TTC after pregnancy loss Thread 19- More cake for more babies

[Boboelephant]

I figured it out!

Oh I'm so sorry @Laney79 that you are having such a difficult time. I'm afraid I haven't got any sage words of advice, just hugs x

@Laney79 I'm sorry. I have no advice either but I hope it has worked.

So gutted. BFN. So stark white it's not funny.

@Boboelephant me too, brightest white I've ever seen. Sorry yours is too, but we WILL get our bfps! 💕 hope you're ok

@Laney79 so sorry to hear what you're going through. It's the hardest thing. I'm sure it'll start soon.

@Boboelephant & @BabynameEdie so sorry for BFNs. Sending massive hugs. Life really isn't fair sometimes. Xx

Aw @Laney79 sorry to hear it hasn't worked. I had two failed medical managements back in February so know exactly how you feel: the waiting is horrible. I ended up having the surgery in the end as I just wanted it done with. to you.

@Laney79 so sorry your having a shit time babe. I never did medical management so sadly can't offer too much advice. (Went straight for surgery) Hope you're ok.

Sorry to see the news on the BFNs, ladies. Make sure you have a treat of some kind today. 💐
@laney79 argh! How long do you have to wait before you can go back to the hospital for more medication??

@Laney79 I’m sorry it’s not looked like it worked. What’s the next step do you know.

Sorry @Boboelephant @BabynameEdie for the BFN that’s shit.

Sorry @Laney79, and sorry to @Boboelephant & @BabynameEdie. I’ve got the opposite problem. A faint bfp that’s not getting any fainter. In fact I think it’s got darker & unless it was the immaculate conception that’s not possible. Just want it to be over :((

@boboelephant & @BabynamedEdie so sorry for BFN it’s so shit it’s beyond shit!!! I feel your disappointment & frustration. It’s so normal & natural to cling on to every little hope & symptom I could have sworn I was gonna get a bfp every month since November 17😩 you name it I’ve had it, spots, cm, veiny boobs like a road map, sore nips but not sore boobs, sore boobs but not sore nips, serious wind, bloating, nausea, hormonal migraine, constipation, diarrhoea, exhaustion, insomnia the list goes on!! I really wish I could give you all a rl hug, just remember there is no right or wrong way to deal with ttc after mc you have to do what’s right for you😘 I sooooo know how you feel & I so wish I could take all your worries & pain away.... whether you have af, have got bfn, are going through mc, healing, or celebrating your bfp I’m sending a sparkle hug to you all ❤️

Sorry for the BFN's it's the worse kind of disappointment ever :(

Sorry @boboelephant and @babynameedie it never gets any easier! I usually do something nice for myself every time I get a BFN to try and take my mind of it, whether it’s just a nice dinner out with DH or a new pair of shoes or a last minute getaway...it just helps distract the mind for a bit. Sending hugs 🤗
Sorry @laney79 it really sounds awful having it go on so long. I too went straight for surgery as I didn’t want to go for the wait so I really feel for you ❤️

Oh @boboelephant @babynameedie so sorry. Our thread peak week feels like a distant memory, what a rubbish few days. Want to hug the air out of both of you.

This thread makes me think you know how penguins huddle against inclement weather with the vulnerable in the middle and the tough on the outside and the tough squish in when they need a break and the vulnerable march out to the outer defences when they feel strong again 🐧😂

Anyway I'll take a turn on the outside today. Still no AF, can't effing believe it, never more than three hours late now three days and yet no line and no symptoms of anything at all and don't feel one way or the other about it, just nonplussed.

Blimey just caught up on @laney79 too, right into the centre of the huddle with you, so awful - wish this over for you soon x

Thanks everyone.

Surgery isn't an option for me with my phobias. I'm broken. I just can't do this any more.

I've decided that somehow I'm going to have to just accept that this is the situation and that's that. I need to try and forget I'm still carrying and get back to normal in the hope that one day my body will realise and let go.

I just can't take anymore. I hope one day I'll be free of this and be able to join this thread again. Huge amounts of baby dust to you all xxx

Sorry you got one too @BabynameEdie.
Thankyou all. Feeling all your love and hugs and squishy penguin cuddles xxx
I should be bloody used to this. Devastated that in 2 weeks it will have been 18 months since I had the ectopic rupture and I'm still not even pregnant. So angry at my useless uterus right now. Just as icing on the cake my mum went to a clairvoyant yesterday who told her I would have another baby but only with medical intervention. I know this is not necessarily true but just feels like a other sign that I'm never going to be able to do this naturally. Ah big time pity party here!! Off to try and lift the mood with a sun fix!

@passtheaftereights I love the penguin analogy! @bobotheelephant so sorry you are having a difficult day. You are such a source of support on here. Have a day in the middle of the huddle!

Just catching up... all those dog pics are adorable 😍
@Laney79 I’m so sorry that this is continuing to drag on for you 😔 I hope that this is over for you soon. Sending hugs
@Boboelephant @BabynameEdie sorry for the bfn’s. Hope you’re both doing okay

This morning I am keeping busy with the garden and the dog who loves the hose pipe!
When I find myself slipping into my mc/baby making obsessions I force myself to think in fast forward mode. I.E. there'll be a day when it is not at the forefront on my mind a - as I have a baby or b - I didn't and I'm sailing around the world sooner than planned !
I find it so usual to do that when I'm stressing over something.
Sending sunny wet dogs...

Penguin huddle Thursday 🐧🐧❤️❤️ & sod it why don’t we roll it over to Friday as well!! @boboelephant I got some much needed advice from my bff a few weeks ago (she had 4 mc’s back to back) obviously everyone is different & deal/do things differently but as she’s known me for 38 years (39 now) she advised me to take a breath & live life with what’s happening in my life now wedding,ds,dp etc she only knows to well what mc is like before,during & after & she said sometimes even without me realising it I am sub consciously putting shit loads of pressure it the ttc situation which again she understood that yearning & healing of having a 🌈 bubs will make all easier & get better after the awful time mc brings but she said just live & you will know the time to get help❤️

@passtheaftereights LOVE the penguin analogy!! Bobo, Eddie and laney get in the centre for some penguin smoosh!! I really feel so thankful that I stumbled across this thread as you all are wonderfully supportive and understanding!
After eight could you have ovulated later as well? Seems to be a bunch of us that had a delay.
@lovemysparkle that is exactly the frame of mind I’m trying to adopt as well! Harder said than done but definitely good advice!

All we all want is a happy & healthy pregnancy & of course our bubs at the end of it❤️ I don’t care about the sleepless nights the poo,sick,droopy boobs, & being skint all I want is to complete my family & make my ds’s dream of being a big bro, my dp’s dream of being a daddy & my dream of having a much wanted bubs (was told after my son I shouldn’t have anymore dc’s) but that’s another story or maybe another thread!!! I hope & prey I really do we all complete our journeys & get to our final destination 🌈🌈🌈

@claire138 I’m hearing you girl!! It is much easier said than done I personally have struggled since my mmc December 16 & I’m nearly a year on from my 3rd mc July 17 one day I feel strong & positive & grateful for all I have & another day I feel the loneliest person in the planet & negative & guilty & I have actually broke down & screamed why me !!! My bff said to me it’s ok to just be “OK” try & find that happy medium & although I still struggle somedays the last month or 2 I have certainly changed my way of thinking but I must admit I’m panicking at turning 40 in January 🙈🙈🙈

The penguin analogy is awesome. I'll stand on the outside by belly facing in, so you guy can protect this little bean. I'm sorry sorry a lot of you guys are having a shit time. I'm lucky enough to have fallen pregnant again but I'm so so scared that I'll lose this one too and fall deeper into the depression I seem to have just dragged myself out of. Never in my wildest dreams did I imagine the path to parenthood would be so hard!! I thought it was only meant to be hard once bub arrives. Sending massive hugs ladies!!

@Boboelephant @BabynameEdie sorry for BFNs i know how you feel. I have one more shot at the weekend and then im out.
I kinda feel out already tbh.
Any chance you have not quite got there yet? Will you test again?
I tested 12dpo before mc and it was bfn...