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The Good, The Bad and The Yams!

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LookingAtTheStars89 · 31/05/2018 18:08

CALLING ALL YAMMER'S!

Yammer rules:

A safe place for those of you who have been trying to conceive for 6+ months and even yams aren’t helping. Come and have a good ol’ bitch and a moan without judgement. Please read the rules before posting!

The Yam Commandments are as follows;

  • Thou shalt not arrive one day and post BFP next day
  • Thou shalt not give advice to others when TTC for one month only
  • Thou shalt not participate in one-up-manship and realise TTC is shit for everyone in different ways
  • Thou shall allow posters to be fucked off with the world and everything in it at regular points in the month
  • Thou shalt not be offended by strong language
  • Thou shalt not tell everyone to eat yams
  • Thou shall accept being called a muppet for testing at 7dpo at 9pm at night

And most importantly...

  • Thou shalt not symptom spot during the two week wait and must be prepared for a telling off if you do so.

NEW RULE ALERT!

-Thou shalt not post pictures of positive pregnancy tests. We will be delighted to hear about it but no photos, please and thank you

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LexieJean · 04/07/2018 20:03

Hi there @herewegoagain Spunds like you’ve had a rollercoaster ride so far. Hope you find some relief/solace here.

herewegoagain18 · 04/07/2018 20:05

Hi LexieJean (waves)
Thankyou and hope things are going ok for you? Xx

herewegoagain18 · 04/07/2018 20:22

Hello to unicorn234

Was the first test a frer (first responce early results)? As it depends on the mul of the test (the amount needed to detect hcg) if it picks up a positive or not.

A frer is only 12.miu

Clearblue digitals are usally a minimum of 25miu (so more hcg needed to detect pregnancy). Unless the new rapid responce one which i dont think are readily avaliable.

Digitals are known for not showing positives early as usally higher miu.

Heres a link which shows a poster on another forums experience and some of the well known brands info
community.babycentre.co.uk/post/a726605/sensitivity_of_pregnancy_tests

Hopefully this helps and you get a stronger positive when its not so early. Good luck

Xx

Unicorn234 · 04/07/2018 20:42

@herewegoagain18 hi thanks for getting back to me. My first test was a clear blue early detection one. I've read alot of bad reviews about them having evaporation lines but my line came up pretty much straight away even though it is faint. I'm hoping it's not an evap line 🤞

herewegoagain18 · 04/07/2018 21:32

Hi unicorn

Ah yes i have heard the same i didnt want to mention evap though at this stage and cause you more confusion . Can you get another test that is pink dye? If its an evap it tends to occur more with blue dyes than pink

The key to knowing if its evap is if the line is very thin and lacking in colour? If its thick and has some colour usally its not an evap though it can be a positive still if thin !.

I would say get another pink dye test to rule out all the guesswork xx

Unicorn234 · 04/07/2018 21:38

Yes I think I might get a pink dye test... the line is faint but it's blue so I guess time will tell x

herewegoagain18 · 04/07/2018 21:50

Ok fingers crossed for you xx

Booksandbaths1 · 05/07/2018 08:21

Ugh FP has arrived just as expected today. I find the disappointment even worse on cycles when I know we timed it well. I often feel sick on the first day of FP too... I guess hormone drop combined with the dread of another cycle ahead to navigate. Hope you ladies are faring better this week.

Pinkemi · 05/07/2018 13:09

FP has started here too as expected. Felt so down in the dumps about it, i called in sick to work as cant stop crying. This whole thing sucks. :-( i wish i had the sort of relationship with my boss that i could talk to her about these sorts of things, but she doesnt have a lot of empathy.

LexieJean · 05/07/2018 13:13

Sorry to hear that @books and @pink get yourselves a nice treat and look after yourself.

I’m just booking me and OH a fancy dinner date for my next optimal fw in a deluded desperate hopeful attempt to get us both feeling romantic. Well probably just eat and drink too much to have any sex but I’ve got to try!

herewegoagain18 · 05/07/2018 14:18

Hi pinkemi

Im new here . im sorry you are feeling so down i know that crushing feeling oh so well. Im also sorry you have not got an understanding boss . I kept it from work when i had ivf (god knows how i managed that) as they just were not sympathetic to anything . Hope you feel a little better soon xxx

Pinkemi · 05/07/2018 14:33

Thanks @herewegoagain18. How did you sort out all the appointments without letting work know? Ive been googling this today actually.. incase we decide on this route.

Lilypad15 · 05/07/2018 14:35

Oh no Unicorn! Six months of trying, it must seem like a lifetime. I can definitely imagine your frustration. Personally in my 20+ months of trying, I have not seen that much-awaited second line so I can’t really relate to what you’re going through, honestly. However in my almost-2-years of trying (and failing) and mooching around this forum like a sad clown, I have come to find it is extremely common knowledge that digital tests are not as sensitive as FRER’s. I have also learnt in my time as a conception veteran that testing so far ahead of your expected period date is just a no-go. But despite my wailing in despair at people on here, nobody listens to me. Maybe infertile people make no sound, like if a tree falls in the forest but nobody is around to hear it.

Anyway, if you got a line on a FRER then you’re pregnant. Take another if your womb seems to be taking a vaycay come Sunday when it’s supposed to be doing a spring clean of all that useless non-preggo lining but I’m sure there will be another line there for you. Just don’t use a blue dye (I know, I know, I’m being super boring with my ttc knowledge, I just can’t help myself). Blue dyes are the work of the devil himself. Mind you, I’ve never even got a pretend line on one of them, bummer for me really.

But I digress, congrats-a-mondo and enjoy the next 9 months (apart from the nausea and swollen ankles and pissing yourself by accident and then pushing out what is effectively a rubber bowling ball out of your vajayjay like a scene from Alien). Good luck :)

LimpLettice · 05/07/2018 15:04

I'm shrieking :) of all the threads...

Sounds difficult Pink are you sure she might not be supportive? A lot of women I know have had issues but never talked about them.

I have been off here for ages but am sorry for all the FPs everywhere. Herewego sorry you find yourself here but this thread has been totally a godsend as Books and Lexie say. No judgement, no bastard bfp pix from new posters who have been ttc for 7 minutes, and plenty of understanding. Except if you pee on a blue dye at 10pm 7 days before FP. Then there is judging. Coz we have all done it Grin

Pinkemi · 05/07/2018 15:19

@limpLettice its difficult.. we have never really had a very good relationship.. and only now do i feel like things are sorta working (will see how she is with me tomorrow at work.)

Problem is i know shes a terrible gossip.. another girl was off recently and i was like "is she okay?" and i was basically told pretty much everything that was going on. :-/ did not fill me with confidence i can assure you!!

LimpLettice · 05/07/2018 15:58

Ah. Well, Pink, if she gossips I wouldn't bother. Tell her you have a gynae issue maybe but just some tests, nothing conclusive. Might shut her up. I never understand how people like that end up in management - I have done it for years and years and end up being like their mum half the time - I find people perform at a better level when they feel supported personally as well as in the role but there you go.

herewegoagain18 · 05/07/2018 17:25

Books i thought i posted a reply to you just seen it seems to have got lost? My phone had been freezing up.

Ah im sorry FP arrived Sad

I remember that feeling when you think you have timed it all right that month and given it your best shot, then still FP turns up. It adds to the crushing dissapointment.

I also get the sickness the first couple of days amongst many other lovely symptoms. As you say its probably also the dread of another month of all this.

You have my sympathys FlowersWineCake xxxc

LexieJean · 05/07/2018 17:53

Nice to hear from you @limp How are you getting on?

herewegoagain18 · 05/07/2018 17:56

Hi Limplettice (love the user name!)

Thankyou for the hi and ressurance.

I have long given up poas, just wait for FP to turn up each month. After over 2 and a half years ttc ( resuned after break due to Fp ,have endo) I had to give that up to protect my sanity along with opks and timing. It was a relief when i was refferd for ivf as felt i could just focus on getting towards the treatment, it took the pressure off.

Now back ttc naturally opks arrived yesterday hopefuly the ttc crazyness dosent set back in again Grin i will be prepared to get a telling off if i do slip xxxx

herewegoagain18 · 05/07/2018 18:02

Meant to tag you in bold Limp xx

Booksandbaths1 · 05/07/2018 18:28

@limp ah you sound like an awesome manager - I wish we all had someone so caring. I agree that the 'gynae tests' is a good thing to say.
@pink sorry that FP arrived for you too hun. I have kept it together all day, just got home and had a cry.

Thank you ladies for your support. I think I might go back to no opks for a bit to help chill myself out. Though I've done this ttc lark long enough now that I can tell the right time anyway. Feckin cervical mucas, I wish it would sod back off up my vj sometimes.

LexieJean · 05/07/2018 19:15

Hahaha! @books I know what you mean- I can tell now anyway without the bloody opks. Not sure I could ever forget and just have sex for fun!

SoozC · 05/07/2018 19:19

Sorry to hear about fp arriving, Pink and Books. I know how utterly destroying it can be after so long trying.

Thank god for the Yammers - they got me through many a hard time in the last year. Really hoping good news and happier times are on their way to you all x

LimpLettice · 05/07/2018 21:21

Hey Lexie. Doing pretty good although struggling with the heat a bit. We have no air con in a packed office and it's torture at the mo. For everyone of course but I'm suffering more than most. Still lurking away Smile

Ah Books I'm sure they moan about me too, but we have a really low staff turnover for what we do which saves me oodles of time recruiting and training. Also I spend more time with these people than my family, how can you not care?

I second Sooz, the yammers are over due a good few bfps now, everything crossed for a better month for all 🤞🏻

LexieJean · 06/07/2018 08:38

Good to hear @limp God this heat in non air conditioning is tough. It’s just so airless as there’s no breeze!

@pink I’m going to go with a vague ‘gynaecologist’ issue as I’ve just started a new job and although I think my manager would be understanding I’m still on probation and unproven in my role. Although it might be a few months more before the ivf appointment anyway as when I called I got put on a waiting list.