We're ovulating again, so let's jump our men. It's TTC after miscarriage thread 11

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Not sure if I should start new thread for this? Is there one open already?

BFN Dancing Pretty gutted. 14DPO so I'm out. Pissed off, disappointed, resolving not to test until I'm late next cycle. Doing what the consultant says and testing early is doing my fucking head in.

Oh Anne- it is sooo hard!!! Currently sat in my car having a little cry! Feel like a complete nutter I tested today, 9DPO, I know it's early, but I also know even when it's time it'll be a BFN. I really hope your day gets better. I have cancelled seeing a friend tonight at she is due in September and if I hadn't miscarried on Feb I would be one week ahead of her- I just can't face it today.

Welcome ladies, sorry for my depressive post- down day!

I'm so sorry anne. I think that's been my issue this time. Are you being asked to test early?

I'm so sorry Anne. :( I can't even say that's my issue, as I am officially late today, so only tested a day early. Stupid limbo land I'm in. It's rubbish that you're having to put yourself through this.

If AF isn't late yet, maybe there is still some hope? I'm so sorry, wanted it so badly for you this cycle!

So sorry for the BFN Anne. And for the uncertainty for you Dancing.

Star hugs for you. Sometimes you've got to just think of self-preservation. Try and do something nice tonight just for you, eat something special or watch a great film.

Thank you xx So stupid, hardly the worst thing that's happened to me this year is it! Or any of, by a long bloody shot.

Just frustrated. Where is my baby???????? See? Today I'd give anything to just be pregnant again and the anxiety I felt about the idea yesterday seems absolutely bloody ridiculous.

Yeah, it's the RMC consultant ek, he has me on aspirin from ov, but I have to switch from that to clean injections asap, bit like you changing your thyroid meds, and with my last mc he said it was probably chromosomal and would have happened anyway but there was a small chance if I'd started the jabs earlier it would have worked Talk about no added pressure.

So as instructed I'm literally pissing money away every single naffing month so I can catch it early enough and know I've done everything I can for it. But I'm not honestly sure it's worth my mental health.

Sorry you're having a shit day Starshine (and I do love your username), you're absolutely right to cancel. I don't have anyone I see regularly who's pregnant apart from work people and that's completely different.
Plan a nice meal, or a tub of ice cream, bottle of wine, long bubbly bath, walk, shagathon, TV binge for tonight instead?

ek, please tell us you're cosy and at home not soldiering on today? How are you doing?

How are you Dancing? So gutted for you. Ovia says AF not due till Monday but I ovulated CD10 for sure, so it's been two weeks.

So terribly sorry for what you've been through Impala, rachel, Jen and tea. How I wish people didn't have to join us here and could have avoided their losses and pain.

But it's a friendly sort of place and the other posters have literally kept me going on the shitter days. I'm always torn between relying on their help and support and hoping they'll sod off to the pg after mc thread asap with happier days ahead!

You're very welcome here, no such thing as TMI, emotional or physical, everyone gets it, and in the nicest possible way, I hope you're not here too long x

Anne ❤️

My spotting is coming and going. Gets redder and heavier one minute and then will stop for a few hours. I'll obviously be gutted if when it ends, but if it's going to end I wish it would happen quickly and not keep taunting me!!

So sorry to so many new people. Like Anne says, I wish you didn't have to be here, but people have been so lovely over the past three months or so.

Welcome to all the new people - it is such a crappy time but the ladies on this thread are so so so v v lovely and supportive !
So so so sorry for the bfn @anne - I wanted so badly for you to have a bfp this month - sending you a huge in mumsnetty hug!
@dancing - another hug for you - the limbo is the absolute worst part!!! Fingers crossed this is an implantation bleed and all is well! Xx
Hug for you too @ekphrais! - how are you doing today? Hope you're snuggled up at home!
I had a v down evebing yesterday - found out yet more mums at school and a lady at work were expecting number three! Sway between thinking it will never happen for us and having huge resolve that it will and I just need to
Keep plodding on!!! The distractions are keeping me sane- off on another diabetes kids camp tomorrow for the weekend where I won't even have time to draw breath! I m taking time to proces sit all - saw our amazing counsellor earlier in the week but I know my best coping mechanism is to do the things I love and luckily for me work is one of them!
The fingers crossed fertile week next week!!!!
Let's hope we all have a much better few days !!! Xxxxxx

Dancing hi, your support on previous threads has really helped me. Where are you up to now sorry? Did you get a bfp then spotting or are you due af? X

Thank you Anne TMI is my middle name at the moment haha

Really hope this is implantation spotting dancing! Have my fingers crossed for you!

Conker-well done with keeping going, you're exactly right in that's what we need to do. Sounds like a very busy weekend for you! Thanks Anne and flash- am going to have lots of ice cream tonight I think!

Don't worry about tmi tea- doesn't feel like there is such a thing anymore 😀

Hope you're doing ok Epk and you are relaxing as much as you can- look after yourself

Thanks ladies.
@Starshine1 I have a similar one: the week we were going to announce our pregnancy(wk14), but we had the scan and found out we'd miscarried, was the same week my OH's cousin announced theirs. They would have been almost identically timed, so every time I see the latest bump pic on Facebook, it's like: 😩
Obviously very happy for them, but...😩😩😩

Tea I got a bfp yesterday morning. So it's incredibly early, but still frustrating and upsetting. It'll be alright though, one way or another!

I've got everything crossed so tight for you Dancing.

All you tempers, does it give you an idea of when it's worth bothering to poas? i.e. can you get an inkling from that before you waste a load of money and hope? How much notice do you get about af coming if it's going to?

dancing, that is a shitty kind of limbo! Do you have pain when you're bleeding or is it just bleeding? Any other symptoms?

I know exactly what you mean, with my last one I knew it was coming after the bloods, but didn't have a clue when. That was more of a waiting to start bleeding thing than where you are. I knew it was on its way when I got crippling back ache which I get with af, but this was even worse.

Miami had loads of bleeding and I think she's still all good.

Anne my temp definitely drops usually the day before/day of AF so I could avoid wasting POAS I still do it anyway like an HT though

That's useful, thank you flash. How long have you been doing it?

I've been thinking about it for a while, especially after Bertie shared her wisdom as she's quite a pro. Can you recommend a thermometer? It might be worth a go next cycle. Nothing wrong with being a HT, but I could do without wasting so much bloody money on disappointment.

Sorry for moaning so much today. A BFN is nothing to whinge about compared with what some people have been through this week, I do know that! Just having a self indulgent rant but I'm done now, promise.

This is the v v right place to come to rant away @anne!!!!
I have to say even if I had a temp sign af was on way I'd prob still be the eternal optimist and think 'could be wrong ' and poas anyway!!!! Thank goodness of ic's for feeding my habit! If it's not pregnancy tests it's opks!!!!!
I am feeling incredibly proud of myself right now as I ran 8k!!!!!!! After all the bad news of last week and the third miscarriage I needed to do it for me to show me that my body still knows how to do something right! And it does! Feel absolutely amazing right now!!!!

Yes Anne, this is my second month temping and noticeable drop day before AF. Although that includes this cycle, so clearly not definitive?! I've found it very helpful, and less stressful than opks, in conjunction with monitoring cf.

Just bleeding, not really any significant pain.

I temped for 3/4 months at end of last year/early this year as I wanted to make sure I was ovulating after my ectopic before we started trying again. And then I've just started again this month as I was determined to DTD lots in fertile week, as I OVd randomly on CD10 last month and missed it! I like the consistency of it. I've had random symptoms, strange spotting, but when it's on a chart, I can see that what's happening inside my body is pretty reliable, despite the external craziness!

Really useful to hear how it works for you. Can anyone recommend a decent thermometer for a beginner and a good way of charting temps? Worth sticking it in my Ovia, or try something else?

Assuming I stay a HT whatever else I try, might get some ICs as well. I've never used one before. Do you have to wee in something rather than on them? Amazon?

Thanks for kind words. I think I've dealt worse with this one emotionally! Brain not processing very well. conker you are inspiring me, you sound so upbeat after so much going on!

Dancing, I hope it works out.

Can I check what HT is pls?

Temping- I noticed really noticeable patterns with my son, dip before ov and then raise and a further raise later on. I conceived the first time I tried. Opks were useless but I didn't do them 3 times a day then! We just did it every other day till after the first temp raise.

This 'pregnancy' there was a noticeable extra raise on dpo 10, tested positive on day 12 I think (memory hazy!)

I'm so tuned in now I can actually feel the temp raises in my body over night. And the pre ov dip.

I've used a bog standard thermometer from boots in the past. It doesn't have the two decimal places so rounds up or down. I haven't noticed a big issue with that actually. This time I used the other one I'd bought with 2 decimal places. It's annoying as I can't feel the button and it doesn't remember the temp after going off as the boots one does. Sometimes I have to take it at 5 am then go back to sleep but can't! So it's more accurate but the boots one is more user friendly! With that one you can go back to sleep and quickly catch it when you next turn it on.

Anne I bought a thermometer from amazon. Around £16, with 2dp. It has a basic memory function, and seems to do the job. There are cheaper options.

Ics also from amazon, but although 'sensitive' my experience is they need a few days longer (than frer) to show anything. But they are significantly cheaper!!

Conker well done on your run!! Very impressive!

Oh and Bertie recommend fertility friend over Ovia for temping, which I would be inclined to agree with after a couple of months.