TTC after pregnancy loss. Thread 17. New Year, new hope for all!

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Oops the other one got full before new one made. Kept the same name to make it easier to find.

@cakelaur it looks like you are probably covered but what’s the harm having another go? I agree with funkyemzie. GL!

@anewhope81 hi I can relate I am going through a miscarriage now and it’s horrible Me and my boyfriend were so excited I’m a healthy 36 an my bf is 45 a bit older but he is in better shape than most 30 year olds but he does like his beer after work an I keep reading if the male drinks a lot it can cause the female to miscarry an that breaks my heart and now I’m afraid to try again :( I mean I am going to ask him to cut down while trying we both had a healthy child with our previous relationships. He takes vitamins and drinks like a gallon of water a day to flush everything out so has anyone on here have a healthy baby even though the dad was a heavy drinker? And over 40?

@Angela1981 no my OH doesn't drink at all but I'm the same age as you and OH is 42, he does rock climbing, mountaineering and works with an outdoors events company so he's very fit. What I'm trying to say is that although your partner may have a drink I wouldn't be too hard on him, although it certainly won't hurt, my OH doesn't drink at all and I'm currently in the middle of an MC too. It's so hard to pinpoint exactly what could have gone wrong. I'm looking at vitamins, I was told to take vitamin D but not what quantity so brought 25mg of it and ive taken it everyday, apparently we are only supposed to have 10mg. Its so tough, we need to look after ourselves. 💗

Evening ladies. May I please join in. I had a surgical miscarriage on Monday after discovering on Valentine's Day (of all days!) that baby didn't have a heartbeat at nearly 9w.

Obviously still early days for us but we want to try again as soon as we feel able. I'm 37 and it took a year to conceive DS who is now 3. This time we fell on first month of trying and was obviously too good to be true.

Recognise some of you from the September board. Sad wave to @PassTheAfterEights and @PumpkinPatch000

I meant it certainly won't hurt to cut down on the beer, not to be hard on him. 🙈

@funkyemzie thanks for your response I won’t be hard on him he is just as upset I just want to make sure when we try again we are both doing everything we can to have a healthy baby I do not want to go through this again :( he had a healthy little girl 6 years ago an I had a healthy boy my son is 13 though we both are active he eats better than me lol it’s just heart breaking I do know a few people who had a a healthy baby even with the father drinking a lot. He doesn’t smoke an drinks a gallon of water a day to flush his system out but I would like if he just cut down not completely stop cause god knows that’s difficult.. an I’m sorry about your loss as well it’s horrible the pains I get are so bad I want to cry.

@funkyemzie I also was told it’s best to try again an get pregnant within the first 3 months after a MC that the percentage rate to have another MC is lower also that you should start taking prenatal pills a month before you start trying to lower the risks of abnormalities in the fetus :) I don’t know that before

Gosh- it took me days to work out that the last thread had filled up and another few days to build up the energy to go through all the posts I had missed. I'm not going to comment on all the happenings, but @Eastend2015 ...

I'm so sorry for you. Although you are a stranger on the internet I was so excited for your bfp. Losing another pregnancy is just shit. No better way to describe it. I'm glad you are feeling positive and hope you get some answers and support at your appointment.

Nothing exciting here. Following someone's advice here (and not being used to OPKs myself) I started OPKs on the 8th dpo. On day 10 i seemed to get a positive one, though no ewcm and earlier than last month. Next day- nothing and day after a line, bit not as strong as the control.

Odd- I'm still testing as the positive was outside the 10 minutes (forgot to look at it). Anyway the extra sex won't hurt.

Where is everyone else in their cycle?

@Angela1981 aww bless him, my boyfriend took it hard too. Its weird isnt it, we have a girl together too, shes 10, we just left it a long time as we both thought we didn't want anymore until 1 day we just did! I had also heard to try quite soon after an MC too but the EPU said to wait until I get my first normal period before trying again but I haven't stopped bleeding yet anyway and not got my negative hpk. I hate all the waiting, I want it to end. Bad times. X

So, thought 5 days to af so why not do a test. Turns out it was a bfp. Don't really know what to say...

@Star88 that's great congratulations!

@funkyemzie yes definitely wait one full normal cycle thats what I meant by within 3 months they want you to at least have 1 norm AF. My situation was similar my bf last few years kept saying he didn’t want more kids even though I told him when we first met that I want 2 kids then all of a sudden he does then this happened so I’m going to keep my hopes high and pray the second time everything goes ok. Also I too am still bleeding been bleeding since Saturday but Monday was the worst where I was actually miscarrying I see the dr. Tomorrow I feel your pain it’s horrible an I really hope you try again and turns out okay .. we can keep each other updated :)

Hi angela, so sorry that you find yourself here. My DH is 36 but a very heavy drinker. We’ve been honest with the drs and they really don’t seem to think it makes any difference. Put it out of your mind, it’ll only cause problems between you x

Ps thank you cookiefiend you are very sweet xox

@Star88 Congratulations always nice to hear of a bfp following MC and definitely gives me hope. How long hasn’t it’s been since your MC? X

Congratulations star!

Sorry @Star88 massive typo 😳 was trying to ask how long ago your MC was!

@Angela1981 yes we can defo keep each other updated. My MC started on 16th Feb but not stopped yet. It will be nice to speak to someone at the same point as me.

@Star88 congratulations, I love to see Bfp's on this thread! X

Congrats @star88 that’s lovely news

@star88 congratulations!! Good to see the BFP’s on here!

@eastend2015 thank you! You made me feel a little better everything I read online from dr.s and who ever se says it can cause abnormalities in sperm an higher risk of the femal miscarrying so I’m glad you Dr. actually said that cause who knows if there is an actually known study about that.. my sister tells me to not believe stuff online

@funkyemzie yes for sure it’s nice to keep in touch with someone going through it as well my miscarriage started sat feb 25th still get bad pains an clots :(

Hi ladies, mind if join?
So sorry there are so many of us in this horrible situation.
I miscarried last week at 10 wks, started bleeding on mon, scan showed no heartbeat on tues.
How soon after mc did you all start ttc again? I was told yesterday at the follow up scan to take a pregnancy test in 3 wks and to absolutely not have unprotected sex in that time. She also said to wait until i had gone through at least one cycle before ttc. Is this just so if I was to get a bfp I could date it or is there there an actual medical reason? I’m desperate to start trying again because I don’t think I could handle not being pregnant by sept (what should have been my due date)
Congratulations to those with bfps, wishing you a healthy and problem-free 9 months.

@Angela1981 my DH is a heavy drinker too and we have a very healthy 2 year old. I also have plenty of men friends who are over 40 and it's not stopping their wives having babies. I agree it's good to try and be healthy but I think MC is so common and more random than just that. I agree to stay away from reading everything online- there's alot of scaremongering! Good luck to you!
@Star88 congratulations!! Have you got a bfp pic!?
@Cookiefiend welcome back. I'm on cd15 and waiting for my positive opk. Fertility acupuncture tonight so hope that brings it on!
@cakelaur what did you decide? Hope you didn't get trapped in the snow!
@rdm10 welcome and sorry you're here. Did the scan yesterday show that you had passed everything? I had to have an ERPC as my body didn't recognise the MMC but once the scan showed the all clear the doc told us we could try again straight away. No need to wait for a period. Might be different though without the surgery?

@Star88 MASSIVE congratulations!! 🎉🎉 how exciting.

@Boboelephant I decided I was too tired to head into London. I didn't finish work til 9 in the end, hubby didn't finish til 10.30! It was snowing. I was hungry. Haha. And I had to be up and in work a little early today. So I didn't go it. Which worked out for the best cos I've just had my third high temp which confirms I ovulated 3 days ago!!! Haha. So would have been a useless trip anyway. So instead I snuggled into bed with a nice hot water bottle.

So it's Official... 3dpo... hello TWW!!! Anyone else in the TWW?