Is feeling very jealous when a new baby born a sign its time to try again?

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I have two kids, 7 and 3 and had an ectopic preg in December

Not sure when to try again but 2 babies have bee n born in the family/friends in last week or so and I get such a massive ACHE when I hear about them

It is time to give it another go?

If you feel ready - go for it. Good luck

I really don't know. But the only time I had been jealous (or envious) about something was a friend's new house but that didn't make me go and buy a house like hers, I got the one that suit me and my family better. So, choose your time according to your needs... if you think you are ready, go ahead, if everything tells you to wait a little bit more, please do. It's not a race

Its odd because when I am being rational I can look it at cold and think well, its good not to have 3 because X, Y and Z but different things keep happening and I automatically relate it back to how far in my pregnancy I should be by now etc etc etc

That's just part of the grieving process, you aren't over it yet, you won't be for a while. Figure out if you can go through it all yet again because you will have a lot emotionally to deal with because of the loss of your LO in December.

I'm sure you have done this in the past but, would writing the pros and cons in a list would help to get a better picture?

I want another one, but it is definitively sooo not the time, so... I'm slowly trying to accept the idea there won't be another