulation etc. It's by a lady nearby who's gotten really great reviews and it's supposed to be about realigning any bad energy too which I really liked. Hopefully it'll be good but I thought it sounded at least worth a try!

Not loving the heat being back ladies. Really struggling with my positivity today, I'm just so tired!!

In the spirit of embracing symptom spotting, I had a little bit of brown cm last night and a little this morning. Going to see how it progresses throughout the day, I’m 11dpo. If af is on the way I just want it to happen now so I can move onto the next cycle 🙈. Had no menstral cramping to go with the cm.

Morning all, funny story to share (it made me smile anyway!) we were watching 24 yesterday and one of the characters does a pregnancy test and the result is the biggest fattest positive you've ever seen and dh turns to me and says what does that mean? His innocence just made me smile :)

I'm symptom spotting too @Chanel05, had some strange clear jelly cm today, 2 weeks after loads of each - it was very different in consistency to ewcm and I've not had it before. Also had more pinching feelings. Like you, I'm looking forward to my new cycle (but still holding out some hope for this one!)

How is everyone else today? Just painted my nails for the wedding today, have a good Saturday, sunshine ladies ☀

@TedLife hope you're feeling a bit better today. It is a bit hot isn't it!

@VenusStarr of course these things come out clear and obvious on tv. None of this line eyes stuff! Bless him, he'll soon know what it means :)

Im out for this cycle ladies! Wishing you all the best 🤞

Hi sunshine ladies,

Chanel05 good luck in your new cycle! :) AF is a good excuse to treat yourself to anything you've been avoiding in TTW, so enjoy!

VenusStar how was the wedding? Hope you're having a lovely weekend.

TedLife I'm having a break from the other tread at the moment too. Just need some head space. How are you? Up to anything nice at the moment?

ChaosMoon how are the early days going? It's weird, isn't it? You get such a build up and then once you get the BPF you can't tell anyone and just have to wait and wait and wait... How are you feeling?

How are you CookieWaffle?

My period finally started properly yesterday. Feeling relieved.

@KnitKitty at least now you know. And you get to treat yourself this weekend. And you too @Chanel05 :) xx

Feeling very non-pregnant and have a swollen sore throat at the moment. Lemsip is doing wonders. Did some silly googling and found that some get a sore throat around implantation so of course that got my mind racing. Tho DP has one too so we can't both be pregnant! Luckily forgot I had no FRERs so have to wait til weds to test anyway! Probably a good thing.

Anyway, the sun is shining, DP is making dinner and I have a day out of the office tomorrow! Will be getting some gardening done!

Hi everyone. I'm feeling a little delicate today. Had a lovely time at the wedding, if a little too much wine! Did get a bit teary at the end of the day, there were a couple of tiny newborns there. Just want it to be our turn. Feels good to get it out my system though. No sign of af today and haven't got my usual pre-af grumpy mood.

Glad you're no longer in limbo @KnitKitty and onto a fresh new cycle.

Fingers crossed for your new cycle @Chanel05

Have fun gardening tomorrow @CookieWaffle

CookieWaffle I've been doing some weeding today, and cleaned the front door which had got very dirty indeed. Feels all fresh now.

VenusStar I'm glad you had fun at the wedding, even if you are feeling delicate!
It's really hard when you see very pregnant women or newborns. But, our time will come.

I'm having to force the positive today.
Work is super stressful at the moment. I thought I'd been doing well at coping with it but from what OH said this morning I think it's been to the detriment to our home life. I think I'm focusing too much on being zen during the day and then shutting off in the evening to conserve energy and OH feels like we're not interacting much and aren't in sync very much.
I've been finding it hard to be happy since my MC, and have been battling the feeling of nothing going my way for a while, which I know is not a healthy attitude to have (hence this thread!) but OH wasn't as affected by the MC, started a new job at the beginning of June which has given him great work/life balance for the first time and made loads of new friends and his social life is great right now. So we're not at all on the same page.
We did have a good talk about it this morning though so I think we're both mulling over it to find ways to get back on track.
Just been playing Mario Tennis together. Think I'll join him with some painting this evening.

Just been giving myself a pep-talk RE: not being pregnant this cycle, again.
Good things about this are:
My body has had longer to heal from MC and know itself better.
This oddly long cycle I've had may have been needed by my body to get back to its normal.
I've been taking vitamins for longer now, so hopefully healthy eggs are waiting.
My OH stopped smoking in February, so the longer time since that the better for his little spermies!
It might be better to be pregnant when it's a bit cooler than it is now.
If I'm not pregnant this time, at least I haven't caught a bean which wasn't meant to be and lost the pregnancy. I'd rather it never happen in the first place than get my hopes up for something I later can't have.

Today's quote:
"It doesn't matter how slowly you go, as long as you don't stop."

Thank you all. Not just for your congratulations and well wishes, but because of everything you've taught me over the last 3 months.

I haven't been on here since yesterday. Woke up this morning to some bleeding. Only very light but definite red blood and enough to freak me out completely. NHS 111 got me an appointment within the hour at an out of hours surgery and DH took me down there.

I spent the car journey telling my baby every positive affirmation I could think of, reassuring it, and myself, that we would be ok. On the way in, DH gave me the biggest hug and said "I'm sure everything's going to be ok. But if the worst happens, at least we know we can make a baby".

It was like hearing you guys. That's when I realised how much I must have talked about you and how much he'd listened.

Pregnancy test at the GP was still positive and the bleeding stopped. She examined me, and thinks the baby'll be ok but I need a scan tomorrow to check its implanted in the right place.

This afternoon, we've done nice countryside things that always cheer us up. I feel like you've all helped me remember the best coping mechanisms for handling this. So thank you.

Sorry for the very long post, all about me. Love you all.

Sorry to hear you've had a scary time @ChaosMoon, sending love and best wishes for tomorrow xx 💜

Poor you @ChaosMoon what a scary time but you seem to be doing so well dealing with it all. Sending you extra positive thoughts today and hope you're feeling ok xx

Oh @ChaosMoon I got all teary reading that. Glad the GP thought it'll be OK. And so glad that DH was there for you and you got to spend a nice afternoon. Please let us know how you get on xx

@KnitKitty glad you got to have a chat with OH. Neither my Oh or me are good at talking but it really helps when we do xx

@VenusStarr I met 2 new babies last week. It was pretty tough but was lovely to see them so happy

Thank you so much ladies. I will do @CookieWaffle. And I hope you're throat is feeling a bit better.

@KnitKitty DH and I have had time where we've got out of kilter. It sucks, but it's so good that you've been able to talk about it. You are so strong, and have such a great outlook. You can get through this together, just as you've got through other tough times in your life.

@VenusStarr I'm glad the wedding was mostly fun. They're always emotional though and seeing those babies will have drawn on that as well as all the crazy ttc emotions. I hope you've had a nice day distracting yourself from it.

@TedLife I hope you've refound your positivity this evening - and you're managing not to melt!

@Chanel05 I hope you're feeling positive about your new opportunity.

Baby dust to one and all.

Hi all,

I'm sorry I've been away so long. I'll have a read through in a bit.

My only news is I am about to enter the 2WW (lots of BDing past few days) and we are on holiday from Weds and it's all inclusive with alcohol included. Do I take advantage and enjoy our holiday with the free booze? Or put my life on hold 'just in case'?
I don't even know for sure if I am entering the 2WW or if I'm already on it or what. I'm just going by what my apps say (based on a 40 day cycle) - but with PCOS who knows! I might not even be anywhere near the 2WW. It is all a complete mystery really.

@KnitKitty I didn't read your message fully before. Sorry to hear AF finally turned up but also i hope you feel some relief that you're on to a new cycle finally. That was some wait though, i'm sure it's been so difficult for you. I take a break from that other thread around my AF time too each month, it's quite emotionally charged there and I feel I need to use that time to focus on reigniting my motivation and positivity for a new cycle which isn't easy to do when others are (rightly) airing their own stresses and frustrations. Totally understand you taking a break too. Hope you're doing better today.

Today's affirmation: "Each day I feel more peaceful and in control"

Happy Monday ladies xx