The Good, The Bad and The Yams!

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CALLING ALL YAMMER'S!

Yammer rules:

A safe place for those of you who have been trying to conceive for 6+ months and even yams aren’t helping. Come and have a good ol’ bitch and a moan without judgement. Please read the rules before posting!

The Yam Commandments are as follows;

• Thou shalt not arrive one day and post BFP next day

• Thou shalt not give advice to others when TTC for one month only

• Thou shalt not participate in one-up-manship and realise TTC is shit for everyone in different ways

• Thou shall allow posters to be fucked off with the world and everything in it at regular points in the month

• Thou shalt not be offended by strong language

• Thou shalt not tell everyone to eat yams

• Thou shall accept being called a muppet for testing at 7dpo at 9pm at night

And most importantly...

• Thou shalt not symptom spot during the two week wait and must be prepared for a telling off if you do so.

NEW RULE ALERT!

-Thou shalt not post pictures of positive pregnancy tests. We will be delighted to hear about it but no photos, please and thank you

@BGDino did you have any symptoms different from normal? Not that I need anything more to get my hopes up 😂. FP due tomorrow for me...

@BGDino that's fab news. Congratulations!

@BGDino congratulations hun, just the news I think we all needed to hear a yammer bfp! So pleased to see this xx

I was going to wait to write a longer post as have not posted in a while, need to catch up.

Will write a quick one to say BGDino congratulations!! wonderful news XXXX

FP arrived. Bang on time, which I suppose is good. I'm so pissed off!

Thank you everyone :)

@chooklass nothing except mild nausea, which I knew I wasn't imagining because I always got similar nausea when my psychiatrist started me on new medications so I was like "hmmm...feels familiar... but I've been on the same meds for months... HMMMM..."

Hoping to ask the fertility nurse approximately how many weeks I actually am when she calls with follow up bloods tomorrow - not sure how you calculate it with ovulation induction and Dr Google and a reproductive endocrinology e-textbook didn't help!

We may have a new Prime Minister in Australia by the next time you guys read this... another leadership spill.

Go Dino! Very pleased to see some bloody luck on this thread it's about time. Let's have a few this month! Come find us on the grads thread when you are ready.

Congrats Dino! Nice to hear some positive news 😊

OH and I had our appointment today and we are getting a referral for IVF, so the ball is officially rolling 😊 Just got to wait for a letter from the clinic

Gah @Chooklass I'm sorry about FP! I remember trying to console myself last month that I'd managed a 28 day cycle for once but it was a crap consolation for getting FP. I've started spotting already at cd20 thos cycle and I'm off to stay with preggers friend's for 2 nights tomorrow. Eek I'm kinda dreading it... want to be a good friend and ask how she's feeling but also not sure I can cope with hearing it all. Must channel self focus!!

That's exciting @FairyAnn! Really hope you don't have to wait long.

Thanks @Booksandbaths1. Yesterday was thoroughly miserable as usual. Seemed a bit worse as it was last chance I had to be a Mum before I'm 38. Not sure why these stupid deadlines appear in my head- not helpful 😂. Had a good sleep and feel a bit better this morning. I always sleep better after FP arrives - think hormones must settle a bit? Wishing you strength for your visit! 💪

Hi everyone.. sorry for being absent.. things have been awful.. truly awful over here. :( Im so thankful for my "talking sessions" with my counsellor.. otherwise im sure i would have had an emotional breakdown.

I'v had to take myself out of a load of groups on Facebook because my time line just seems to be FULL of positive pregnancy tests... and Im not sure I can face seeing them anymore. (Sounds silly i know.. but im so fed up of this all.)

Also.. we think someone in the family is "accidentally" pregnant which is also peeing me off..

saying that @BGDino Im genuinely happy for you. its a bit different when a yammer gets their positive.

Welcome @Symptomspotter.

Maybe I should have continued with the radio silence because im not a happy bunny. LOL sorry for bringing the mood of this thread down again.

@pink it doesn’t sound silly at all to remove yourself from things like Facebook groups. I couldn’t hack all the perfect mothers bullshit and have left it completely- it wasn’t doing me any good constantly comparing myself to others and their children! I’m so pleased you have your counsellor, I think it should be mandatory when you’re TTC as it’s such a head fuck! Wishing you strength 💪💐

Sorry @chooklass. I’m due Tuesday and pretty sure FP will arrive- still have really sore boobs and spots. Just want to get that deluded false hope out of my system and start FP already!

Good luck @books that’s a tough few days. You can do it! 💐

You’ve reminded me @fairyann to chase my ivf funding as we’re on that path now too.

@pinkemi I completely understand, sometimes is just too painful to see (what feels like) everyone becoming pregnant so easily when it feels forever away personally. Sending big hugs! What I would say tho is what people post and reality are usually miles apart.

Bit of a question to all, how long have you waited before trying to get Ivf? I'm wondering whether it just isn't going to happen for us and whether it might be an avenue to explore, altho my bmi is so high I'd probably be excluded

@LexieJean exactly.. smug mothers with their perfect lives. gah! but i know.. I know that what you see on facebook isnt the whole picture. Some people could have been struggling just as long as we have.. we just dont know! But its too painful to keep seeing all those + signs when i have never even had a small glimmer of one showing up for myself.. you know?

I'm actually seeing a counsellor for other reason.. but its such a relief to finally talk face to face to someone about all this TTC bull. And she is helping me by trying to provide coping strategies.

@Symptomspotter we are just looking into IVF now after trying for 16 cycles. We are having to go private though as NHS wont allow us to have it due to my BMI being over 30. I would check what your local area allows your BMI to be. The private clinic we are looking at wont let us have IVF with a BMI of over 35. im 34.4 at the moment so i need to be careful that I dont put on any more!

We are having a consultation in the first week of September.. with the hope that they will allow us to start in October.

@pinkemi I totally understand and don't feel bad for having a moan here ever - that's what this space is for. I've done so much 'hiding/snoozing' of folk on fb that I'm surprised there's anyone left on mine now.

I'm feeling upset and hacked off too. Seems like this is one of my weird short cycles as FP seems imminent (cd22). The past few days with babies and now my pregnant friend combined with pms isn't making me feel good (hence insomnia & 4am post!). Plus hycosy appmt date next month and now this short cycle rules out that cycle for trying and yet I wanted 2 more goes before moving to ivf. We likely won't be eligible for nhs cycle til march'19 so are looking to fund privately oct/nov to fit in with work. Oh and dh said today if a few cycles of ivf don't work for us maybe we just need to accept it and move on with our lives. Ugh feeling crap. Hope other yammers are having cheerier weekends. 🌻

@Pinkemi oh I totally understand the FB thing, I deactivated mine two weeks ago because it was too hard getting random b-bombs in my newsfeed and doing bad things to my mental health. Still haven’t gone back TBH.

Got cramps yesterday which totally freaked me out, but fertility nurse said not to panic. Think they actually felt worse than they were as haven’t had actual cramps since before going on the Pill 13 years ago! No bleeding though. BHCG doubled nicely from 66 on Wednesday to 120. Have been told to take it easy and rest this weekend so spending the whole day napping snuggled up to hubby while he sleeps for night shift seems totally justifiable

Glad everything’s ok @dino

No more waiting for me- harsh cramping and FP started this morning. It’s 3 days earlier than expected so does that mean I got my ov date wrong? I used opks but still doubt them. At least I can have a coffee and hit the sales this long weekend! 🙄

Congratulations @BGDino !! So pleased to read your update.

Going to do some reading back to catch up on everything. I have an appt at the fertility clinic on Weds. I've been feeling quite unwell generally the last year and my GP agreed to put me on metformin to see if that helps (given recent PCOS diagnosis) both normal health wise and fertility wise. The side effects are grim and it makes me feel horrid though. Bit nervous about the appt on Weds but will have to see what the plan is then.

Congratulations Dino!

I haven’t posted on this thread for ages because I’ve almost given up. It’s been almost 2.5 years of trying and I can’t take much more. I’m 41 so I think I have to accept it. I won three months of Proceive so once that’s done then so am I.

@sparkwoodand21 ohh i think thats what ive just ordered from holland and Barrett. Is it any good?

Sorry to hear you feel like you wanna give up. :-(

@OrcinusOrca I lasted barely 72 hours on metformin - at a dose of 500mg daily! I had such bad cramps and diarrhoea the only way to tolerate the drug was not to eat anything... did wonder if that's how it makes you lose weight, by forcing you to fast! Hope appointment on Wednesday goes well.

@SparkwoodAnd21 sending you hugs

I'm having another blood test tomorrow morning (reassurance bloods I guess, the nurse offered when I rang about the cramping), also need to go see my GP and make an appointment with my psych as yesterday my normal hand tremors got noticeably much worse, along with feeling generally shaky and lethargic... all symptoms of mild lithium toxicity so I've spent the weekend resting, drinking lots of water and NOT taking my lithium. (Also thank goodness for ED doctor friends who answer texts about what to do for that on a Saturday night!)

Pinkemi no idea if it’s any good. I started on it a couple of weeks ago. There are men’s ones and women’s ones in the box and so far DP has taken one tablet.

A bittersweet update - my 92 year old grandfather died just after midnight Hong Kong time. I found out when I woke up this morning. It turns out that the last conversation we had together, last Tuesday night, when I told him I was pregnant, was really the last time he was completely lucid. After that the uraemia from his failing kidneys kicked in. As I mentioned before I think, we weren't even supposed to have found out until the Friday, and by then he may not have understood what was being told to him. My husband said that maybe this is a sign that this baby really is meant to be - I hope so.

@spark my oh is about as good with his pre-conception tabs 🙄

@dino that is bittersweet. Even though it wasn’t a shock I’m sure you feel sad, I hope his last few weeks were as painless as they could be. 🤞 for you and the bean

@Chooklass I know what you meant about the hormones thing, mine take a nose dive after af starts so not picking up again

@Pinkemi sending lots of hugs but I must admit seeing a counsellor is on my mind again now

@BGDino aww hun if everything does happen for a reason then I truly believe your husband as well, it's funny when these things happen (sorry I didn't mean that to come across insensitive)

So I've decided not to join the bus this month seeing so many young not trying for long bfp's is starting to get me down majorly, I have had so many tantrums this month to dp I'm surprised he's still even here! Anyway onto cycle 21 now. I said to do he has definately got to go for his testing now as I NEED to know what next steps we can take. If it's the IVF route we need to start saving and we can't do that till at least the new year so I can take some time off ttcing if necessary. So here I am cycle day 8 sore nipples lol! Ordered a new pack of opk tests and thinking of getting the lube again this month! Good luck all x