TTC after pregnancy loss Thread 19- More cake for more babies

[Boboelephant]

I figured it out!

@boboelephant @babynameedie so sorry for your BFN’s. There really is nothing worse. But hopefully it’s still early days and you will get your BFP’s rather than AF’s.

Absolutely love the penguin🐧 analogy. Today I’m stepping up and standing on the outside protecting those that need it. I’m one week into my TWW and AF expected next Wednesday. Whilst not feeling especially hopeful, today I accept that this’ll take a long time and it’s ok that I’m unlikely to be one of the lucky ones that makes use of the fertility Cape post MC. I’m making the most of my afternoon off and getting a lovely dose of vitamin d sitting in the park.

You girls really are the best. I feel so incredibly lucky to have joined this thread and found a wonderful support network of penguins. With sparkle hugs. 🐧💖
When DH and I were getting married my best friends dressed me up as a penguin for my hen party as penguins mate for life. Penguins really are the best. Life never fails to amaze me with the rainbows that can still shine through the shitty crap storms and this group of anonymous ladies really has been a rainbow for me!! So thankyou so much. For listening, for being there and for unwavering support.
DH and I have a date night tonight so that will be nice. I had a bit of a cry and a rant before and feel a bit better. Also have the day off so getting lots of lovely sun. As for testing I don't know. I won't until at least Sunday as af due Saturday. I used my last cheapie today so only have a cb digi left and I'd be annoyed to waste it. My mind is still hoping but I also feel like it's not going to happen this month. I have the scan tomorrow to check my ovaries so if af is coming I hope she at least comes after that!

@PassTheAfterEights it is so confusing. What the hell is going on for you?! I don't actually think you have had a CP anymore as you aren't bleeding but no idea why you are getting those faint lines. I think you should go and talk to the GP. Thanks as always for your lovely words.
@ek78 aww thankyou. That made me smile.
@Lovemysparkle thanks for your advice and support too. I feel exactly the same. Had my ectopic Nov 16 and recent MMC Dec 17 and it's been a bloody hard road. But also a lovely time with DS and DH. He also told me today I put too much pressure on myself but I can't seem to stop.
Ahhh hugs to all and fingers crossed we are all holding those rainbow babies soon.

OMG you ladies are just amazing. With everything that we've all been through I never imagined finding a group like this. 🐧🐧🐧🐧🐧

I'm sure this gets asked a lot, so please excuse me. I am just going through my first early miscarriage, I believe I lost the baby at around 4 weeks. Does anybody know when we can try again? I have seen so many different answers to this question. Had an internal scan and no sign of sac or anything else. Thanks so so much.

@boboelephant- we sound so alike with the pressuring ourselves my dp & mum are always saying “your too hard on yourself you have nothing control over” & I think the hardest most heart breaking thing for them is seeing me punishing myself & they or no one can do anything to help or answer the unanswered questions that mc bring & admittedly I’ve got arsy with them both because I feel like I’m reaching out & of course they are both there but rationally I know they can’t make me come to some sort of peace with our lost such wanted babies 😢 only I can make that peace or as close as I can to it!! I’ve been working on that a lot the last few months to stop pressuring myself as without realising i think that has contributed to me not getting a bfp, I’ve been trying a lot to work on sound mind sound body!! Lots of sparkly penguin hugs to you@bobo & to all you fantastic inspiring ladies⭐️🐧⭐️🐧

Sorry girls for the bfn hoping for next month xx laney79 so sorry to hear it's not seemed to of worked have they given you the second lot of pessarys to use as well ? Thinking of you x
Love the penguin analogy as well so nice x

@Boboelephant what's your chart up to?? If you just did an internet cheapie it could be too soon. I didn't get a line on an IC until 16dpo.

@Lovemysparkle I hear you!! Could have written that myself. Let's be kind to ourselves!! xx
@Cakelaur I dunno hun. It seems all over the shop!! I really hope so but also scared to get my hopes up again. I'll attach chart. Thanks!!

Hi @Muffin7 and so sorry you find yourself here, straight to the middle of the penguin huddle with you.

You can try again as soon as you feel like it, basically. There's some advantage to the medical team in you waiting for your next period to finish in terms of dating a pregnancy, should you conceive again immediately (on which basis some midwives and doctors advise you to wait), but the dating part resolves at scan anyway - so if you want to get straight back on it, wait for a negative home preg test (to be sure any subsequent lines aren't leftover hcg) then crack on. If it's a straightforward mc and you're otherwise healthy with no known fertility issues there's no medical grounds not to. We got started again straight away, some prefer a break - the rest is up to you. Big love x

@Muffin7 sorry I missed your message. Welcome and I'm so sorry for your loss. Exactly what @PassTheAfterEights said.

@PassTheAfterEights thanks so much for your kind words and advice. It's a relief to hear that we can try again as soon as we feel ready. My period would be due again at the end of the month so we may wait and see what happens. Still in a state of shock I think.

Hi @muffin7 no advice sorry but I am going through the same, I started miscarrying on Saturday at 5 weeks and it was confirmed on Monday. At the time they told me to wait for my next period and then try again although from reading that advice seems to be regarding dating the new pregnancy rather than for specific medical reasons.

Hope you are feeling as good as you can!

Sorry for the bfn's and the terrible time that some of you are also having!

Hi @AnyDay88 so sorry to hear you are going through the same. It's horrible isn't it? How are you feeling?

You will be @muffin7 I was still in (happy) shock from a much wanted second line when I had mine - felt inexplicably devastated at the same time as a sense I was overreacting, it's a pretty cruel business all told. It will get better with time, be kind to yourself - you'll find some lovely support here too, they're an ace bunch 💖

Might have been late @Claire138 symptoms were consistent with 3rd April but at this point anything's possible, still no AF and haven't tested again - swear I haven't felt this casual since Christmas, who knew it would take cycles blowing up to chill out. If I was late we fucked up conceiving as wore myself out by the end of what I thought was FW, much to DH's protestations - will have to listen to him next month..!!

@boboelephant hope the next few days are kind to you & better news at the end of it, the wait is horrible. Thanks also, hadn't thought of it that way but that's mega comforting, you're right - does at least rather look not like a chemical 🤷

Not much time to catch up properly with this but I love the penguin analogy! Everyone who's having a particularly tough time at the moment (@Laney79 @Boboelephant @BabynameEdie @Melamine @YellowDaffodils86 @Muffin7 @Anyday88) stay safe in the middle of the huddle for now, things will get better xx

@BabynameEdie @Boboelephant really sorry for the BFNs, they are so disappointing aren't they.

@AnyDay88 @Muffin7 welcome and I'm sorry for your losses. This is a lovely group of ladies here

Thank you everyone. I had such a busy day at work & just getting home now, which is probably quite good, keeps me busy.
@Boboelephant how you doing? 💕
Xx

AF has just arrived so no 2018 baby for me sadly. I guess at least I didn't have to wait long after yesterday although annoying it couldn't have waited until after the scan! Good luck to everyone still in this month.

@boboelephant sorry to hear AF has made an appearance. Fingers crossed for an early 2019 baby for both of us.

Last night was the first time I properly slept this week (since getting my BFP) I think maybe a bit of relief from having my miscarriage confirmed. It's strange what can make you cry though isn't it, I was changing our bed sheets and the bottom sheet just wouldn't stay on, cue lots of tears.

@boboelephant that's really crap, but I'm glad you weren't left hanging for long.

@passtheaftereights when we started TTC, my first two cycles were a lot longer than previous cycles. The first time I was convinced I was pregnant. I'd just ovulated later than usual (although my cycles have been long since). By the third cycle, I was so over my AF arriving later than expected that I just assumed my body was just pissing about. Really didn't think I was pregnant. Lo and behold tested on 16dpo and got my BFP. I thought AF was coming the day I tested. So you never know.

I'm 7dpo. It's felt like a long week, partly due to a busy week at work. Not testing til 13dpo (although I may cave at 12).

Good luck to those at the end of the tww.

@boboelephant so sorry AF turned up. At least it didn’t keep you waiting too long. Are you back to pre-MC cycles now?

Just been doing some research on Fitbit and resting heart rate - just another way to psych myself out during TWW. Now waiting for resting heart rate to plummet before AF arrives next week! 🤦🏼‍♀️

@Boboelephant really sorry AF came, hope scan goes well. Hope you are ok. On to the next month, i will probably be joining you. X

@Muffin7 I'm so sorry for your loss and hope you're doing ok. 💐 Welcome to the raft 🐧

@Boboelephant urgh I'm so sorry. Bloody AF, literally! I know there was a lot of sentiment involved in having a 2018 baby, but remember that a 2019 baby will be just as wonderful, and it could just be a few days into 2019. Sending hugs though.

So..I tested again this morning, why not, and am so tired after a really long day yesterday. My eyes are barely open and hubby is away... any thoughts on the attached? I can see something..but am so sleepy so could be kidding myself.