Any older ladies? I'm 46 and really want another baby, too old?

[LavendarLove]

So I thought my childbearing days were over, I'm 46 have 3 children the youngest is 5, recently I have been really yearning for another baby but have to be realistic I'm getting on! Really interested in any success stories, all I read is soon and gloom x

Oh Lavender go for it then! I know my DH would be over the moon if I said yes to one more. Go on do it for all us scaredy cats!

Sister just had her first at 46, I think she is mad, but go for it if you want! Don't underestimate the exhaustion of menopause! (I'm 47) a baby and that DON'T go!

Well older women than you have had babies so it's not out of the question. But do you really want to be doing the baby stage again at 47 and chasing after a toddler / threenager at nearly 50? If you want it, why not try though. Nature wants what it wants.

@danTDM is your sister happy and coping well? Omg not looking forward to the menopause tho 😲

No to both Perimenpause strikes late 40's, it's a bugger.

@Ninchninch life is so short to have regrets I know it's now it never, if nature is on my side 🙂

Ot was a surprise accident! First baby! Not trying at all, not in a relationship.

Well, go for it, no reason not to. Just that I wouldn't. Had DD at 37, that was perfect for me. At 47 with a 10 yo, I'm exhausted, yet the hard work is done really! 47 with a baby, I'd also grate my face off!

I had dc over 4 decades!! Last ds at 43! Ttc again but mc 4 days before my 45 birthday.
47 this year and although blood tests show I have about a year of fertility left I have accepted it isn't to be sadly.
Good luck to you op.

Sorry to put a downer on things, but my mum had me at 46 . I’ve just got back from changing her nappy for the umpteenth time today, telling her I’m her daughter ( she is bed bound, double incontinent and has dementia) I adore her, but this is not the life envisaged in my mid forties, with an adult dc of my own. I have become a carer when I should be getting my freedom back to some extent.

Thanks everyone sometimes I just need to be brought back down to earth lol! Although i am lucky to be fit and healthy for my age, had an extremely stressful job which I have recently left to be with my daughter more I have to make the right decision, ultimately the best decision one that I won't regret, jeez life's a bitch sometimes lol x

How resilient are you? Realistically about 80% of mid-40s pregnacies are miscarried.

My story is that for my second pregnancy (age 33) I was effectively told I had miscarried and had to wait for the confirmation. And then they found a heartbeat. Which is now ds and my family is complete.

But whilst waiting for the confirmation of the miscarriage I vowed that I would never put myself through it again and I also realised that I didn’t think my 10 year marriage would survive it. And I went a bit loopy for the rest of the pregnancy and so can’t really remember my lovely older child as a 2 year old at all. Which is something I can never get back.

So I would never put myself through a pregnancy where the odds were stacked against me but that is because of knowing my own personality.

OP come and join us on the ttc over 40 board if you decide to go for it. There are quite a few of us ttc number 1,2,3 and more. Some of us are in our early 40s but others are mid 40s.

@gottachangethename1 I'm so sorry to hear that! Life is so cruel 😣

@littlemimosa thank you so much for that!

@mumoftwoyoungkids yes very resilient I've had 3 miscarriages in my 30s and that was awful, miscarried twins on the last one. When you think about how amazing being pregnant is and how a life is made it's surprising there aren't more complications 🙂

I am 47 and not menopausal, but can't imagine having a baby at this age. It really seems very old to have a newborn. I wouldn't want to be a 60 something with a teenager, it doesn't seem right.

A few years ago one of the journalists in the Guardian wrote a weekly column about exactly this. Here is one of them:

www.google.co.uk/amp/s/amp.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2010/jan/09/luisa-dillner-pregnant-older-mum

Others have mentioned that the perimenopause is horrible. Not necessarily. I’m in my early 50s and have not noticed anything. I feel the same as always.

No, my point was at 50, when the baby is 3 she will be menopausal! If not before. Fact. Not fun for anyone. Your energy goes down the pan!

HaHa, just wait! Snookie

I hate the ‘46 is too old to have a newborn’ comments. I mean why? Really? Surely it depends on the person. I’m 42 and look and feel about 30. My yoga teacher is 60 and looks about 40. You should see her do splits and headstands. She’s more gorgeous and vibrant than most women half her age. If your body is capable and you’re youthful and fit why not?! Just because you feel too old does not mean every other woman does. There’s a reason why many women continue to ovulate into their late 40s/50s.

I had my 4th at 39 and am now 45. I am bloody exhausted perimenopause is a problem I would no way have a baby at 46 unless I had no children and was desperate.

I have suddenly become a lot older. At 39 I felt pretty young. I would think very carefully because I feel sorry for my 5 year old sometimes as I just don't have enough energy for her sometimes.

I am taking up yoga as of tomorrow!

At 42 I felt much the same! At 45 I felt much the same. At nearing 48 I do not feel at all feel the same.

The yoga teacher just has time for herself and yoga FFS