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Don't know who the father is

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Happymummy120 · 06/06/2017 18:48

Hi there I need some help
I had my last period on the 29th of April I'm 5w3d pregnant
I had unprotected sex with a guy1 on the 12/13 of may we was a bit drunk and I'm not to sure if he came in me
Then I had unprotected sex with guy2 on the 20th of may and he came in me I'm not really sure who the father is if
If anyone could help would be amazing
Thank you

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LedaP · 06/06/2017 18:50

No one can tell you. Not even who it is more likely to be.

Go get an sti check though. For you and the health of your baby.

Mummamayhem · 06/06/2017 18:50

More likely number 1 but obviously you won't know for certain without a dna test after the birth.

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Happymummy120 · 06/06/2017 18:55

Mummamayhem: Why do you with it is most likely guy1

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disneykid · 06/06/2017 18:56

If there was only a weeks different you won't be able to know for definite without a DNA test after.

Would they both be willing to stand up to it?

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Happymummy120 · 06/06/2017 18:59

Guy2 wouldn't really stand up for it, that's why I'm hoping it guy1 baby, so there is no hope in knowing now, I didn't all these conception calculators and it all lead back to guy1 I'm just so confused

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Firenight · 06/06/2017 19:02

The only way to be sure is a DNA test. But that's irrelevant at this stage really!

Do you want to go ahead with the pregnancy? Are you in a viable position (emotionally, financially, life plans wise etc) to go it alone if you do?

Bythebeach · 06/06/2017 19:03

If you have a set-your-watch-by-it regular 28 day (from day 1 of your period to day 1 of next period), it is more likely to be guy 1 (ovulation occurs 14 days before period starts). But even if you are that regular, a child deserves definitite paternity so I think a small test is unavoidable.

Bythebeach · 06/06/2017 19:04

Sorry to be clear- if you are reg 28 day with period due 27 May then you would likely have ovulated around 13 May therefore guy 1 more likely......

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Happymummy120 · 06/06/2017 19:05

Yes I'm going ahead with the pregnancy and yes I can do it by myself but who wants to do that, feel really stupid all this is stressing me out and I shouldn't be stressing at a time like this

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Bythebeach · 06/06/2017 19:07

Aaarfgh small = dna

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Happymummy120 · 06/06/2017 19:08

Yess I do have a 28 day cycle and yes I know it's important to do a DNA test to be sure just wanted a bit of help really keep my mind at ease for a bit

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BritInUS1 · 06/06/2017 19:12

Like others have said you will need a DNA test

TipTop333 · 06/06/2017 19:13

When did you first start to experience symptoms? When was your positive pregnancy test?

BadToTheBone · 06/06/2017 19:20

Your first scan should help better with your calculations as they'll have clearer measurements and should help you pinpoint a date. Although until DNA even that won't be exact.

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Happymummy120 · 06/06/2017 19:21

Started experiencing symptoms about the 27-31 of may and I got a positive pregnancy test on Sunday 4th of June

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disneykid · 06/06/2017 19:29

Well once you get booked in for the first scan, the will be able to give you an idea of when you're due date is etc, so it might be a little bit clearer but I wouldn't count on it as it was such a small time gap.

I hope it works out for you tho. Good luck.

Mummamayhem · 08/06/2017 22:29

I said guy 1 as 'average' ovulation occurs two weeks after 1st day of last period. But it's no guarantee. You'll have to wait until after birth to know.

Nostrilflare · 08/06/2017 22:37

My last period was also the same as yours, due to TTC we have been tracking etc, I know we conceived from either the 9th or the 12th as these were the only times during fertile period we could do the deed..

obviously that doesn't mean you'd be the same as everyone has different cycles

Oysterbabe · 09/06/2017 00:10

I think it's more like to be suitor number 1 but no one can say for sure.

BertieBotts · 09/06/2017 00:17

If you have 28 day cycles then it's extremely unlikely it would be guy 2 because you don't ovulate a week before your period is due and get pregnant, that's not enough time for an egg to implant.

There is a small chance you may have ovulated later than usual, around or after the 20th, so it's still a possibility that is is guy 2 but timing wise it's more likely to be guy 1.

clickhappy · 09/06/2017 00:26

In the nicest possible way, hopefully there will be a resemblance towards one of them when the baby is born so it may be obvious. I hope it works out for you.

beccii161016 · 10/06/2017 11:56

At your 12 week scan you'll get a more accurate dating as to exactly how far along in your pregnancy you are. It should be clearer then.
As others have said, you did the deed with guy 1 closer to when you probably ovulated but that doesn't really mean much.
Please do a DNA test when baby is born. No matter how sure you think you are, your son/daughter needs and deserves to know the truth about who his/her father is. Also, if you plan on your child having contact with the father and/or claiming payments towards the child from him, you need to know who it is. It wouldn't be fair to your hold or the father if you guessed and were wrong.

Good luck! d

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