Does anyone actually know in person someone who has conceived naturally at 45?

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I'm 45, have two children aged 3 and 18 months (both conceived naturally when I was 41 and 42) and lets just say we had an irresponsible moment shortly after my last period and now I'm a few days late and too scared to test!

I'm having a HUGE wobble!

I keep telling myself it is very very unlikely because it was very early on in my cycle and chances of conceiving are very very small at 45.

I know I should just find out but haven't got the courage to atm. If I took a test and it was negative it would put my mind at ease but if it's not....oh my gosh.

op - I can imagine it’s quite a shock

My friend conceived naturally first time at 46 and another at 47

OP, I was in your shoes at the age of 45. It was an utter surprise, and not quite the one I wanted. Good luck with whatever you decide

I'm sorry it's not the result you wanted.
Lots of women become pg at this age, some because of the menopause.
It happened to me, but I was early menopause at 37, periods all over the place and I doubted fertility, but it happened.
Ditto to the sweet tea, if you haven't already

Gosh. Take your time to let it sink in and don’t feel too guilty - contraceptive failure and moments of madness happen. We are all human.

Thank you everyone, your kindness and understanding has made me cry x

It's really starting to sink in now and I can't stop crying, it all feels so unreal. I'm so annoyed at myself, we've been so stupid and irresponsible. I never imagined I would end up in this position.

Oh yes - I felt it was unreal too. I couldn't believe it at my age!

What surprised me when I was getting my head around it all was how complicated it all seemed. Nothing about it was black and white. I felt guilt and sadness and yet knew what decision I felt I needed to make. It's so difficult to talk about it too - almost taboo even. My immediate family knows, but no one else.

Go easy on yourselves and take time