The Good, The Bad and The Yams!

[LookingAtTheStars89]

CALLING ALL YAMMER'S!

Yammer rules:

A safe place for those of you who have been trying to conceive for 6+ months and even yams aren’t helping. Come and have a good ol’ bitch and a moan without judgement. Please read the rules before posting!

The Yam Commandments are as follows;

• Thou shalt not arrive one day and post BFP next day

• Thou shalt not give advice to others when TTC for one month only

• Thou shalt not participate in one-up-manship and realise TTC is shit for everyone in different ways

• Thou shall allow posters to be fucked off with the world and everything in it at regular points in the month

• Thou shalt not be offended by strong language

• Thou shalt not tell everyone to eat yams

• Thou shall accept being called a muppet for testing at 7dpo at 9pm at night

And most importantly...

• Thou shalt not symptom spot during the two week wait and must be prepared for a telling off if you do so.

NEW RULE ALERT!

-Thou shalt not post pictures of positive pregnancy tests. We will be delighted to hear about it but no photos, please and thank you

Hi ladies! Hope everyone is doing well. I'm in a much better place this week I have been dieting (keto diet, aparently good for hormones) and so my moods are overall better. I think I'm around 10dpo now but just riding out this month as we have so much on not ttc related! Booked a holiday for a week in the lake district and can't wait hoping the sun stays till August!

How is everyone? Xx

Hey ladies! So sorry to hear about the poss endo/cysts/tracking stress/ill grandparents (me too on that one though luckily they're in UK so easier travel wise).
Personally I stopped bbt and detailed tracking about 5 months ago as it was causing me way more anxiety and extra upset when FP arrived. I now sometimes use opks around the right time to pinpoint ov if its helpful for docs info (eg 21 day test) but otherwise just aim for sex eod in fw. And I use a v basic period tracker app called Woman Log. Rather unromantically I draw a squiggly line in our kitchen calendar to indicate fw so hubby knows when it's business time 😆

Hearing other folk are taking a step back from all the tracking is making me feel a bit better. Haven’t done an OPK for a couple of months, just plotting the very basic info in Ovia and trying to go with the flow more. Hoping that less stressing about tiny details will help us chill and hit the jackpot. Fingers crossed for you all too! 🤞🏼

@books I love the wiggly line idea! Even though we’ve been through it a million times my OH doesn’t get that fw is a WHOLE week- perhaps this would help him! 😂

@owlpatrol how "keto" are you going? Ive been trying to cut down on carbs as heard its better for fertility.. but dunno how low is low enough you know?

Anyone got an ava bracelet? I keep looking at it and thinking should i get one. There is a testimonial from a lady who had been trying for 11 months (about the same as me) and is now pregnant. Just.. very expensive!!

@Pinkemi aparently under 20g I think I am doing about 30 so pretty well done. It's easier as dp is doing it with me

@owlpatrol oh man.. thats hard! I struggle to stay below 50g most days.. but then i love fruit.

@Pinkemi ah yeah it's hard for sure! Breakfast is the hardest for me as I love granola and I'm bored of eggs now!

@LexieJean ha yes I find the squiggly line helps us avoid the unromantic 'we best have sex tonight' chat as we both know to make the effort. Though I have the opposite problem in that my dh can't understand why we aren't having sex every few days throughout the whole month 😂 He read it on nhs website and thinks it must therefore be adhered to. Wishful thinking 😉

@Books hubby is also keen on the “sex every few days the whole month” thing, even after we found out I’m not ovulating, he’s like... “but we can keep trying... just in case, right...?”

Hi ladies :-) just popping back on the say I'm still keeping an eye on the thread and I'm keeping my fingers crossed for you all

@owlpatrol and @LookingAtTheStars89 all of the data is pushing me towards a keto lifestyle... you would think i would just pull my finger out and do it! lol

I was trying to follow the 8 week blood sugar diet from Michael Mosley.. where you eat 800 calories a day low carb... could i stick to it?! Could I hell! I just found it so damn hard when my OH was eating potatos and rice etc. (Although research shows that men could do with being on a low carb diet too... I need to find more research to convince him of that. )

My snacking issue has gotten better.. i dont have that urge anymore like i used to.

I guess its just all about planning.. I need to just get on with it.

I can't give up my opks and bbt thermometer! I said a few times I would but actually I think I find it reassuring that I'm still ovulating and when as the date varies, and my temp seems to start dropping a few days before af which gives me and Dh time to accept it hasn't worked before Af comes. Also, our sex drives and energy are far too low to be doing eod throughout the month!!

@Pinkemi sorry for late reply. Yep I've lost 5 pounds in 2 weeks now so I'm feeling good however have woken up with a sore head this morning from a night of wine so maybe not so good this week. But I'll report back. The hardest day was today trying all my might not to eat a bacon sandwich! Anyways how's everyone doing? I've got pre af cramps now and due on next week. I'm really annoyed because the friend I opened up to keeps pressuring me for more testing but life gets in the way. I'll go back to the doctor when I'm ready and dp still needs to get his S.A. done so my mission this month is to get him booked in. We're at different doctors so it's a bit tricky. Anyways lovely to hear from @LookingAtTheStars89 hope you are doing well.

Plans for next cycle....have sex more....as only managed once in fw! Argh, life is so hectic sometimes

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@Rubberduckies our sex drives have been low too and I am hoping the diet will help. We fancy each other obviously but dtd is often the last things on our minds. Any tips?

Totally depressing thought: this fw is/was my last chance to conceive before I’m 36. I get so annoyed with these stupid milestones I set myself but this just dawned on me. OH out drinking with a friend he never sees- totally crap timing as my opk line just appeared 🤬

I’m very impressed with those of you kicking sugar. Bravo!

Oh and we totally don’t have the drive for eod!

I sympathise @LexieJean, my last chance before 36 is next month and I just don't see it happening naturally for us.

Hey Yammers. Still here, just been taking a bit of time-out from ttc (as had hsg last cycle so couldn't). It's been nice having a month off from it all! Back in the game again now. Good on those of you kicking sugar out! I've been low sugaring (most of time) since finding out I had PCOS back in March - feel so much better for it (but it's still tough!)

Arrrrggghhh spent the day playing phone tag with the nurses from my fertility clinic to get instructions for starting ovulation induction, between going to their voicemail and not being able to get to my phone in time at work (started new job today so super busy getting oriented etc; and also feeling like a complete fish out of water) I didn’t get to speak to them. I know it’s only one more day but I’m so impatient to get on with it, it feels like the universe is punishing me for something I’ve done by not letting me be able to have children. I also didn’t go to see my best friend’s new baby over the weekend because I didn’t think I could handle it. So I’m an awful friend too. Each day I think the chances of me falling pregnant before the end of the year get more remote, and I can’t explain why I have this feeling that the ovulation induction isn’t going to work. /endrant

Can you please tell me how you all cope, I honestly feel like I’m losing it.

@dino I’m loosing it today. Finally got appointment at fertility clinic and of course it’s bang in the middle of the day. Great for my new job- trying to rearrange it but if I go back on the waiting list it could be more months waiting. Even more annoying because it’s not test results or anything it’s just simply to check if my OH has stopped smoking and then a referral for ivf. We will be in there for 5mins!! It’s not even the first ivf appointment.
Plus I’m super frustrated with said OH (and sleep deprived thanks to his ungodly hour home) as he STILL seems to think it’s only going to take the once during Fw. I feel like I’m going to scream today!!!!

Sorry, no advice @dino. How annoying to have that phone tag and be concentrating on a new job! Keep on keeping on?

@BGDino oooh how did your first day go?

I'm feeling frustrated and in pregnant. I also put on weight this weekend probably from drinking far too much wine but with Af next week I'm not surprised. However I have kept to the diet apart from the wine all weekend! I'm feeling a bit frustrated with dp he needs to have his sperm tested and it's like he won't entertain the idea. I've tried miss nice guy so I'm going to have to force him!

@Owlpatrol. Hey :-) Nice work on the weight loss! I'm doing ok, going for a scan at the epu tomorrow so I'm quite nervous about that . I've been really dizzy lately so I went to the Drs this evening and both of my ears are severely blocked which sucks!

@LookingAtTheStars89 oh no I had this ticking in my ears for about 2 weeks a while ago. So annoying! Good luck tomorrow chick xx

@BGDino you are NOT a bad person for not being able to see your mates new baby. We need to stop beating ourselves up for how we feel. We're going through really hard times and understandably feel upset by triggers like baby bombs/pregnant friends/new babies etc. I've plucked up the courage to see a pregnant friend for the 1st time today and I'm dreading it and will keep it short. But I feel that's ok. I want to be a supportive friend to her but I just can't atm. I think it's normal for some days to be worse than others. I've been feeling really anxious about things but again, considering what we're all going through I think that's to be expected. So big hugs all round. I find making fun plans, exercise and talking it over with a few close friends helps me cope a bit better day to day. Thinking as ivf approaches though I may see a counsellor.

@Chooklass was your hsg via fert clinic or nhs? Was it after a referral? I've not had a tubes test and unsure why not.

@LexieJean gah that is annoying re the appmt. Can you pull a sicky or say uv got an outpatients appmt? We're waiting on our fertility referral appointment but got told it might take months.

Update - turns out I needed an appointment to speak to the nurses, and the first call I got was to book in. Had they actually explained that at the first call I wouldn’t have been trying to get hold of the nurses, who probably didn’t call me back as I hadn’t got to that stage yet. So blood test tomorrow morning at 7am, then phone appointment with the nurses at 12pm. @LexieJean I reckon if someone opened up a fertility clinic operating outside of office hours they wouldn’t be short of business and we’d be so much less stressed! @Owlpatrol feels like being the new girl at school, can’t remember anyone’s names or what they do or how to get from building to building. At least I know my boss! (from a previous job)