TTC after pregnancy loss Thread 19- More cake for more babies

[Boboelephant]

I figured it out!

So much to catch up on today!!!
@Cakelaur I'm thrilled for you!!! Amazing you got to see the heartbeat 😍 Yep cd4 here so just hanging around for awhile. Opks don't start for another week at least so nothing to report.
@dulwichdays and @Claire138 good luck for testing aka POAS Friday!
@strawberrye when will you get results? Fx!! Hope you got some rest too.
@mrsd1103 hope it gets darker for you.
@17358anotherplanet welcome and congratulations. So sorry for your losses and the anxiety it now brings to pregnancy. There is another thread for the ladies who have been lucky enough to get bfps after loss which you might find helpful.
@sweetpea0318 no!! She sounds horrendous! Both @Claire138 and I are having regular acupuncture and both finding it very helpful. My lady is amazing. My first session was about 2 hours (supposed to be 1.5) She talked to me for about an hour asking my pregnancy history, my losses, cycles, pain etc and also about sleep, appetite, mood. I now see her for 45 min sessions (these ALWAYS go longer) she chats throughout thinking and shifting needles depending on where in my cycle I am and how I'm feeling. She then leaves for about 25 min and I always fall asleep! She was really up front about fertility acupuncture not needing to be weekly and also having to consider the cost as it was an ongoing thing. Right before ovulation and 6-10 days after are the best times. If you're in London I'll give you her details. She's also a trained mental health nurse which I think helps her understand how difficult the journey can be with the anxiety.
@Primrose16 ooh sounds promising hun. Whatever you decide at least Wednesday is soon. Hope it goes well.

@Boboelephant how are you feeling amidst AF?

@boboelephant - your lady sounds amazing! And that's really good advice about when in your cycle to do it - the cost is def a big thing so if I can time it to be most effective that would be ideal. I am in London so if you don't mind sending me the details that would be fab! Thank you! Tbh I was surprised that my lady was so rubbish - i spent ages looking for someone and went with a 'zita west' approved one... oh well!

@Primrose16 I think you have to do why you feel comfortable with. I have no control so would pee on it every day. But only cos I'd be thinking what if they don't test.

@17358anotherplanet come join us. It's called Christmas cake for Christmas babies (or something to that effect) that goes to any other ladies on here that have bfps.

@Cakelaur so relieved for you. Like you, I measured behind (but by nearly a week!) at my 6 week scan, but the measurements had caught up by 8 weeks. We didn't even see a heartbeat and all was ok 2 weeks later, so it's looking very positive for you! What a relief.

@cakelaur yay for the good news great that you saw the heartbeat too.

So much to catch up on! Sorry for long post!

@toasterstrudle I'm so sorry you find yourself here- finding out at the 12 week scan was one of the hardest realities I had to swallow! It's like a punch in the gut- but like you I have a sweet DD who softens the blow whenever I get down about it, she looks lofts me up and I am so grateful that to be blessed with her. I hope you find the same solace!

@dulwichdays good luck! And I admire your resolve!

@sweetpea0318 sorry you find yourself here and welcome! The first time I did acupuncture was to help induce labour - it was exactly as you said- really unemotional and weird- but she told me that I would probably go into labour in the next 48 hours- and exactly 48 hours later my contractions started! Coincidence? Maybe...but after my 3rd MC last month I have gone back to the acupuncture clinic; as well as seeing an acupuncturist this time I am also seeing a Chinese Dr who is quite famous and has a lot of success stories with helping women have babies! So she has me drinking these disgusting herbs every day and swallowing 10 pills a night- lord knows what's in them! But I see her every 2 weeks - my husband thinks it's all a big money scam, but! We will see!

@Cakelaur I am so happy to hear the good news! I have been following the thread over the weekend but I couldn't get myself to say anything- i was so anxious for you! i can only imagine how relieved you are today! I am seriously over the moon for you! Fingers crossed little bean stays strong and sticky!
If I were you I'd try and get a scan every 2 weeks to monitor and make sure everything is developing welll

@mrsd1103 welcome from the shadows!
And Fx the lines get stronger!

@17358anotherplanet welcome & congratulations! I know how hard it is to get excited- when are you having a scan ? That is always reassuring- fx for you!!

@Primrose16 - sometimes it can take up to 6 weeks for AF after MC- right? Hope she shows up soon so you can move forward!

@Boboelephant - ooh! Your acupuncturist sounds amazing! I am going to acumedic in Camden- but it's very impersonal and cold...can I have the name of your lady?!

I called my EPU today and got the genetic testing results from my last MMC- it turns out the foetus was perfectly healthy! Genetically normal!!!
It made me really sad to think that something I had possibly done had caused this perfect healthy little bean to die 😔
Or maybe there is something actually wrong with me!
I am now counting the days until I see Dr Shehata and hope he can figure out what's going wrong!

@Flatwhite32 that makes me feel even better. I'm of course

Hit send by mistake!! 🙈
@Flatwhite32 thanks. That makes me feel much better. I'm over the moon but of course still a little worried about the delayed growth. Two weeks will tell a lot.

@zarala thank you for your lovely words. I am so relieved. But of course like my obsessive poas addiction, I think I'll have scans every couple of weeks up to 12weeks. I have another one at Epu at 8+4, I'll organise one for 10weeks privately and then I'll have my 12week with nhs. At that point I'll massively relax I think. 🤞🏻
I'm so sorry the little bean you lost was perfect. It makes it harder, however at least you know your babies that don't have chromesonal issues, maybe that one was just too perfect for this world! I know it doesn't give you answers, but hopefully it gives you hope the next time will give your a baby to hold. Sending big hugs

Loved to come on and read the good news @cakelaur xx @zara you did nothing wrong it's just one of those things xxxx

@sweetpea0138 oh dear that does not sound like a good acupuncturist. I go to a zita west affiliate here in N.Ireland and she is very good. No pressure when I come to see her. I go every 2 weeks and she said that I should soon be going down to once a month. She was very empathetic and I always have a good chat to her when I’m there (mainly about our dogs). So when I come out I feel really chilled! If you are tense and uncomfortable when you go I doubt the acupuncture will work. @boboelephants sounds good, so you should give her a go and see what you think. Oh and when I go before ovulation I swear I can feel my ovaries tingling...placebo effect, I don’t know, but I do like it.
@zarala don’t blame yourself which I know is very difficult not to. I honestly believe there is not enough research(funding) for early pregnancy/miscarriage and a lot of the time ladies are being fobbed off without knowing the real reason. I really hope there comes a day when early pregnancy is taken more seriously medically than just “good luck, see you at week 12”!
Thanks @boboelephant today’s been a bad day for symptom spotting! Hope you are getting psyched up for FW 😂 and I hope none of us have delayed ovulation again...it’s tiring work!

I've been lurking for a few days - and @boboelephant I really want the details of your acupuncturist!

Had an ERPC for a MMC at 9/40 ten days ago. Cycle 11 so was looking into IVF - had a scan at 6 weeks for pain, then the scans didn't progress well. Really sad but just want to get on with it. DH is abroad til oct so logistics challenging too... DTD yesterday when I saw him but as my pregnancy test was still positive on Friday I don't think that is likely to work?

Just so fed up and seeing pregnant women everywhere.

Ugh I just wrote a big message and lost it. The important part was that @zarala it won't have been anything you did so please please don't feel bad xxx

Thank you ladies! I know you're right,
@BadBadBeans & @Lovewinemorethanhusband
I know there was probably nothing I could have done to change what happened- but I was just surprised by the results- I was expecting some kind of genetic issue-it makes me feel bad because I got pregnant immediately after my second MC- 3 back to back - and I knew i needed to give my body a break- I was emotionally and physically drained. We weren't very careful and boom! BFP. Just feel like I should have been more careful- poor little bean didn't stand a chance in there...anyway. That's my rant. I'm taking my time now and not TTC for a few months...

@Claire138 - thank you- yes I totally agree! This whole experience has made me want to study fertility and maybe become a naturopath dedicated to helping women who go through this....when life gives you lemons....

@Cakelaur - thank you that's really sweet...I like the too perfect theory...so I'll stick with that 😋

Hello everyone and woohoooooooo @Cakelaur !!! Teeny tiny little bean with a heartbeat 👏👏 so happy for you.

Hope everyone else is doing ok, @zarala we just have no way of knowing what causes mc, please don't beat yourself up.

Welcome to anyone new here 💕

@Primrose16 promising signs! 🤞🤞when will you test?

@strawberrye hope you're ok, sorry I've missed a few posts but sending hugs & support

I'm cd 2 and just waiting for it all to start again.. 🤞

My resting heart rate is down this morning (similar to my pattern last month) so I think that’s me out for 2018 baby.

@cakelaur so relieved everything is ok!! Now you can go and relax on holiday. X

@strawberrye I'm sorry it's all so uncertain. The waiting is horrible. Fingers crossed it's all ok. X

@yellowdaffodils86 and @babyname Edie sorry AF has arrived ☹️ hope you are coping ok.

Sorry to all the new people here. Hope your body recovers quickly and your mind is as good as it can be. Be kind to yourselves. I definitely notice pregnant people so much more now. April should've been my due date and so many people seem to have announced or given birth this month.

I'm on dpo11 today. My temp went up this morning and I didn't feel hot. Since MC (7 cycles) my luteal phase has been 11 days at most, so AF will be here today or tomorrow. It's so tense waiting. I might be joining poas Friday. No symptoms so far.

@dulwich what dpo are you?

@Daffodils77 not 100% sure as I haven’t been tracking OPK/BBT. But going by past history AF due today or tomorrow. Guess I just need to accept it, and move onto next month. I know I’m not out until AF but I’m just getting a feeling that this isn’t my month.

Fingers crossed for you - if your temp hasn’t dropped I would say that’s a big step towards your BFP! X

@BabynameEdie I suppose I should test before my appointment tomorrow so I know either way. Hubby was asking last night if my period has shown up yet.

I didn’t finish..... did tell him that it can take time after mc to return to normal. I wonder if he was getting his hopes up

@Daffodil77 thanks babe. and exciting re your temp!!! 🤞🏻
@dulwichdays you never know babe!! Both the months I got my bfp were months that I eventually gave up on. 🤞🏻
@BabynameEdie thanks hun. Good luck with the next round. I hope you're getting lots of rest, ready for FW. Got any new things planned for this month?
@yellowmellw sorry you're having a rough time babe. It really is hard this whole ttc and losing a bub. Especially if your other half isn't there for support. And I know I was keen to jump straight back on the wagon and get preg ASAP. Are you going to take a bit of a break? Or is there a way you can see him around fw? Do you track your cycles?

P.s. @Primrose16 (whispers) I think you should test!!

@YellowDaffodils86 I'm ok thanks hun. Went through the usual gamut of emotions. Angry, sad, denial... considered testing just in case I was one of the people who continued to have period like bleeding through pregnancy. Resisted that urge...😂 So now just at the tail end and feeling alright. Fingers crossed for May!! How are you?
@sweetpea0318, @zarala and @hellotoyellow her name is Julia Exposito-Garcia. She pops up first in Google and is in the Bow Quarter.
@zarala that's tough hun. So sorry you're feeling down but it would not have been anything you did. Try and use your break to replenish your body and mind and hopefully Dr S will have the answers for you.
@Daffodil77 ooh temp rise sounds promising! Fingers crossed!! For all of you with no symptoms I'm starting to think that's a better sign! I get every symptom under the sun and it's always af!!

@Primrose16 did you decide to test? 🤞

@Boboelephant ha that sounds just like me.
I started positively but that didn't last long. Range of emotions, mainly sad, Cant be any less pregnant when AF is here. So just a massive reminder of everything. I was even googling IB yesterday trying to convince myself maybe it isn't my period😂 i know full well its not IB!!
But last day today and then hopefully may will be the month. Its the original month we planned to start ttc. So i have a bit of faith in it🤞
Hopefully may gets a string of bfp as April did!