TTC after pregnancy loss Thread 19- More cake for more babies

[Boboelephant]

I figured it out!

Hi lovely ladies!

Thought I'd introduce myself, I'm 29 married Mum of 2 DS, 5 & 2.
In January this year We decided to end my pregnancy for our little girl at 16 weeks as she had severe upper limb abnormalities resulting in no arms. We decided to hold off ttc but a little rainbow baby appeared last weekend, my dates were showing me at about 5 weeks. Unfortunately this one has decided to not stick around and I am currently in the middle of what I'm assuming to be a MC.
Totally heartbroken to have a second loss in 3 months but trying to stay positive!

Question i would like to ask is... what do I do now? Do I need to inform my doctors surgery I'm miscarrying? Do I phone the epu and explain the situation and see what they suggest or do I leave it to nature and just treat it as a normal period as such because I was so early on? I have no idea what to do and to be honest if I can get away with not going down the route of explaining to my doctor or anyone else that we've lost another baby that would be more ideal in my eyes! Any advice is much appreciated!

@OntoTheThird I am so so so sorry for your loss. That must have been incredibly hard for you. In regards to your mc there’s no need to do anything unless you are in a lot of pain or bleeding heavily that you think you might need medical opinion. I found this rather hard- as I felt that my mcs didn’t matter or that they would be counted in statistics.

@BabynameEdie that must a hard decision but you need to do what’s right for you and your health.

@zarala how exciting! I'm 27 tomorrow! I'm also testing tomorrow at just 8dpo because I have zero willpower!! Sorry about the due date though, spoil yourself though!

Ooooh we. Could have POAS cos it's someone's birthday day!!!! YES!!! And there's TWO birthdays tomorrow!!!

Happy Birthday here’s my pee stick 🤣

@sweetpea0318 ha i have lots of purple on my google searches too sometimes.

@strawberrye sorry its so stressful, i hope that its good news and a healthy little sticky bean, i know the limbo is awful to be in.

@Cakelaur ay the reason behind your name!
What a cool job.

@OntoTheThird sorry for all you have been through, what am awful decision to have to make. Its one of my greatest fears that i will one day face a decision like that.
Id imagine see how things go and probably no need to see doctor unless problems/pain etc.

@Lovemysparkle what a lovely message ☺️

Holing off on googling tonight, run out of rubbish things to google lol. AF is on way out, just waiting for FW now.
Figured out this week would have been around 12weeks and we would probably be having scan some day around now. So that thought sucked!
Anyway onwards and upwards 😊

@OntoTheThird sending lots of positive vibes and love your way. What a traumatic experience you've had, and now to have a miscarriage too. I'm so sorry. You've found yourself a wonderfully supportive and loving group of women though, so stick with us & we'll try to hold your hand as much as we can. There's also plenty of laughter and giggling to be had here, but only once you're up for that. Be gentle and trust your body 💕

@YellowDaffodils86 yep it really does suck. I was meant to be 17 weeks this week and a friend is similar stage carrying twins. It just makes my heart break every time I see her, and it's so hard to be happy for them which I feel awful about. Glad you're gearing up for FW 🤸‍♀️🧘‍♀️⛹️‍♀️🏃🏻‍♀️ better get stretching 😂

@Cakelaur that's so interesting to hear. I run a catering company, we cater for weddings, parties, dinner parties, funerals.. anything really! Most summer weeks I work roughly 80-110 hour weeks and it's just gearing up for those numbers again but I just don't have it in me anymore 😥 I feel sad to say goodbye to it as I've put so much into it over the last 5 years, it's been my baby and I'm so so proud of it, but also it's just not possible to do it part time because it simply won't pay all the overheads if I reduce the number of events I do, and there's no one in their right mind who would take my job considering the hours involved and the pretty poor pay! I'm coming to terms with it though, I really do feel it's the right thing for me. Just a v busy summer to get through first!

Thought I'd share a couple of puppy pics to make you all smile!!!

@BabynameEdie go out with a bang babe. Give it all you've got this summer, and say goodbye to it great send off. But also make sure that's the right choice for you. Maybe you can scale down a little or get a business partner?

I might be coming back to this thread I've started bleeding in the night. 😭

@Martydog i really hope not ☹️. How heavy is it? Will you go to the epu?

Only when I wipe but that's how it started last time. I'm going to the hospital this morning trying, very unsuccessfully, not to freak out.

@Martydog oh no you poor thing. Definitely give EPU a call when they open.

I’m out for a 2018 baby - AF arrived bang on time, which I guess at least means my cycles are back to normal!

I don't think there's anything I can say to stop you freaking out. I just hope you're able to be seen quickly xxx

@ontothethird I'm so sorry for your losses - that is a terrible thing to have to go through. As others have said, be kind to yourself. Sending lots of hugs.

To those seeing/speaking to hospitals today or finding out news - good luck. Keeping fingers crossed for you all x

@zarala and @DaisyMay25 happy birthday!!!! ❤🎁🎈
@Primrose16 good luck for testing and appt.
@strawberrye good luck for more bloods.
@BabynameEdie sounds good that you are thinking about what you need and what you can manage. We don't take enough time for that! I went back to work 3 days a week after DS and although he'll be 3 in 4 months I don't want to go back anymore. I have a very demanding job mentally so it's important to take time out. And watch my baby grow! Also I cracked up at your baby making emoticons. Must be what I'm doing wrong! More headstands needed...Must tell DH..... 🤣🤣
@hayleyfx oh hun. I hope this cycle ends soon for you!!
@OntoTheThird welcome to this lovely group of ladies and I'm so very sorry for your losses.
@Martydog oh I hope not! Fingers crossed it's just spotting like @Cakelaur and bubs is right as rain! Good luck for today.
@dulwichdays sorry af arrived but glad things are back to normal. Onto Jan babies we go!

@BabynameEdie that sounds like a really tough decision. I know what you mean about thinking work stress is having a big impact. Hope you manage to find a solution that works for you.

@DaisyMay25 @zarala Happy Birthday!

@Cakelaur by LMP I am 5 weeks today, so a hCG of 27 isn't all that hopeful. Trying to hold on to the fact that it's the rate of change which is the most important thing. Also your puppy is just the cutest!

@OntoTheThird hello and welcome. I'm so sorry that you've had such a difficult time, that sounds like an awful experience, I can't imagine how hard that was.

@YellowDaffodils86 fingers crossed for this fertile window for you. I just had the “should have been 12 weeks” milestone recently - in fact we were going to announce to DHs family on our recent family holiday which made things bittersweet. So I know how you feel - sending hugs and take care of yourself.

@Martydog oh no I'm sorry to hear that, such a worrying time. Fingers crossed for a healthy bean when you get in touch with EPU this morning.

@hayleyfx fingers crossed your cycle sorts itself out soon!

@Boboelephant 🤸‍♀️🤸‍♀️🤸‍♀️🤸‍♀️ 😂

@Martydog @Cakelaur has just been through similar and heard her bub's heartbeat. Fingers crossed for you. Get in to see epu as fast as you can xx

@dulwichdays sorry af arrived but I know what you mean, bit of a relief to get cycle back to normal. Here's to our 2019 babies!

@DaisyMay25 and @zarala HAPPY BIRTHDAY LADIES!!!
@Martydog babe don't panic yet. I had the same thing at the weekend and little bean was fine. I have everything crossed for you. 🤞🏻glad you're off to get it checked.
@dulwichdays sorry Af showed but like you said... silver lining!! They're back to normal.
@Primrose16 good luck today for everything.... keep us posted!!
@strawberrye you're right. The rate of change is the important bit. Could have ovulated late, could have implanted late. Hopefully the bloods today show big developments.

Bit of advice please ladies - what’s the easiest app for monitoring BBT?

I keep reminding myself this is only the 3rd cycle post MC at 12 weeks so I can’t really expect to be pregnant again. I’ve just got to keep positive, eat healthy-ish and keep active. Oh and DTD in the fertile window!

For those ladies that are pregnant again post MC, how many cycles was it before you fell pregnant again?

@dulwichdays it took us 3 cycles to conceive pregnancy #1 which ended in miscarriage, then another 3 cycles to conceive this pregnancy

So I couldn't hold out. This was from last night. @dulwich cycle 7 after MC. We conceived on cycle 3 last time

@daffodil77 congratulations that's amazing news!