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16 months TTC

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Booksandstuff · 04/06/2018 05:15

Hi all. Have been TTC for about 16 months now. Just got my period and feeling really rubbish. Is anybody else in the same boat?
We've had tests done and nothing has been picked up, so guess we've just got to keep going. It's hard! Any tips, moans or thoughts welcome. Smile

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Mellp · 04/06/2018 08:02

Hi.
Don’t really have any tips for you but we’ve been TTC#2 for 16 months. This last period hit me hard and I was really down. We’re currently waiting on DH SA results so I guess we will take it from there.
Every month that goes by, I seem to get a little bit less hopeful that it will ever happen but I still keep trying! It’s hard not to let it take over your life!

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Booksandstuff · 04/06/2018 12:56

Hi Mellp. Sorry you're going through this too. How long did it take for you to conceive no. 1?
This is no. 1 for me. I never imagined it would be so difficult. I have really long cycles so I think that's part of the problem. I'm going to give it another few months before going back to the gynaecologist for next steps.
Totally agree about it taking over your life. It's tedious and stressful at the same time. Sending good vibes your way.

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Mellp · 04/06/2018 14:09

It took us around 5 months to conceive DD so I, foolishly, thought it would be around the same this time.
I also have long cycles, they are averaging out to around 37 days now, which as you say makes it very tedious!
Do you use OPKs or chart your BBT? I have started doing these for the last few months. It’s nice to know when I ovulate but it’s just another thing to stress about.
Our GP will only do initial investigations, as we already have a child, so I would imagine you’d be offered some more help? May be worth going back and seeing what the options are if you decide to go down that route? Really hope you get your BFP soon

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Booksandstuff · 05/06/2018 02:44

Yep mine averaging around 36 days, but have been anywhere between 28 and 45. So already at a disadvantage having less goes than the regular!
I use OPKs but just the cheap strip ones from Boots. I live outside of the UK and it's expensive to buy the proper kits here but going to the US next week so think I might try to buy something a bit more sophisticated. Haven't charted my BBT but I think I will start now. I worry that, like you say, it's another thing to stress about.
I can't get fertility care where I live on health insurance so we've gone private - it's good because we've had tests done quickly but the cost is racking up. We're meeting with the gynae in Sept to think about doing the IUI.
So I've got two more cycles to go until then. Have decided to change my diet and other things to see if that helps. Hope you get your good news soon too.

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Shorty00 · 10/06/2018 08:51

Hi all, hope it’s ok to join in, it’s my first time posting ever in one of these groups but my therapist recommended it to share my thoughts with others so they don’t eat me up! Smile

TTC first child with DH for 18months (gave up counting the cycles!) We are waiting for his results which keep getting delayed due to poor communication between doctors office and hospital. Confused

My blood work is fine but I know that doesn’t mean anything as they could find something wrong when they investigate further.

Regardless of his results they’re referring us to a specialist.

I’ve just turned 32 and know it’s still early days but I want this more than anything and back in December a friend of ours got a woman he barely knew pregnant (dating a couple of weeks) and now I have to see her pregnant and it drives me crazy!

GL to you all in your journeys, it’s nice to know I am not alone in all this!

MrsRyan15 · 10/06/2018 09:18

Hi @Booksandstuff

I'm in a similar position to you, TTC #1 for just over a year. We had all the tests done and nothing has come up, so need to just keep trying.

It's obviously good news that we're both ok but I was almost hoping that they would find something to explain why it's taking so long!

I'm 37 and dh 38 so feel like time is against us, AF arrived yesterday so another month of disappointment... fingers crossed for next month!!

Nothisispatrick · 10/06/2018 09:22

Don't lose hope! Took us two and half years but I am now naturally pregnant with a healthy baby. No issues were found in any of our tests either, I put it down to the time being right I guess.

Htaylor182 · 11/06/2018 19:06

Hey guys! Jumping on the post.
Glad I've found people in the same situation, as sometimes it feels like it's just me that it's taking ages to fall pregnant!
We've been ttc for just over a year now. Haven't had anything investigated but I shall be going to the doctors soon I guess, just keep putting it off in the hope something happens. I feel really abnormal. A lot of my friends have gone on to have no 2 you know apparently falling pregnant within a month or missing a pill etc. Some can be really not nice and keep going on about how am I not pregnant yet but reading everyone on here it sounds like it's not uncommon.
We are trying for no 2. I fell really quickly first time around so assumed it would be the same this time around but nope. Wishing you guys all the best ✨

MrsRyan15 · 13/06/2018 10:23

Congratulations @Nothisispatrick that's great news and a bit of hope for all of us that feel like it's never going to happen.

How does everyone cope with the monthly ups and downs of getting your hopes up and the disappointment when AF arrives?

Im trying to remain positive and not think about it too much but it's so hard!

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