STILL TTC your first baby

[nomoremagnolia]

Thought someone better start a new thread as we're getting close to the 1000 mark!
Ready - what's your question?

Just to say I am here and reading but haven't been posting much.
Have a good break Ready!

Hello everyone
How are we all? I've had a lovely catch up with the thread. I'm still having problems sleeping which is very irritating.

Ready enjoy your break (if you're even reading this! and see you very soon!)

Bella how's the knitting?

gilly I'm in London too and Woodmouse is right, no one in London is from London! DO you know where you'll be looking to live? when is this all happening?

woodmouse I think we must live fairly close to each other. I'm nr Q's Pk. what about you?

pinkelephant how are you?

graysongirl hope you're feeling a bit happier.

seaside congras

everyone else Sorry for not doing individual mentions! how are you?! What's going on? Why is this thread so quiet?!

Today's Thrilling Question: how are you all keeping track of when you're ovulating?
Are you using TCOYF? or OV kits? or Persona like me? (CD6/7 red day today )

My basic method of working out when I am ovulating is to take away two weeks from when I expect my period (today or thursday) and then wait for my mood to disintegrate!

I'm here too, have been keeping up but not posting - sorry!
Ready have a lovely break - hope it does you the world of good.
re ovulation - I have totally given keeping track of it at all, was temping for a few months but all it did was make me worry!
Actually have given up on a lot of the ttc stuff -keep forgetting to take folic acid and haven't been near any evening primrose oil/b6/grapefruit juice for about 3 months. can't even be bothered with waving my legs in the air after the act anymore.

Don't apologise nomoremagnolia! Life is busy!! And sometimes it's hard to know what to post, that's what I find anyway. Why were you taking eve prim oil?
I haven't done the waving of legs in the air thing yet!
I can imagine that temping is quite stressful and I am usually so bloody grumpy in the morning that I would forget to take temp!

Bella-do you think ovulation is realted to mood then?
I was quite surprised with my Persona - it's not 2 weeks for me, I have a fairly short cycle - about 25 days (though has been 29 in the past) and I ovulate on about day 9-11 according to my persona.
Must get on with work now.

Back soon
pinkmartini x

EPO is meant to help lengthen LP as is b6 and grapefruit juice. you take it up to ov.

Ready - enjoy your break away from MN and have a lovely time relaxing.

Pinkmartini - we are close! We live in Maida Vale/Little Venice, although I've lived all over London from Clapham to Shoreditch. Sorry to hear about the trouble sleeping, which must be very frustrating and wearying. Aveda do this stuff called "blue oil" which you can rub on your pulse points to help you relax - it smells a little menthol-y and a bit of lavender. I found it helped me sleep - I used it before going to bed to stop me waking up and stressing.

I'm not very mathematical in calculating ovulation (not temp-ing). So far I've counted days and checked EWCM -luckily, I've always been regular as clock-work. At the moment, it's early days of TTC (month 4). DH travels so much, I don't want to get too obsessed and then find he is away at my most fertile time/panic/blame him. There is nothing we can do then and so while I'm hopeful and trying to be informed as possible, I am being un-scientific and hoping for the best. I'll probably change my mind as the months go on.

Is it just me, or is everyone we know PG? . Of my three oldest and bestest friends, two are PG due in July and October and the other had her first in December. It would be great to get Pg around now - a spring baby, light evenings and a summer of being in the park with DC. Oh, I'm getting all wistful.

Hello everyone, is anyone there? This thread is so quiet at the moment - I've also been guilty of just lurking an not posting, as not much is happening with me at the moment!!

In Readys abscence I think we need a juicy question - I think I'll go and get my thinking cap. Anyone else?

as for seeing when I ovulate, well i'mpretty rubbish I'm afraid, as I don't seem to get ewm, so I've started preseed. I've bought a thermometer and have started dxperimenting with the temping malarket, but it is very hit and miss. It sounds silly, but I/m scared it will show I am not ovulating or something, and that it will end up stressing me out even more.... do you think I need counselling..?

Hi Kensgirl... I think it's a low time and quiet too

I am really soul destroyed about ttc number one not working.

Then you get all these people with threads where they can't believe they're pregnant! A line is a line and really whilst having more than one is definitely what I want at least they know they can have one.

Still maybe its human nature to never be happy with your lot.

How are you doing how long have you been ttc?

Hey Ready hugs on their way to Manchester.

Hi City! How are you? I'm Ok, just finding it the same as you, it feels like forever that we have been trying, since we got married last August. The 1st month possible (timing it right)I got pg, and found out in October, but then had a miscarriage in December. When I 1st found out I was pg after such a short time I was gobsmacked, and couldn'treally believe it was so easy, after the mc I sort of knew we would not be so lucky a second time - here we still are...Still, it may be just around the corner, hm? How long has it been for you? I'm beginning to feel old and spinsterish..

Kensgirl, seriously, I could have written your post myself, word for word. (Except mc was in jan/feb).
Without being too saccharine, it's is really helpful to come on here and listen to everyone going through a similar thing.

Hi Bella, hope you are OK,hon. Its amost a relief isn't it to know that others are going through a similar thing, and that you can just say whats in your heart and head without boring anyone or risking them avoid you like it is contagious...

When I sit and think about it I know it i very early days and there is no need to be feling worried yet, especially when many others here are much further down the line, having tests and going through all sorts of private torture, so I hope no-one thinks I'm being glib or self pitying- really, I do try and keep stuff in perspective

Hope everyone is well today

If it hurts, it hurts; there's no hierarchy of pain when it comes to TTC. Sometimes the little things hurt more than the big things and sometimes finding out there's a problem actually makes you feel better. I don't know how it works, just go with what you feel and don't apologise for it.

Hi No more magnolia. How are you doing today?

Hello
I'm feeling a bit mopey today.
Feeling fat and frumpy (the weight I'd lost at the beginning of this thread has come back) - I changed my eating habits becasue the diet I was successfully losing weight on isn't good if you're TTC.
But dh and I both so tired that BDing isn't happening as often as it should so I feel like I'm never going to fall pg. Even though the rational side of my brain knows I've only been consiously trying for a few weeks really.
Have four friends with babies on the way and starting to get really envious.
Of course I'm scared of it all but I'm also so impatient with it all.
Sorry none of this makes sense really.

woodmouse - think we live really v close to each other by the way. I'm q nr Paddington Rec. How bout you?

Hi PinkMartini - saw you on the BB thread last night!
Mope away......

Hi bella = that thread was moving so fast that I couldn't keep up - I have pledged to Twiglett that I won't watch this year. I hope I can keep that promise. It will stop us going to bed so late and mean that we can get other things, er done!
I am trying to cheer myself up.

yes, I am stalking you - I replied

LOLOL at stalking. Right. Am off to make something of the day (or what's left of it!)

Pinkmartini - if you live by Paddington Rec then we really are close. I just off Elgin Ave. I bet someone in RL has recognised me now! Don't be depressed - and if you want to let off steam here, then do. Nomore is right - there is no hierarchy of pain. And As for feeling fat and frumpy, you're in good company - I feel exactly the same. I have a wedding to go next week and I was shopping for something to wear last weekend as nothing fits me - utterly depressing . I was trying on dresses in the shop and they all looked terrible and DH said "you'll need to do something". I burst into tears. That's is not like me at all. He didn't mean it unkindly, but he knew I wasn't happy. I used to be fit and sporty. Not now. I'm dreading going to this wedding as everyone there will be in designer outfits. I suppose if TTC works, then feeling depressed at my bodyshape won't matter so much because it will all change anyway.

It's quiet on the thread at the moment because everyone is low and there is nothing exciting to report.

okay, I have a question - do you still drink when TTC? I haven't been as abstemious as I should and I'm feeling guilty because I went out and got really drunk last night with one of my oldest friends - we were celebrating birthdays and her flat purchase. I had such a nice time and then the realisation this morning that having a bottle of wine and another glass wasn't a good idea. I'm now panicking that maybe I am PG and I have damaged my baby

it is habitual heavy drinking that can damage a baby, not one night.

Lecture over - have been having the odd glass.

that sounded waaaay harsh. You are fine, you haven't done anything wrong. And you probably gorgeous. (I left out the probably the first time I typed that and it sounded like I really was a stalker, 'cos honestly I don't know what you look like)

I don't feel very gorgeous, but thank you Bella . Don;t worry about sounding harsh and we know you're not a stalker. I'm absolutely dreading this wedding as I don't really know anyone (DH's mates) and they are all v smart/work in fashion PR types, so I'll be a right ugly betty

In a complete reversal, I've now got my fingers crossed that I am NOT pg this month for fear i have pickled the poor blighter. I'm of the view that a lot of the don't eat this and don't do that stuff in pregnancy is over-blown and can't imagine why one glass of wine once a week could be considered in-utero child abuse, but a bottle and then some in one night is worrying me. But it's done now.

hello Pink Martini - sorry to see you are having a down day, I am also feeling like a fat old completely unattractive frump, so much so that when I was watching Ugly Betty last night I felt I was a dead ringer for her.

Still, Woodmouse a glass of wine helped....... I've not given up entirely, but don't drink enough to be even tipsy, at the most on Sunday over the course of around 8 hrs (christening...} I had about 4 halfs of lager and lime (HUUGE sacrifice as I am more a g and t gal} and 2 Baileys (yum). Itsounds a lot when I read it now though, but I kind of think that I still got pregnant before, and that it may even help...(especially if you are 14 and socialise at a bus stop or are a trashy celebrity...yes, I'm slapping my own wrists ). Then agin, that went wrong didn't it, so maybe I should be completely teetotal and organic, as Spugs unkind friend suggested.

Hi to Bella, Nomore and everyone else too x

Thanks guys.
Woodmouse - really don't worry about it. My sister went to her best friend's wedding, was up until the wee hours, smoking cigars, drinking shots with the boys not to mention all the champagne and wine before hand and then was sick the next morning. She thought she just couldn't handle her booze any more. But no, it was just my nephew making his presence known!
My persona light is red today so heading off for an early night.