I yam what I yam

[Bubblegum89]

Thread 6... 😑

A safe place for those of you who have been trying to conceive for 6+ months and even yams aren’t helping. Come and have a good ol’ bitch and a moan without judgement. Please read the rules before posting!

The Yam Commandments are as follows;

• Thou shalt not arrive one day and post BFP next day

• Thou shalt not give advice to others when TTC for one month only

• Thou shalt not participate in one-up-manship and realise TTC is shit for everyone in different ways

• Thou shall allow posters to be fucked off with the world and everything in it at regular points in the month

• Thou shalt not be offended by strong language

• Thou shalt not tell everyone to eat yams

• Thou shall accept being called a muppet for testing at 7dpo at 9pm at night

And most importantly...

• Thou shalt not symptom spot during the two week wait and must be prepared for a telling off if you do so.

NEW RULE ALERT!

-Thou shalt not post pictures of positive pregnancy tests. We will be delighted to hear about it but no photos, please and thank you

@LookingAtTheStars89 that’s terrible. At least my in-laws dont know about my miscarriages and are simply thoughtless. Although my own mother does know and isn’t especially supportive tbh.

I'm on a super miserable diet of approx 600 calories a day to shift a couple of stone before IVF starts. My life is mainly misery and self loathing at the moment.

@Si1ver Only 600? Can I ask, what kinds of things are you eating?

@Si1ver. Diets suck all the fun out of life! But I want a baby more than I want piece of cake so i will have to suck it up!

@Bubblegum89 I did for the first two, at this stage shes just lucky that I always shower beforehand haha! My appointments are always at like 0915 in the morning so its a choice between a long lie or a shower!😂 Eventually the long lie will take over!

Called my doctor today, my blood test results show I ovulated at least, but we could see that anyway. She sounded genuinely surprised and dissapointed ehen I told her FP was on its way!

Had all the symptoms, just waiting for the dreaded "period shite" to get it all started. Have had a mini tantrum at DH today about wanting chocolate but not feeling I can have any. After reading that 50% of women who have hypothyroidism get diabetes by age 40 I have freaked myself out big time!

@LookingAtTheStars89 hahaha at wearing a dress to an abdominal ultrasound 😂😂

Sorry to hear about your mother in law being so insensitive 😡

@LookingAtTheStars89. DUST AND MISERY

Mainly protein shakes. Horrible diet, infuriatingly it works well and very quickly for me and I'm basically after a quick fix.

I'm gearing up to ovulate early I think. Have had EWCM and now cramping on the right side. Seem to ovulate early after miscarrying for some reason- it happened the last time too. It's all academic as can't try this month anyway!

Hi please can I join? I've been reading all your posts for a while but not commented before.
Been ttc for 6 cycles and although I know that's not that long, I just have a feeling something is wrong.
I've been pregnant 3 times but lost 2. I have those times fallen within a couple of months of trying (it's the staying pregnant I struggled with).
But this time it feels different. I had c section with DS 2 years ago and since I came off the mini pill I've been getting really bad pain in my section scar during my period.
Also I'm 40 now so scared I'm too old and my body doesn't work any more. To make it worse 4 of my friends have all announced they are expecting in the last 2 months. I'm happy for them but secretly cried each time.

Hi guys

Also a lurker here, and new to Mumsnet. Reading this thread has finally prompted me to join up to give my crazy somewhere to go. Apologies in advance for the massive ramble.

Age 31, hubby 32, been trying for baby number one since May 2017 which is 14 cycles already, because mine are on the short side. Usually around 23-24 days, but just because my body likes to mess with me, anywhere from 20 days (freak one-off head fuck) to 31, although the post-ovulation bit is pretty consistent. Appear to be ovulating - have been doing the temp charting thing since we started, and get the right gunk at the right times. Not even a hint of a missed period or second line when I have early-tested through sheer bone-headed optimism, despite having every 'symptom' under the sun. I might brain the next person who tells me that what really worked for them was having sex actually in their fertile window. No shit, Sherlock. You weren't having any luck before then?!

Gradually getting more and more disillusioned and numb to it, feeling like it's never going to happen. Hubby's been willfully optimistic that everything is fine and these things just take time, but this month had a bit of a breakdown because our friend, who started trying after us, did a 12 week announcement, and that - in his head - nixed the idea we're still on a 'normal' time frame.

I'm partly glad he's finally internalising that it's taking a bit too long for 'everything's perfectly fine and dandy' and we can start looking into what's going on, but seeing him so upset is really heartbreaking too. We're both sort of being childish/superstitious about going to the doctor to kick off checking things out, because obviously you don't actually have proper problems before you've been diagnosed with them. So I thought joining here might be a good kick up the backside to actually book GP appointments.

Another friend gave birth this week too, and I'm currently heading into my fertile window with hubby's work trip positioned bang over the crucial days - back on Thursday, just like you June - so there's pretty much no chance this month. Unless we have some seriously stubbornly lingering HeMan sperm that laughs at hostile mucous and eats it for breakfast. Which, you know, I'm not holding my breath for.

Ugh.

Hello lurkers. You're in good company here. Lots of crazy bodies, sweaty fuckers and random crying .

Paranormal is that common? Early ov I mean. I just can't fathom when I ovulated or how this happened. I mean I know how it happened, haha, just it seems crazy.

Thank you for the good wishes all.

Looking I hope this is not out of line but your mil sounds like a self centred, nasty bitch and I'm sorry you had to listen to that. I had the mil from hell first time round (seriously wouldn't piss on that woman if she was on fire) who still treats dd like a sub standard irritation and behaved like that to me far too often. I was never happier than when I got shot of her. Be glad she's done with you.

Sodding autocorrect. Sweary. Fecking sweary. I didn't call any of you lovely wimmin sweaty

Just back from the gym. I am sweaty AND sweary

Sweaty limp? How rude!

Welcome lurkers :)

Hello lurkers, welcome.

Fun fact yammers. Did you know that you can't give blood if you've had a miscarriage in the last six months? I didn't. I've definitely not had to talk to someone about this in the blood donation session and then cried everywhere. Ffs.

@si1ver I didn’t know that, sorry it made you cry. I had to have bloods taken the other week for none TTC reasons. 4 vials and I felt light headed and woozy. It’s been nearly 6 months since my MC though.

Being ambushed like that really sucks Si1ver, I'm sorry. It's horrible when you're holding it together and didn't expect to walk into something upsetting. And who the hell would think that's a thing? Sometimes I think there is some kind of sadistic deity sitting up on a cloud, munching popcorn, throwing things at people, because it likes a good laugh.

Sorry it happened like that, Si1ver. A mc always hits you again unexpectedly, doesn't it?

Limp, so glad to hear your HCG results. Sending you love for everything to go well, you deserve it.

Welcome lurkers - lots of you so apologies for not doing individual hellos. But I have read what you've posted and it looks like you'll all fit right in! We are lovely, if a bit pissed off at our ttc lot in life.

I'm feeling better now fp has gone. Can't wait for the easter hols, I hate having to hold it all together at school. I WhatsApp'd DH earlier, he asked if I was coming home and I meant to say 'I am now, yes' but it typed as 'I am now us' and he replied with 'what does that mean?!' I realised it could be taken that I'm preggers, gave me such a jolt.

I've decided not to do maca this cycle as I didn't like being off my usual length. Still doing everything else though and trying raspberry leaf tea instead of maca.

I went to see my GP this afternoon and he said from what they've seen that ovulation seems unlikely, at least not regularly anyway. I'm kind of deflated but he's referred me over to gynaecology so hopefully they will help me.

@LimpLettice. Yeah that's pretty much what she is and a bigot to boot! I didn't shed any tears over her being "done with me". DH went round there to drop of his Dad's birthday card but he said he completely blanked her. He's majorly pissed with her.

Welcome @Iwannapuppy, I’m also ttc no 2 and finding it far more challenging this time. @HotCrossRabbit good luck getting ball rolling on investigations.

@LimpLettice I think long cycles are more usual after miscarriage but my useless reproductive system gets EVERYTHING wrong so who knows!

@Si1ver it’s after any pregnancy, because we make different antibodies when pregnant which can affect recipient. I’m sorry you had to discuss it there- it’s horrible when it comes up in an unusual setting isn’t it. I was talked into doing an antenatal clinic last Friday (don’t usually) so ended up seeing 20 or so pregnant women in a row. Just what I wanted a few weeks after miscarriage no 3.

Ugh. I've literally just booked to give blood for the first time in years. Might scrape it though but will need to check dates. Sorry you got ambushed Si1ver

Looking your mother-in-law sounds like a bellend - good on MrLooking for blanking her.

Para these are for you for doing clinic on Friday, that must have been utter shite

Turns out by the time I give blood it will have been over six months. Didn't realise how long it had been, given I've only had two periods since. Fucks sake.

Ugh, it was crap finding out it was a problem - Silver that’s horrible when you’re not expecting it to come up.

And Wonky crap for you to find out to worry about it and then do all the maths and realising that you can give blood. Horrible doing all the counting and feeling the passing of time. Thank you for the generous gift of blood to the community. Heroes all of you!

I did get turned away from a blood donor session last year because I disclosed I was TTC. It quite upset me actually, as it is contrary to the guidance on their website (which i had checked in advance) & it just felt like another thing I'd failed at.

Oh, I can't give blood so I'm already a failure at that one!