Early miscarriage advice urgently needed please

[Not2day]

I’m having an early miscarriage. Started bleeding at 4 weeks 6 days with pregnancy tests getting gradually lighter days before this.
I’ve taken a few days off work and I started bleeding on Sunday. Sorry tmi, but the bleeding wasn’t ridiculously heavy, and probably lighter or as light as my normal period. Seems to have now stopped this morning. I’m so confused and a bit emotional.
I rang to try and make a gp appointment but told to go to a&e
What do I do? I have the midwives triage number, but surely this isn’t something to bother them with? I hadn’t even had my pregnant confirmed. I definitely don’t need a&e.
Is it normal to just stay home and self diagnose this? What if it’s all not come away properly?
What do I do?

I would seee if you can get a telephone call from your GP or midwife in the first instance. I had two miscarriages one like yours that come away naturally at about 6 weeks. I rested at home, cried and took painkillers but still needed checked out professionally and another at a similar time where the baby wasn’t moving or growing and the miscarriage had to be induced in hospital conditions.
Take care of yourself it’s not a nice time.

When I had mine, I self diagnosed and just took painkillers and rested (and ate my weight in chocolate). It's crap, but unless you are showing symptoms of it not being 'complete' (pain, fever etc) then there isn't anything a doctor could do. I really wouldn't go to a&e.

Thanks. I just didn’t know if self-diagnosing was sensible (even though I know what’s happening). But it’s reassuring to hear that’s normal to do. I am not going to a&e. I’m not in significant pain. I just wondered because I’ve taken time off work does it need to on my gp record. I’m probably just over thinking everything really
Thank you

I had an early mc last October and the bleeding was lighter than my normal af. I went to the GP who did beta blood tests on the day I started bleeding and 48hrs after. This confirmed that my hcg levels had dropped.

In your case I’d probably take another test in a couple of days, if negative then unfortunately you’ve confirmed a mc and if positive then ring EPU and explain what’s happened. After 6 weeks they can scan and see a sac on the screen.

Same here @Not2Day started this morning, same stage. Total shit.

I rang the local EPU first thing at MN's suggestion and spoke to a lovely lady, said they were glad I called and talked me through the next few days. Said to test in 5-7 days to be sure it's over and if positive to go and see them for a scan to confirm either way, in the meantime take paracetamol / codeine if pain relief / sleep are needed.

If you're feeling anything like me then I hope it's over soon for you, will think of you. x

@Not2day @PassTheAfterEights Hugs for both of you. I started bleeding on Friday and went to A&E on my doctors advice. They scanned and found an empty sac and took bloods to confirm. I'm going back for a scan on Monday to check it's complete. It's so shit. I was so excited.

There's not really any point going to the Dr's at this early stage unless you test positive still after the bleeding has stopped. I went on the first day of my miscarriage and they were worse than useless. I asked him about the blood test to confirm that my hcg was dropping and he refused and said they only do that if they suspect an ectopic pregnancy. I realise there is nothing they can do to stop it but a bit of sensitivity would have been nice or at least to have an answer rather than having to wait and see. I hope everything works out for you x

I'm sorry for your loss, OP.
If you have an EPU I'd recommend contacting them for advice. I wouldn't go to A and E tbh.

I had a miscarriage last month at six weeks, and they wanted to do blood tests to confirm that everything was proceeding properly. They may want to do that with you, if your blood loss doesn't seem heavy.

The midwives triage number seems like a good place to start, even if you hadn't had your booking in appointment with them.

Look after yourself, OP.

Call 111, it may well be a early miscarriage but you need to get it looked at and some advice needed. This can be a dangerous time as you are open to infection etc if your not looked after properly believe me I have been through it myself, please get some help.. now and if it is am so sorry to hear x

Please don’t go to A&E unless the bleeding is really bad. As hard as it is right now it isn’t a medical emergency so you don’t need to be in A&E, the winter crisis is still ongoing and they are overstretched as it is.

If you feel that you need to be seen, which is understandable, then try the EPU. But in my experience they won’t see you until you are at least 6 weeks as before then nothing can be seen on a screen. As I was 5w2d when bleeding started they refused to see me and told me to call the GP. I was lucky that they were sympathetic and they did the bloods but again this isn’t a given as every surgery seems to differ.

I’m sorry you’re going through this it’s absolutely the shittiest of the shit end of the stick.

I think the general advice is unless you are soaking through a maternity pad every hour (or half hour I can't remember) to just ride it out at home and these again two weeks later to ensure you get a negative test.

My EPU will not see you until 8 weeks as there is not a lot they can do before then.

I'm really sorry for your loss and the uncertainty is awful.

I am so sorry, it’s a horrible time. I would also recommend calling your EPU - I did and they were very helpful. Mine didn’t come away naturally- despite all the bleeding - and I had to have my HCG measured and eventually a D&C. If I’d waited I think I would have assumed I’d have passed it when I hadn’t.

Take care of yourself, and feel what you feel, don’t try and be strong if you’re feeling wobbly. It bit me in the bum pretending I was okay, and I crashed 6 months later. There’s lots of support there for you, and we’re all with you xx

New here and just want to say that I'm so very sorry for everyone's losses, and I'm equally inspired by your strength and courage through it all.

I have been TTC for 2 years and had a miscarriage in June at 9 wks. It was devastating, as you all know, and while I'll never get over it, I'm beginning to think I might be ready to try again soon, come what may. Have addressed some health issues and improved my diet, hoping we will have a better chance this time round.

Thanks for being such a supportive bunch, and I am sending you all good thoughts, healing energy, and lots of baby dust. Xx

Not2Day: I am so sorry you're going through this. It's so difficult and I wish I could make it easier for you. I'm in the US and not familiar with your system in the UK, but when I was experiencing my loss, it did take several days and I had lots of worries and questions about what was happening. Something I found helpful was calling my doctor to ask questions and express my worries, and receive information that helped me feel like the natural process was occurring as it "should". Could you speak to a midwife? Though it's complete shit, speaking to someone with the medical knowledge of the process was somewhat of a comfort for the physical part. She could help ease some worries and offer some advice. I hope you're able to get some answers that can assuage some of your worries.

As for the emotional part, that is more complicated and takes more time. Remember to be good to yourself, be gentle and kind to yourself and do what you need to do to feel okay. Rest, eat nourishing foods, give yourself permission to grieve. We're all here for you xx