I yam what I yam

[Bubblegum89]

Thread 6... 😑

A safe place for those of you who have been trying to conceive for 6+ months and even yams aren’t helping. Come and have a good ol’ bitch and a moan without judgement. Please read the rules before posting!

The Yam Commandments are as follows;

• Thou shalt not arrive one day and post BFP next day

• Thou shalt not give advice to others when TTC for one month only

• Thou shalt not participate in one-up-manship and realise TTC is shit for everyone in different ways

• Thou shall allow posters to be fucked off with the world and everything in it at regular points in the month

• Thou shalt not be offended by strong language

• Thou shalt not tell everyone to eat yams

• Thou shall accept being called a muppet for testing at 7dpo at 9pm at night

And most importantly...

• Thou shalt not symptom spot during the two week wait and must be prepared for a telling off if you do so.

NEW RULE ALERT!

-Thou shalt not post pictures of positive pregnancy tests. We will be delighted to hear about it but no photos, please and thank you

Oh @sooz sorry to hear FP has arrived. Damn it.

@limp so ridiculous to make you wait.

@si1ver and @bubble I have a ‘spare room’. We moved last summer expecting TTC to end once the stress of moving settled but it’s made sod all difference. Instead I have a half empty extra space that taunts me daily. I’m thinking there’s something about the empty room and my empty womb....

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Hi All! Thought i better check in to the new post! (9 pages already.. wowser! )

Now onto my.. 12 month of trying for our first.. I think... I stopped counting when I got to about 10months! haha

Had tests done at a private IVF clniic in Jan.. came back that I have a low AMH level. However had the all clear from the GP blood tests that hormones etc are normal. Only issue was I had BV and I was too fat for them to help us. was given antibiotics to clear the BV and told to go away and lose at least 2 stone and to keep trying... so.. here we are..

Im on day 11... and normally this would be my fertile stage. But my OPKS are still showing as low fertility and no sign yet of EWCM. ive been taking maca root for the past couple of months.. could that have pushed my ovulation date back?

Whilst im happy there is nothing stopping us from getting pregnant.. being in the unexplained category is a bit sucky. Just got to drop the weight i guess!

@SoozC sorry to hear FP has made an appearance 😕

Sooz I wish there was a way to make you not feel like this. We're all with you.

I was thinking Bubblegum, probably far too much, but maybe they sorta dislodged some tissue which was a blockage on the way in, and now you're shedding it. In a positive way.

Oh god ladies I know. June ffs. At this rate I could get pregnant 3 times more. Am I really supposed to just stop, at my age, and hope, or just keep losing over and over? Totally mental.

Could be limp it would make sense with the timing. Would explain having a better period this month too. Who knows, I hope you’re right! Also June is ridiculous, are you able to get an earlier appointment anywhere else?

pinkemi welcome back (kind of!) I have unexplained too, hardly a diagnosis really is it. Apparently there’s a very well reknowned clinic in Athens that does infection testing for like €100 that isn’t done by drs here. Downside is you have to send menstrual blood to Greece as that’s how they test for genital tract infections etc. Heard a few people with unexplained have done it and found they had an infection that was missed.

I really hope so Bubblegum. Fingers crossed for you. Seeing EPU tomorrow and will see if I can get them to do anything. They will scan but doubt they will see anything yet, so it's bloods andmore fucking waiting to see what happens. Not a jot of symptom, but tests (all 2300 of them) still positive. Gah.

Sooz am worrying about you lots. Please be kind to yourself when you get this blasted parents evening out of the way.

@pinkemi Maca root pushed by ovulation by 6 days late so well could be. Sorry for not getting answers.

@sooz hope you’re okay, have been thinking of you.

@limp hope you get some answers tomorrow. Waiting until June is madness.

@limp good luck tomorrow!

In-laws are here. Accusing us of cruelty for only having the one child. We may kill them.

Thank you for being so nice to me. I somehow managed to hold it together today, home now. I have one of these and I plan to eat the whole thing and let DH look after me. But I'm so unhappy. I just can't do it anymore. I'm definitely going to have to stay away from the conception boards; people have NO IDEA how lucky they are when they get pregnant easily and quickly and have their baby with barely a murmur. I'm 36, DH is nearly 50, it took us 20 cycles to get our bfp and every month is another reminder that we won't have that child in 3 months' time. We have a child-sized hole in our lives that seems destined never to be filled. I think I need to accept that being a mum is not something I will ever be. I can't do this anymore, I just can't.

Christ @paranormal! Maybe we can have a special patio for burying interfering in-laws in the yammers house?!

Oh @sooz Well dome for making it through the day. I know that child sized hole, it’s the worst. Enjoy your choccie and let your DH look after you. Be gentle to yourself 💐

Oh sooz I’m so so sorry. I know it’s no help really but I think we all end up there, not wanting to do it anymore. I can’t imagine how hard it is with your EDD lurking in the background all the time. Sometimes stepping away from things like MN and social media gives you a bit of space and it can help. You’re right, people have no idea how lucky they are to pop out kid after kid without worry. Wish I could send you 100 chocolate oranges. Make sure your DH looks after you xx

Sorry to hear that youre feeling so low @SoozC 😕 wish there was some way we could help, this really does suck. x

Oh @sooz I’m so sorry you’re feeling so low. I think at one point or another we’ve all been there with not wanting to do it anymore. Definitely let DH look after you and eat all the chocolate orange. I have one to in the fridge that I’m going to eat tonight.

Work has gone to shit and I’ve just realised that all of the women on my baby group who were either TTC or stared TTC after us will have had their babies by May. And I’ll probably not even be pregnant again. Tonight I’m pontificating on wtaf I must have done wrong in a past life to have so much trouble conceiving twice.

I'm so sorry Sooz. This is just so very hard. You don't deserve any of this, none of us do.

Good luck tomo Limp xx

@Sooz my first EDD is in June and the thought of having no baby on the horizon by then is killing me. It’s all so shit isn’t it.

This is for you Sooz. I’m sorry you’re feeling so low. You can have the key to the kitchen with sugar in it.

Jeez, this thread has grown quick in the last day or so!! Great chat! I also hate 'tmi', like there's any point putting '(soz tmi)' when you've just told strangers on the internet all about your weird cervical discharge!!

@SoozC sorry about FP, it's so much tougher than I ever imagined xx

@LookingAtTheStars89 I'm not using a specific book (though reading 'The Woman Code' at the mo which is good). I'm just following a generally low GI diet, not cutting anything out totally as I don't think I'll sustain it. Not had chocolate or sugary (or caffeine or booze!) things for 11 days now and am limiting carbs to wholewheat now and then but small portions and with lots of protein and greens. There is a lot of conflicting advice out there - was watching a pcos lady on youtube telling me I had to go vegan AND gf!! What does she eat??!!

I feel bad because I know you're all having issues too. I'm just in that self-pity place right now. But I love you guys and I'm not saying that as though drunk, I'm saying that from a place of mutual respect for these issues that make us all so, so sad.

Be as self-pitying as you want sooz that’s what we’re here for. To listen and then help pick each other up :) This whole thing is just utter shit, it really is. Hope you enjoyed your chocolate orange

I ate half. DH wouldn't approve (I'm a little overweight) so I hid the rest and may or may not eat it for breakfast tomorrow.

Be as self pitying as you want x honestly, it’s what we are all here for. There are times where some of us are at our low points and lean on others and then we all take it in turns to help each other and it’s what we’re all here for xx

@SoozC you have more restraint than me! I ate a whole large wholenut bar on my last FP and sat on the couch all day watching Netflix 😂😭