Thou shall not tell everyone to eat Yams

[juneybean]

Welcome all anti-fertile fuckers! This is our clique for those trying longer than 6 cycles and are pretty fed up.

Here are our Fucked Off TTC Commandments

• Thou shall not arrive one day and post BFP next day
• Thou shall not give advice to other when TTC for one month only
• Thou shall not participate in one-up-manship and realise TTC is shit for everyone in different ways
• Thou shall allow posters to be fucked off with the world and everything in it at regular points in the month
• Thou shall not be offended by strong language
• Thou shall not tell everyone to eat yams
• Thou shall accept being called a muppet for testing at 7dpo at 9pm at night

Our spreadsheet which includes what supplements (and potatoes) we are trying in our journey to motherhood.

Urgh @NimbleKnitter that sounds shitty. I’m sorry.

I’ve been really down the past few days (all af days) dh said he was feeling really down and concerned about it the day I came on which ended up with me crying and apologising for being a dried up old cow. This then descended into an argument about me “taking no action” etc.
No sure why I need to take the action - I’ve been pregnant before (in my early 20s before I met dh). He’s never even had so much as a scare. If there’s a problem, it’s more likely to be him but there’s no tactful way of saying that so I’m keeping quiet.
We’ve sorted it now anyway.

But I’ve been misery eating and have put on half a stone. So now I feel like and ugly, fat dried up old cow.

And yesterday I was in a foul mood and had a headache all day. So today I’m working from home as I’m best not being around anyone tbh.
If next month is a no joy and then I’ll ring the Drs. I really don’t want to as it’s like admitting there’s a problem

Not heavily - but I’d specifically told her I wasn’t drinking because I’d given up alcohol, but told her i wasn’t pregnant (she asked!)

Maybe when I said no, she didn’t know how to tell me she was. But we’d just been talking about other friends of ours were pregnant, and how we were happy for them because they’d been trying for a year.

Either way - there’s just two of us left now, and the other one is having real problems (laparoscopy in jan to check for blocked tubes) so feel like I can’t complain to her

There’s no shame in admitting there’s a problem.

It really helps just having some answers.

Better to know now than to keep trying without addressing any underlying issue.

Well you can always whinge to us.

I have just rung the GP. No non emergencies til early next month! I have not long moved so looking to register elsewhere anyway.

It is better to know I am sure but still nervous of finding out.

Hi everyone, I am going crazy. I thought AF had arrived on Tues but it has never kicked in & for the past two days it's been zilch.

I got my hopes up & did a test - but a massive BFN! 😪😪😪

Hi @LovePinaColada I'm the same, AF due Tuesday big fat negative today but still no sign of AF 😫😫

lovepina oh no, hate stark white tests, they’re the worst :( I had this a couple of cycles ago. Af was due, got nothing. Had a bit of brown spotting next day then nothing for two days but was getting bfn then 4 days after af was due, she finally showed up. Our bodies can be such dicks sometimes. I hope af doesn’t show for you though!

@LimpLettice I’m going to give Vitex (agnus castus) a go alongside vit b to try and ovulate earlier, raise progesterone and extend lp, also @Si1ver recommended topical progesterone cream which I may try too. I think low progesterone is my issue as short lp and may have contributed to my mc.

@LovePinaColada I didn’t get a bfp until 3days after af was due last time so keep testing x

@RhiBee29 if you're going down the pc route, remember that it's post ovulation only. You probably know that, but thought I'd mention it just in case.

Hi ladies, hope you don't mind me joining in.. Been reading this thread and have found it so helpful knowing there are other ladies out there struggling with this too. My stats are:
TTC:1
35 (DP older)
Cycle 14
DP had sperm check, declared 'good'.
Diagnosed with PCOS 3 months ago
On Metformin, evening primrose oil and conception supplements.

After no AF at all for four months, after my HyCoSy and a month of Metformin I managed a classic 28 day cycle for the first time since TTC last month, which I was unreasonably happy about. This month was my first on 50mg of clomid, after 3 scans it seems to have done absolutely nothing, (despite some serious cramping on one side, and other potential ovulation signs) so I am back to square one next month with 100mg clomid and even more internal scans (yay). I stupidly got my hopes up and thought that after the metformin seemed to have helped with my cycle that the clomid was going to be the final push to a BFP.. Which was stupid of me. So I'm currently waiting to see if AF will turn up on her own... My doc told me to POAS if AF doesn't turn up 'just in case'.. But it's ten days away and I am already dreading doing it because I am sick of seeing BFN...

Thanks @Si1ver i didn’t know that 👍🏼

Hello ladies just thought I'd check in. Still lurking in here! Can't bring myself to post on any of the pg boards as I read them and cringe at many of the posts. Just feel they're not my kind of people!
One of my friends told me yesterday she's 6 weeks preg, 1st month of trying. Her daughter was the result of an accidental pg too. How to cope when your mate is a fertile fucker?! She's been a bit judgey about how many tests I've done and how much I must have spent. Totally doesn't get TTC and the anxiety a long journey with miscarriages can cause.

Another negative on 13dpo and I feel like I could cry 😢
Moving on to cycle 10 and feeling royally fed up

Summer I’m sorry, that’s rubbish. I’ve found that it is impossible for someone who hasn’t tried to TTC longterm to comprehend what a struggle it is and how it consumes you. I half managed to explain to a friend of mine the other night after a few glasses of wine. I will admit there have been a few times I’ve done the whole ‘ I’m happy that you’ve managed to fall pregnant so quickly but I’m sure you can appreciate that it’s difficult for me currently so it would be great if I could have some space’ a few times because I’ve found slapping a smile on and acting as if I’m okay just means those fertile fuckers feel like they can tell me all of the details.

I agree and the judgy can fuck off. Nice and easy if you just fall like that, but leave us to our madness.

Mama dirty great bfn here this morning too. Plus a few cramps last night, although no more spotting since yesterday afternoon. I’m so fucking sick of this. I’m only 10dpo, and part of me knows it’s too early anyway but the spotting is the giveaway. It is so annoying my brain is whispering implantation but it it isn’t. I bet I’m bleeding rivers just in time for our big night away (DP thinks I don’t know about the engagement ring he has packed) which is pants.

Limp I know it wasn’t the point of your post but OH MY GOD engagement ring! Well that’s super, super exciting! I got married 2 months ago and can confirm it is indeed the best day of your life plus I’m a wedding photographer if you know what I’m saying

I’m tracking my cycles and they’re varying between 24 and 34 days.

That seems to be a new thing for me, I was fairly regular before I had ds, then no periods for 18m until I’d weaned him totally. Now it’s all over the place. Is that a bad thing?

Errr limp engagement ring?!! How exciting!! Still trying to convince my OH to pop the question after almost 5 years together lol

Hahaha Just. Never really been the marrying kind but we have been talking about it for ages and have found a venue. No, what are you saying?!

I don't know for certain tonight is the night, but DD gave me a massive hug, told me she is so happy for me and she loves me when I waved her off to school this morning and I already know he has told her a secret - she has been bursting with it but managed to keep it quiet. I will post a pic if it is - would be SO nice to have something bloody positive to post on this thread!

How long since you weaned, Anti? Mine came back early despite BFing for a thousand years but took quite a while to settle down.

Ooo @LimpLettice - so exciting! Spread the positive news even if it's got nothing to do with TTC! We will still take it! 💍

Sorry to hear about the BFN's - my BFN's also continue. I am now two days late for AF with teeny bits of spotting - just wish the bitch would hurry up. 😪 😡

Oh wow limp that is very exciting! Do let us know . Also sorry to hear you got a crappy bfn too.

I feel totally fed up today!

@Bubblegum89 ask him! I asked mine!

Pretty sure I’d still be waiting otherwise

bubblegum, you a re not allowed my dp and I have been together for 7 years and dp doesn't want to get married

@LimpLettice ooh exciting! Have a great night!

I'm currently off work with the cold, psyching myself up to do some housework. I've already watched Lizzie McGuire and some romantic horsey film about a city girl moving to the countryside (I can dream!).