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Anyone else waiting to TTC?

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happytobemrsg · 09/02/2018 12:53

I thought we could keep each other company while we wait!

Your age/DH age: 29/39
Baby #: This will be #2
When are you TTC: I think we should start in June when DS is 2 but we are so broody it might be sooner
Why are you waiting: We are doing some house renovations at the moment & sorting out some stuff financially. Everything seems a bit up in the air & I can only stress about a couple of things at a time. I'm looking forward to life settling down only to have a newborn mess it all up again Grin
What are you doing to keep busy?: I'm project managing house renovations & enjoying one-on-one time with DS before he (hopefully) becomes a big brother. DH & I are having a huge joint birthday party in September for my 30th & his 40th so I'm enjoying planning that!

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FlapJackered · 17/04/2018 19:25

@NoseringGirl - tricky one, I definitely don't have your will power. I would say there will always be reasons to put it off. I have a holiday booked in August and considered putting it off then, and then we had planned to go to Japan next year so it goes on. If I waited for it all I don't think we would ever start trying. Could you sneakily just get tonics with lime at the wedding and pretend it is a G&T?

Is anyone still having trouble with reluctant DH's? Mine said today. 'So I reckon, if you don't get pregnant within a year, we just call it a day and forget about having children' - he said it in a really upbeat way which worries me? He has said he wants children but has been fairly unexcited/untalkative about it, and stays very quiet when I bring it up. I am going to oil him with Gin this weekend and question him. I just don't know how much excitement to expect from a seriously laid back bloke, but want to make sure he is on side!

NoseringGirl · 17/04/2018 20:03

@dottydally I used a sling a little bit with my eldest but mostly used the pushchair after about 6 months. My youngest doesn't really like the pushchair though and strongly favours the sling. He's still getting carried at 15 months, on my back though as it's more comfortable!
I probably could tell my friends if it happened that quickly and I think the wedding is around a couple of weeks after that period is due. Around the time the sickness really kicks in for me!

@Pinkroseuk I could try the fake drinking. There's almost always shots with that lot and anyone not involved is immediately viewed as pregnant 😂 They know we're thinking about having more kids as well.
I'd give the hospital a call about your appointment just in case the letter has been lost somewhere. I hope the provera does it's job soon!

@FlapJackered you're right that there's probably always going to be reasons to wait a bit longer! I think I'm more nervous about it this time around because I had a bit of PND with DS2. I'm 100% sure I want another one but I think there's definitely some anxiety there that could be influencing me!
My DH wasn't as enthusiastic as me when we were starting to TTC the first time around. I don't usually like to generalise between the sexes etc but I don't think men have the same physical drive to have babies? Once DS1 was born though, my DH was smitten and he was broody before me the second time! Maybe have a chat with your DH to see if there's anything worrying him? The responsibility side of things stressed my DH out quite a bit when it came to the thought of having kids.

dottydally · 17/04/2018 20:50

@NoseringGirl if you are happy telling your friends if it did happen, I'd say to go for it. You never know how long it might take and as @FlapJackered said there will always be something. If you are ready now then I've got everything crossed for you! Star

TheOneWithTheBaby · 17/04/2018 22:47

Hi everyone,

I haven't even thought about cars, pranks and so on. We have a ford we're still paying off so no way can we afford a new one. The pram will just have to fit somehow! Same as the child, as we live close to London and can only afford a two bedroom place. Currently the second room is an office/gym but we have ages to sort that I guess.

My husband would be happy to wait for a few years but he definitely wants children so he is happy to start now.

My GP made a referral to the gybocologist for me but I haven't had a letter. Not sure how long it would take? She seemed to have no idea either, said the appointment would be after may probably (I asked because of my husband being away). I hope the letter didn't get lost though? Would hate to miss the appointment.

TheOneWithTheBaby · 17/04/2018 22:48

Pranks? Prams of course Grin

dottydally · 18/04/2018 08:21

@TheOneWithTheBaby you are probably more normal! I've become a bit obsessed with baby things (but I'm almost pleased as it makes me know it's the right decision for us).

Fords aren't that small either, I'd just say to make sure your pram fits before you buy it! Plenty of time to sort a second bedroom. We are just fortunate to live in an area where property is less expensive so have been able to go for 3 beds. You will be absolutely fine in a 2 bed (baby will presumably spend its first months in your room anyway?). It's all about the love you've got to give, in reality.

Sad news here, they've reviewed my Nan's cancer and have decided it's time to stop radiotherapy (we were 1 week into a 6 week treatment) and have said they now thing it's a matter of days, perhaps a few weeks if we are lucky. I'm teary writing this but I know the fight is lost and we need to make the coming days as good as we can. I am beyond heartbroken. She so desperately wanted great grandchildren and has no idea how close she will have come to it. I'm not sure whether to share our plans with her at this stage or not, but I know I don't have long to make a decision.

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happytobemrsg · 18/04/2018 09:04

Welcome to all the newbies! So glad to see my thread taking off! Sorry I've kinda lost track of it... Blush

We have stepped up house renovations too Jelliestogether NoseringGirl. We did a kitchen extension last year but the tiles kept moving. So we've taken them up & seen the absolutely shocking work the builders did. The kitchen is our day room so everything which was in there is now in my cramped front room. I hate it! But I'm obviously a glutton for punishment. Just finished the garden/gym & starting the bathroom next month.

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FlapJackered · 18/04/2018 09:09

@dottydally I am so sorry. I can’t even imagine how difficult that must be for you and your family. You know your Nan and if you think it would make her happy to know, i would tell her. I know if it was my Gran, she would be over the moon at the news.

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happytobemrsg · 18/04/2018 09:10

@Pinkroseuk what about drinking cranberry juice? I drink that & people always assume it's got vodka in it

Oh @dottydally I'm so sorry to read that about your nan Flowers if it was me I'd tell her about your plans to TTC. Make her a part of your journey. Be kind to yourself xx

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TheOneWithTheBaby · 18/04/2018 09:29

Dotty,

I don't think I'm very normal as I'm quite a planner as well. I think there's just been a lot of other stuff.

Property prizes down here are horrendous and we are lucky we could even buy the two bedrooms. Future children will just have to make do.

And you're right, baby will be with us for at first so there's no rush at all.

I'm sorry to hear about your grandma. I think I would tell her.

I had a dream about being very pregnant last night. Probably to do with my choice of tv just before bed, but I felt slightly sad waking up.

NoseringGirl · 18/04/2018 14:47

I'm so sorry to hear that @dottydally Thanks

Jelliestogether · 18/04/2018 15:42

Got my blood test results back today which were all normal which is great...except still haven't got my period...3 weeks late and 2x negative tests! Going to book a doctor's appointment asap!

@dottydally so very sorry to hear about your nan!

NoseringGirl · 18/04/2018 17:32

@Jelliestogether what did they test for? Hope that period shows up soon! Long cycles are so frustrating.

Pinkroseuk · 18/04/2018 20:25

Thanks @NoseringGirl I gave them a call today.

@dottydally sorry to hear about your Nan- if it was me I would tell her of my plans - there are things I wished I had told my Grandma before she passed away even though I was 14.

Cranberry juice would have been a good idea except there was only vodka and whisky! Yes I like it with cranberry too :)

@Jelliestogether I'm still waiting too about 3 weeks overdue - the waiting is so frustrating!

Jelliestogether · 19/04/2018 06:54

@noseringGirl they just did a standard hormone profile. The good thing is at least it's a long cycle before we actually TTC! Plus luckily my doctors seem good at the moment looking into it!

@pinkroseuk i know its so frustrating! Only a few more months before we have decided to TTC! And it's typical that I have this odd one massively long cycle. Hopefully this one though is kicking our systems back into play...As I've been on the implant/pill best part of 10 years!

FlapJackered · 19/04/2018 07:31

@jelliestogether if you haven’t already I would ask the doctors to print out you blood test results for you. Then do some research on the normal ranges.
You are legally allowed to see the results. Mine came back normal but I asked to see them and my thyroid was only just within the ‘normal’ range but is still high enough to cause a lot of problems. So I am glad I asked.

NoseringGirl · 19/04/2018 07:47

@Jelliestogether I was about to say the same as @FlapJackered! I was told by the GP my hormone levels were normal, but when I asked to see them I noticed that my LH/FSH ratio was out. They were fine on their own but when looked at together it was an indication of PCOS (which I was eventually diagnosed with). I always ask for blood test results now, especially hormone ones!

Jelliestogether · 19/04/2018 20:32

@noseringGirl ans @FlapJackered ... Yup don't worry I've already asked, Just need to go in to collect it. Thanks for the advice though. In the process of booking an appointment to discuss my results as I want more investigations.

RocketPockets · 19/04/2018 21:11

Hope I'm not too late to join!
I'm 26 will be 28 when we start trying, my husband is 31 will probably be 32 when we start trying.
This will be baby number 2 for us, our little boy will be 2 at the end of May.
We are waiting as we are hopefully selling our flat and buying a house and believe that we will get a better mortgage with one dependent rather than two. Not actually sure how true this is but I'd rather get the stress of buying and selling out of the way before we start trying!
To keep myself busy I've started running and we are doing up our flat to make it more appealing when we sell it. I'm also practically living on rightmove zoopla etc looking at houses and I'm obviously looking after my little by who can be a handful! I also work 2 and a half days a week so that keeps me fairly busy as well Smile

NoseringGirl · 19/04/2018 22:38

@Jelliestogether sounds like you've got a good plan, hope the appointment goes well!

@RocketPockets hello! I moved nearly 6 months ago and I'm still addicted to RightMove Blush I love looking at houses! I'm sure the selling and buying process will keep you busy!

FlapJackered · 20/04/2018 11:04

Welcome @RocketPockets - I have so many alerts set up for Rightmove, my house porn obsession! Grin

RocketPockets · 20/04/2018 11:17

Our place isn't even on the market yet but we're just 'seeing what's out there' 😂
I do like to see what's just outside our budget as well though! Makes for good day dreams

RandomUsernameHere · 20/04/2018 22:18

Hi everyone just catching up with the thread.
@dottydally so sorry to hear your sad news about your nan.
@RocketPockets welcome!

AssumeItWasSomethingClever · 22/04/2018 07:58

My broodiness was undercontrol until We spent last night at a friends bbq. OH was playing football with their 4 year old. 😱 I could feel my empty uterus screaming. So broody!!

rollerskaterdata · 22/04/2018 18:57

Hi all, I hope you don't mind me joining in! :) I'm new to MN and could do with help keeping sane I'm so impatient!
Your age/DH age: 26/27
Baby #: #2. DS1 was a surprise baby (although very much wanted!) so I've never actually TTC before, it's all very new and exciting to me!
When are you TTC: September this year (which feels forever away!!)
Why are you waiting: DH is currently doing his PGCE/QTS teacher training year and will qualify in July. He’ll be doing his NQT year in September and again finish that year next July, so a baby born next summer would be ideal (DH would be off school and would be around to spend time with baby). We’re also going to be house hunting in the new year with an aim of moving by next spring/early summer and DC1 starts school next September so we wouldn’t be paying for 2 DCs to go to nursery at the same time. DH and I also have a holiday planned for just the 2 of us this August (first one in 5 years!) so I want to be able to drink/eat what I want for that. I also think one more summer concentrating on and having fun as our family of 3 for the last time would be really lovely.
What are you doing to keep busy?: Nothing to be honest! Blush we only agreed to TTC this year after moving our timeline up from next year September so I'm all flushed and flustered with excitement and can't think of anything else!!

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