I yam what I yam

[Bubblegum89]

Thread 6... 😑

A safe place for those of you who have been trying to conceive for 6+ months and even yams aren’t helping. Come and have a good ol’ bitch and a moan without judgement. Please read the rules before posting!

The Yam Commandments are as follows;

• Thou shalt not arrive one day and post BFP next day

• Thou shalt not give advice to others when TTC for one month only

• Thou shalt not participate in one-up-manship and realise TTC is shit for everyone in different ways

• Thou shall allow posters to be fucked off with the world and everything in it at regular points in the month

• Thou shalt not be offended by strong language

• Thou shalt not tell everyone to eat yams

• Thou shall accept being called a muppet for testing at 7dpo at 9pm at night

And most importantly...

• Thou shalt not symptom spot during the two week wait and must be prepared for a telling off if you do so.

NEW RULE ALERT!

-Thou shalt not post pictures of positive pregnancy tests. We will be delighted to hear about it but no photos, please and thank you

Hmmm, maybe that's why mine changed then? I've been off oral contraception for 18 months now, and before my mc they were all over the place. Afterwards I've had 35/78/33 day cycles but the quality is improving.

Ah bugger it! It's a mystery!

For a couple of months after my mc, Wonky, my cycles were longer. Hopefully it's just your body settling again? Mine are back to normal now or maybe that's wishful thinking

Hmmm, here's hoping Sooz. Tbh I was pregnant for such a short amount of time I felt like a fraud using the term 'miscarriage' and didn't think it would affect my cycle at all.

Oi Bubble - just seen your thread, are you considering it then?

Hey ladies, hope you all had a nice Easter. I had my 7 week old niece staying overnight last night and the night feeds didn’t put me off so that’s good/bad lol

Cycle has been odd. I had lots of ewcm Friday and Saturday which excited me a lot more than it should, but had negative opks. They started getting darker lines yesterday but still not positive. No ewcm today, not much watery cm either and an opk which I think was positive but if it was, it was only just. OH said the test line was still slightly lighter than the control. Been having cramping in my left side all evening. I don’t tend to get ov pains so not sure what they feel like. It felt like period cramping but also like when you get a stitch? Can you not get a positive opk and still ovulate? I get positives every single cycle without fail and they tend to last for 2 days. I’m worrying I didn’t ovulate now :(

I used to feel myself ovulate as a teenager and it was like that- more pointed and stitch like than a cramp alone. Haven't felt it for years though

That sounds like ovulation. Maybe you just missed the LH surge? Shag today and tomorrow

Oh well that sounds positive then, thanks ladies :) we had sex yesterday and today so I’ll try and squeeze some in tomorrow too. I’m having most of the pain on my left side but a little on my right side as well :/ It’s easing off a bit now but for the few hours it was worst, I considered getting a hot water bottle lol ouch

@JaggyJobby and @LookingAtTheStars89 it's the worst time of year for no sugar!!! I took a day off yesterday and had choccy eggs. Just starting wk 4 of low sugar and have felt great. Woke up with first spot in weeks this morning - payback for sugar fest yesterday!!

@Chooklass. I don't feel so bad now! I'm going into week 2 of no sugar and lower calorie diet. I think I can already feel some difference flub wise lol.

@Chooklass haha I have managed to avoid the eggs thankfully! Just started a couple days ago, keep trying to remind myself how great I felt when I was off sugar for ages before haha. Unfortunately all the shops here have been shut the last few days and todayfor easter, grr. Desperately need some fruit so I have found a delivery place that does a salad and a wrap that both have apple in them 😂 if there is syrup on them I will nut someone haha!

So determined to give this a proper go and see if it has any affect, but man its hard at first 😂 at least it is distracting me from my lack of baby haha!

I must be mad but I'm tempted to try the low-sugar thing... I have less than 4 months before I go on a family holiday and I'd love to have lost a stone in that time (well, I'd love to be preggers but that's not going to happen). I was very bad today...I ate a chunky KitKat, a bag of Minstrels and one of those Lindt bars. Oh god! In my defense I ate zero chocolate eggs this year!

Got to try something. I do NOT want to be the fattest person at the party like I normally am...unless I'm preggers!

@SoozC well I highly reccomend it, its so worth it, just make sure you have plenty fruit for your body getting used to considerably less sugar, and be prepared for some grumpiness at first. You might wanna warn DP!

And on that note, I am off to get some fruit!

Still here lurking away but feels a bit odd posting atm while I am in such blinking limbo. Still a week til next scan, still no idea if things are ok, still adding the IF caveat to every bloody conversation.

Bubblegum I was always convinced ewcm was evident a good couple of days before actual ovulation, and yes, it defo did feel like that when I noticed it. Hopefully you felt it coz it was good and strong :)

Sooz I started a healthy eating thing at the start of the year. No Jarred sauces, no packet mixes, everything made totally fresh and from scratch and not full of artificial flavourings and tonnes of salt and sugar. That included snacks (I’m a terrible snacker) so instead of snacking on crisps and chocolate, I got things like muller light yoghurts and dried banana chips. The cost of our weekly shop was cut in half and I felt so much better in myself, not tired and sluggish all the time. I’ll confess I have binged on far too many Creme eggs this last week or so but I do recommend cutting down the sugar (not cutting out though because that’s crazy talk).

I’m confused by my cycle this month. Up until Friday, I was having no second line on my opks, my cm was milky in colour and I just didn’t feel like I was even in my FW. Then Friday I started getting ewcm. This excited me greatly, still had barely a second line on opks though. Saturday I had even more ewcm and the lines started getting a bit darker but not quite positive. Then my cm disappeared on Sunday and the lines on my opk were still dark but not positive. I had some cramping/stitch feeling in my left side for a few hours in the evening which I’ve not had before around the time I’m meant to be ovulating. I don’t know if they were ovulation pains? If they were, why is this the only time I’ve felt it? Anyway, yesterday morning my opks up until the afternoon were dark but not positive but started getting lighter by the evening.

Usually, my opks get very strong positives and the positives last for 2, sometimes 3 days before lightening again and they’ve done that every cycle I’ve used them. We had sex on Saturday, Sunday and yesterday anyway just because of the ewcm, darkening opks and the weird pain in my left side. Can you ovulate, with other signs of ovulation, but not get a positive opk? I know you can miss your surge but mine last so long normally that it’s impossible to miss.

I’m just confused as I’m very lucky to always get positives so am able to tell solely based on them when I’m about to ovulate (which is lucky because I never get ov pains nor ewcm apart from these last two months) To not get even one positive is odd for me but then again so is getting ewcm and what was possibly ov pain. I’m rambling now, apologies...

No idea, Bubble, but I'd go by ewcm personally. So you'll ov a day or three after the last ewcm you see. Sorry, not overly helpful I know.

Limp, post away! We don't want preggers Yammers to feel they have to disappear; you and Nimble are as welcome here as you've ever been! Sorry you're still in limbo about it all, we've all got fingers crossed for you. How is the wedding planning going in all this?

I've just left acupuncture (huzzah for holidays!) and had such a good chat with my acupuncturist. She said she feels certain I'll get what I want however it happens and that it's rare for the acupuncture to have an effect in less than 3 months. Going into month 3 now! I do love my sessions, can highly recommend them just for the cathartic nature.

Love to all you Yammers, I wish you were here to meet for coffee right now - sun is out and feels like spring!

Thanks ladies. Because I’ve not had ewcm, I don’t really know what it means in terms of ov’ing so whether you’re supposed to get it before or during. I’m going to just go on that and those weird pains I had, stupid opks.

Limp you’re always welcome to post on here! Sorry you’re still in limbo though, got everything crossed for you!

Oh @sooz I’m totally jealous and wishing I could meet you for coffee instead of being at work!

I’m also in month 3 of acupuncture, mine is so easy to talk to it’s great therapy and I always feel better afterwards.

I've just realised that I am coming to the end of my 3rd month of acupuncture.. but I am not convinced that this cycle will be any different than normal.

I was really positive at the beginning of the month.. but have slowly slumped back down into my pessimistic view point. (sigh)

I know yammers, and than you. It just feels a bit odd I suppose especially as I am still in a state of total disbelief and assuming the worst at every twinge.

Pfft. I am the most useless bride :) Our parents despair. We are almost there but it is quite a simple do, so there wasn't much to do - food, booze, big barn and some posh frocks. I have no flowers, not much in the way of decorations, no speeches, no photographer, nothing. Only got a cake coz mum insisted. I will be (IF, there it is again, IF all is ok) 11.5 weeks so will no doubt be showing (already fat and still have seperated stomach from DD) and me not drinking at my own wedding will be VERY obvious indeed. Bit of a worry coz we still won't feel remotely safe but if we can get that far I suppose we will just have to man up.

The acupuncture sounds great, it is something I have considered and never quite gotten round to.

@limp you could try it now - many women use it in their first trimester and they should do ‘holding the bean’ type needles. Obviously that’s not what it’s called but you know what I mean! Do keep checking in and keep us updated 🌺

@si1ver how you getting on? You must be on countdown to first drugs?

@bubble I wish I had some answers for you to help you relax. Sorry love.

I’m a few days off FP, cd23 but really weepy yesterday and night sweats last night. If it’s going to come it would be great if it was a few days early and I could start ivf next cycle. If not we have a family wedding during my fw so we’ll delay another month. Trying to stay calm, positive, be a more relaxed person and stop holding it all. That’s the idea anyway! 😬

@Bubblegum89 not all jarred sauces are bad haha, I sell sauce for a living and we have no added sugar and all fresh ingredients in ours, no preservatives or anything haha. 🤪

@LimpLettice you could ask the waiters at your wedding to give you shloer or appletizer instead of champaigne and then some other drink instead of your usual drink of choice. That way no one needs to know yet, and you can put the bigger belly down to trying all the wedding food beforehand and easter eggs haha.

Still early in my cycle, and going away for over a week later this week, so worried I wont be back on time to catch my FW. Not expecting anything this cycle. Annoyingly, with being away, it doesn't seem worth going to the doctor this month as she will miss the important part of my cycle!

Haha jaggy dolmio sauce is the devil, it’s delicious but it’s bloody full of crap. What sauce do you sell? I make all my pasta and Bolognese sauces from scratch but tbh it’s a bit of a ball ache, would love to find some fresh sauces!

Ah, fanks guys

I did have a discovery to share - did you know you can get strawberry flavoured fish oil?!

I've been taking one since desperate TTC days, and carried on taking it, but the fishy burps were putting me off.

The strawberry flavoured ones are amazing!

What's the fish oil for Nimble?