TTC after Pregnancy Loss Thread 20 - Fx for 2019 babies

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Another thread for us all - I'm hoping I've got everyone's details in the list below, I copied it from our previous thread.

PassTheAfterEights 33 C6 TTC#1
BadBadBeans 33 C1 TTC#2 (1 cycle ttc pre MC)
hayleyfx 24 C4 TTC#1
Claire138 28 C4 TTC#1
Lovewinemorethanhusband 37 C3 TTC#3
Blondcat 36 C8 TTC#1
Sweetpea0318 38 C1 TTC#2 (7 months TTC pre MC)
Dulwichdays 34 C4 TTC#1 (4 cycles TTC pre MC)
Weasledee C3 TTC#3
BabynameEdie 30 C2 TTC#1
Yellowdaffodils86 31 C2 TTC#1 (1 cycle pre mc)
Boboelephant 35 C4 TTC#2 (9 cycles TTC pre MMC after EP)
Wellthisisunexpected 34 TTC#2 awaiting AF
Sloeberrygin 36 C1 TTC#2
Hidcat 35 C1 TTC#2 (3 Cycles TTC pre MC)
DaisyMay25 27 C8 TTC#1
Rdm10 34 C2 TTC#2
Zarala 36 (to be) TTC#2
SerenaOverjoyed 28 C1 TTC#1 (ttc 1 cycle pre mc)
KnitKitty 30 C1 TTC#1

@toots123 I am so so sorry for your loss. I can't even begin to imagine your pain. Welcome to this lovely group, they have all helped me so much. I hope you get your bfp soon.
@Cakelaur and @YellowDaffodils86 I just don't know. I should wait until at least Thursday which is 12dpo but I do have my gynae appt on Monday and a smear booked for Tuesday. Not sure if I need to know before that? But I get so down when I get a bfn and then af the next day! So maybe I should just wait! Apart from my achy legs my symptoms are less than usual so I hope it's a good sign!! 🤞🤞
@weasledee sorry for the bfn. Hopefully still too soon.
@Martydog holiday sounds like a good idea! @Anyday88 and @Blondcat enjoy your trips too!
@Curlypop fingers crossed! Have you got a pic???
@YellowDaffodils86 I don't worry about alcohol or caffeine in the tww. We've been trying for ages now and trying not to make life totally about ttc so I don't think it's worth worrying. We conceived my DS as a happy surprise and didn't find out til I was already 6 weeks. The doc said you can't do any damage that early until the placenta has developed. I stop completely once I get the bfp.
@L1zz13 when will you get results from the last blood tests?

Ok ladies-gurus of opks, I need your help!

I'm 16 days on from medical management and when I started bleeding for my miscarriage. I had a negative preg test on Tuesday (so 5 days ago) I'm still bleeding but I really want to get to know my cycle and how I feel around ovulation time (was my 1st pregnancy and very much a case of-lets just leave it and see, but after the loss we are desperate to try again so I want to understand a bit more)

So I started testing with one step ovulation tests a few days ago. Tending to test mid/late afternoon (is that right?-is there a better time of day?)

All negative so far (faint pink lines but nothing that looks like a positive according to the packet) - I'm trying to tape them to a bit of card so I can see any progression.

Are the one step ones (see pics) ok to use? Or do I need a different brand? I have a job lot of clear blue digital ones but loathed to use those until I have a bit more understanding about timings as they are so expensive.

Any tips gratefully received! Xxx

@Laney79 I use that brand too and they work just fine. I also don't want to literally pee away my money!
I have found that sometimes the line looks like it's getting darker and then gets lighter and then bam positive! So don't give up! And don't be tempted to believe any line is positive. They do get dark. For me from about 3 days before I'm expecting ovulation I test 2/3 times a day. This is because I often get my positive late at night and it's already lighter the next morning. So if I only tested once a day I'd miss it. I tend to do late morning (if possible- on working days this is not), then 5ish (your time is good) and then before bed. Good luck!

Been away awhile. But about to ovulate I think.

Sorry for your loss toots.

Babydust and crossed fingers for everyone.

@Laney79
I pretty much echo what @Boboelephant has said.
I use boots ov tests, they look exactly the same as yours.
They have had a 3for2 offer for a while now.
I use mine after work around 5pm and sometimes before bed.
I find mine get very close and then suddenly very positive. So the ones that are very close sometimes make me unsure if iv hit surge or not yet.
My positives seem to hang around a good 2-3 days too.
FX crossed you get some +++soon

toots123 So sorry for your loss. TTC again must feel very odd. Wishing you luck.

Cakelaur That's so cute about your husband crying. It must have been so emotional for both of you!

YellowDaffodils86 I personally cut out drinking when I started TTC. I've been drinking again since MC but my anxiety has got a lot worse so I'm stopping again now my period is over. I also don't drink caffeine usually (again, because it affects my anxiety levels). I don't see any harm in drinking alcohol or caffeine in moderation though. I'm pretty sure the baby doesn't get any nutrients directly from the mum in the first month anyway?

Curlypop That's exciting! Photo?

AF is winding down to a close now so I can get on with the BDing again now.
I'm hoping I don't ovulate until next Sunday at least because we have visitors Monday-Saturday and it's going to be impossible to get alone-time and I don't think they'll want to join in! Haha

Ahh willpower test! I've ended up with two free frer's! I feel like this is going to make holding off until 12dpo really damn hard. Hmmmm...... must not test at 8dpo!
she says as she imagines cracking it open

@Boboelephant ohh tough. Iv got two waiting for next week, iv had them since before fw ready for end of tww. So far no urge to do it before 13dpo , we will see.
Iv already been googling tww symptoms 😂🤦🏽‍♀️

Hi Martydog I'm so sorry. I've been thinking of you. I'm glad you're going on holiday, I think it is a great idea. Lots of love xxx

@YellowDaffodils86 well done you for self control. My problem is I already had two. And now I've got two more. So I'm a bit like ooh well they don't count 🤦‍♀️
I also am falling prey to Dr Google!

@toots123 I am so so sorry you find yourself here- I cannot even imagine how difficult that must be- if you ever need to vent or talk about it- we're all here. Sending you lots of 🐧 hugs

@Martydog I ended up having to postpone my holiday over Xmas because of my ERPC- I told my travel insurance and they paid for my new flights. And then when I got to the states A week later, I had an infection and went to hospital - and again my insurers covered everything. But! I don't think you need to tell them anything unless something happens and you need to claim...
@Cakelaur skiing 3 days after ERPC?! Wow! That's hardcore! I was laid up and exhausted and generally feeling awful for about a week after mine! I'm sure it was a great way to get over it tho!

Hope everyone is having a lovely weekend- it's a rainy one for us in London...and for those of you in tww! Strength and patience! 🙌🏽

@Boboelephant i meant i still plan not to test until 13dpo, im only 6dpo so completely no point at the moment, so less willpower needed. I dont know if i will make 13dpo however, but so far feeling like i might manage it.
I wondered if my last post sounded like i had already waited till day13!!?🤷🏻‍♀️
Ahh i see what you mean, yes with 4 that definitely invites the early testing urges. However like you said, that stark white negative is rubbish. Stay strong 💪🏻😂

i have a pic....

is it there? eeeeek - i haven't had a period since mc last month

@Curlypop have you had a bfn since MC?
That's definitely a line!!!

@yellowdaffodils86 yeah i have had 2 - the first was negative a few days after the mc started the next i did when bleeding stopped- i was only 5.5 weeks so i thing the hormone left quickly as it was early

Congratulations looks like you have a new little bean!! I hope its a sticky one!!
Any idea what dpo you are? Howd you feel?

I'm only 10 or 11 ish dpo.
My boobs hurt and have done for a week, and I'm tired but apart from that fine.
I hope its a sticky one too!

Looks like a 10/11dpo line, hopefully gets darker over the next few days!
Aww congrats again, so pleased you got your bfp. 🎉 hoping you have started a trend for May!

@Curlypop yey for the fertility cape! Congratulations!

Yes @Curlypop a great line!!! Massive congrats!!

@YellowDaffodils86 I know. I just can't help myself, I see the tests, I want to pee on them!! 😂
I'll probably wait now until 11dpo but to be honest I'm pretty convinced it's a non starter this month as absolutely no progesterone symptoms except slightly tingly boobs but that seems to be the norm for me after MC.
How you guys doing @YellowDaffodils86 and @Boboelephant ??

@Curlypop awww congrats!!! Here comes Miracle May in all its glory! 💕 so happy for you xx

@Curlypop congratulations!
@cakelaur lovely scan pic, so happy for you.
🤞for many more May miracles!

@toots123 sorry you find yourself here but welcome.)

Not much happening here on Cd10. Nothing but ‘tingly’ boobs but that’s enough to build my hopes up even though that could clearly be nothing. Hate getting my hopes up but hay, it’s all part of the tww crazy!
Af due on Thursday so if it’s not arrived I’ll be joining poas Friday- should be a busy one this week!!

Thanks @YellowDaffodils86. I did know what you mean. I meant you have willpower because I can't even imagine waiting until 13dpo even though I know I should! I decided not to test before af is due as I hate the bfns so much but now I've got 4 frers I feel like they're waiting for me! 🤦‍♀️
@BabynameEdie ticking along as ever. 8dpo, googling far too much, swaying back and forth between being convinced I am and then that I'm not. So standard tww crazy really!
@Curlypop that's a very definite line. Congrats!!