TTC after pregnancy loss. Thread 17. New Year, new hope for all!

[Primrose16]

Oops the other one got full before new one made. Kept the same name to make it easier to find.

I have now gone into symptom overdrive - I've been so tired all day and feeling on / off nausea.

Part of me thinks I'm stupid even thinking it...

But can't help get hopes up... as it will only be more painful eurgh

It's going to be a long seven days!

Honestly, I think your name lives up to all our reputations! 😂 I'm counting down the days now even though i know theres not a huge chance for me. Good luck lovely. X

We are also trying to move house but there's very slim pickings in our village, with that and work being really busy I'm trying to keep myself occupied.

@patienceofatoddler I know how you feel!!! Work isn’t particularly busy - can’t belive it’s only Tuesday!! I have friends visiting this weekend so at least that will keep me occupied but god this 2WW is painful!

Congrats to everyone with BFP’s! So exciting, fingers crossed for sticky beans! 🤞🏼
@timewaitsfornowoman I haven’t had a D&C, I miscarried naturally (however it took two long weeks for me to finally miscarry - such a scarring experience) and I got my first negative test about 1 week after I passed the sac. I ovulated exactly 2 weeks later and af showed up right on time 2 weeks after O! I used OPK’s to track ovulation and just went by CM. I decided to start TTC again immediately, hasn’t happened yet but hopefully it happens soon! Baby dust to you, I’m so sorry for your loss.

I’m 2dpo and I’m already thinking... hmm when can I test? I’m crazy! 😂 I need someone to tie my hands behind my back, all common sense goes out the window during the TWW 🤦🏻‍♀️ I hope I have some sanity left at the end of this month!

@hayleyfx so sorry for your loss! Can I ask how long ago your MC was. x

@Claire138 what day Are you aiming to test on? I'm trying for 12dpo. 🙈

@Funkyemzie thank you! I miscarried 24th December 2017 sadly x

@BabynameEdie haha I think all the men know now that we only jump them in fw!! 😂😂
@Timewaitsfornowoman I had my ERP and only bled for 1 day. 15 days later I had one random episode of bleeding and then got cm the next day. I took a hpt and it was negative and judging by EWCM I think I ovulated 4 days later. So 19 days after erpc. Then had af 13 days later.
@Cakelaur sorry she got you but at least you can blowout this squiffy cycle behind you! Go drink some wine and eat some cake and onto a Christmas baby! x
@Patienceofatoddler I feel your pain!! I'm due to test Thursday at 12dpo and day before af due. My rational brain says maybe wait til Fri or Sat so af is late. The devil part says test Wednesday!! 😣
Thinking of all of you in the 2ww and fingers crossed for us all!!!

@Funkyemzie @Claire138 @Patienceofatoddler @Boboelephant
I want to test now and I think I'm only on 1dpo!! 😫 last time I tested after a holiday as no tests out there and it was positive, but that was about 18dpo...not sure how I'll ever be patient enough!! 🙄
Have to say though, it's a relief to hear other people going through the same, although so horrible that we're all here.
@Boboelephant - I literally pounced on him when he got back earlier! 😂 it's all a bit new to us so he hasn't quite worked out how precise the whole thing has to be!
@Cakelaur sorry af showed but clean slate for next month & Xmas babies 🤞

No idea how that all came out in bold. Promise I wasn't shouting! 😅

Congrats to the bfps!!!
Sorry for the AFs.
Hopefully some Christmas babies though!

@BabynameEdie haha good on you! Yeah my DH says let's jut do it every day twice a day for the whole month. Cover our bases. 😦 Think I'd die!
Yep the waiting doesn't get any easier but the bfns suck so much so that makes it a bit easier.

@timewaitsfornowoman sorry you are not feeling good.
Bugger @cakelaur but know what you mean- rather it come so not in limbo! December babies are the best. My little lady is a December baby.

Wow @boboelephant that’s a mission. Ha ha. I did 3 or was it 4 nights in row. That was enough (haven’t gone near him since, ha ha)

So many in the 2ww at mo.

Haha @Primrose16! Yep that area needed a break after 4 nights back to back! Hopefully it's done the trick though! 🤞🤞
What have you decided to do? Will you test again tomorrow?

@funkyemzie I’ll be testing 11dpo...I got my bfp last time at 11dpo but silly to think like that as I know every pregnancy is different. Going to try really hard to wait to maybe 13dpo but if I get the slightest sign I’ll be POAS 🙈. What are you thinking?

@boboelephant not sure. Thought I would leave a bit longer. I don’t appear to be spotting anymore. But that doesn’t fill me with confidence. I’m so bloated this evening

Congratulations to those who got BFPs! Sending my best wishes to you all. Good luck to everybody else too.

I'm symptom spotting like a crazy lady, veering between thinking AF is on the way or the opposite. I'm 8 or 9 dpo so won't be long until I find out one way or the other.

Hope everyone is feeling ok tonight. I was at a shopping centre today where there were loads of families with young children and it made me feel very aware of my recent loss. My brain always wants to say "why couldn't it have worked out differently for me?" - but I am trying to be firm with myself and not go down that route, as it had to happen to somebody and why shouldn't it be me and I am hopeful of a different outcome in the future. Who knows how many of the people I saw today had also suffered losses before they went on to have children? Anyway, sending good thoughts to anybody who needs it.

My OH actually had a chat with me last night (he's been really worried about me) and he said I take too much responsibility for ttc again. And that he wants to share the burden, so that he's helping too. It was the nicest thing he could have said to me. So reassuring. And it's one of the many reasons that I chose him to be my partner in life!! It makes me feel like there's hope. Our relationship has taken a massive beating over the last couple months.

Hit send before I finished!! Haha
So he's saying he wants to DTD every night from cd10-cd20! Talk about exhausting!! But I love this man so much. It's the first time he's taken charge at all. 😍

@Cakelaur thats lovely, means so much when you can share the load and take some of the burden off yourself

That’s sweet of him @cakelaur

So I was sick this morning 🤢 my 15 month old heard me and was coping making the sounds. Ha ha

Blood results back from EPU and HCg is still at 50. Going back Wednesday 21st to see if they go up or down. Hoping they go up....🤞

Another BFN this morning, no hint of a squinter! Temp still remains high though, due on Saturday. Have my last frer, might not bother using it and wait for AF?!