Getting Ready For Baby Challenge - Part 9

[HopefullyDothButterNoParsnips]

Through the ups and downs of this amazing journey - we are all here together. I'm grateful for you all ❤️❤️

Oh my gosh, have just logged on, oh grumpy love I'm so devastated for you. You poor love, I'm glad you are back with your family now, so so unfair, thinking of you, your DH and your DD xxx

orange so sorry to hear about your mum, a very scary time for u all I'm sure, I hope the treatment is successful xxx

Sorry ladies away all weekend with no Internet, so very sorry to log on and read such sad news, it's really been a difficult weekend for almost everyone on here. This group is so supportive it's lovely to be a part of xx

Parsnips and Grumpy - you are both doing amazingly well, you are clearly strong women. Be extra kind to yourselves, let this take all the time you need.

The sun will start to shine again.

Enjoy the last bit of the weekend all

Orange Hun I am so so sorry... heres to hoping they have caught it in time and that Surgery removes everything! All the love and hope in the world to your right now!

Sorry you are having a shit time Grumpy I am glad it went ok with your boss and that DH is going to be home with you next week

❤❤❤❤ to you both

My heart is breaking catching up this evening. Life can be so shit sometimes. Sending lots of love.

Hi ladies, so I think I ovulated today as yesterday I got my static smiley face and this morning I had two dark lines present but I have tested at 8pm and the test line seems to be lighter than before. I have had terrible backache today and yesterday, I don't know if I slept on it wrong or if that's a sign of ovulation and I've had a few cramps last night. We dtd this morning, yesterday afternoon and Friday night. Would this be enough to catch pregnant this month? Xxx

orange so sorry to hear about your mum's diagnosis. Really hope that all goes as well as it can. Thinking of you and your family

tigger well done on the weight loss. What's your secret? We're trying EOD as well until positive opk (hopefully will get a positive!)

grumpy glad you told your boss and he's been supportive. You really need the time to heal and to deal with what's going on. So glad that DH is able to have time off to be with you.

buzz glad you're having a good time

seven sorry to hear you're feeling down. It's such a tough journey TTC

hoping sounds like you've managed to catch the egg! Fingers crossed.

Thanks for all the kind comments re cake. It has lavender as she's having lavender at the wedding with a purple and green theme. Cake testing went down very well. She liked the floral piping and the taste. Will have to bake 100 in July for her wedding eek!

Orange I'm so sorry completely missed the post about your mum. I hope you and your family are doing ok.

Well started using cb digital ovulation thingy and got my flashing smiley face today which is positive (I think) so I guess we better get too it! Using the magical lube this month although oh isn't keen on it. I just don't feel like I produce enough cm to not use it.

Tigger I think the flashing is just before a positive and then static is positive? I had success with the CB dual hormone sticks (in the CBFM but it's the same concept) and the Peak day was when I conceived. The cheap OPKs never went truly positive for me, I think everyone has different LH levels. I'll be using the CBFM again when we are ready to try again.

It's hit me bad this morning. I can't stop crying. I have a sore throat and my body is exhausted from dealing with this process. Bleeding more now.

Been looking at guidance for owning a vizsla puppy, to distract myself. Looks like they need 5 hours off leash running a day! So not until we move to the coast. I feel like I want to run for 5 hours right now. I'm so angry and sad at the same time.

And I hate running

Did you manage to get any sleep grumpy? It's ok to feel hideously let down by the entire thing. It's just totally shit. I hope you start to feel better soon.

Yes thanks parsnips but I woke up at 5am. How are you feeling? Are you home now? X

tigger I used to get 5 flashing days before my static... this is your high fertility and when you get your static it means you will ovulate in 12-36hrs. The cycle I got my BFP however I did two CB sticks on one day. I always did the cheap OPK alongside as a confirmation, and on CD12 I got a positive IC at dinner time 6hours after a flashing smiley face, so I poas again and got a static smiley. I dtd ED with my flashing smiley and on day of static and the following day.

grumpy you will have so many emotions right now. I so hope this is over for you soon xx

Off to centre parcs today ☺️

Thank you for all your kind comments, you lovely lot. I welled up reading them

Glad to hear your DH is going to be home with you to look after you grumpy, and hope you don't worry about work too much. You def deserve and probably also need some time for you. I just had to google vizslas - oh they are adorable! I'd love to have a rescue greyhound one day (when we leave London and have more time at home), but apparently they are not great with cats.

I'm at my parents house. We're here until weds when we go to Liverpool to DHs (they don't know anything yet). I've got my international team away day on Thursday in Birmingham and then we are back to Dubai on Sun eve. It's been a very busy few days so I've had lots of distractions.

I'm feeling ok. Sort of applying a "fake it til I make it" approach. If I just keep getting on with things then I'll be grand.

Because it all happened so quickly I almost feel like I imagined it. I can't begin to imagine how you must be feeling being almost 10 weeks. 💐💐

Grumpy I can totally empathise with the sadness and anger combo. Totally normal for lots of tears too. Let them come.

Orange hope you are holding up ok. Are there people around you that you can tell who will be able to support you?

Seven how are you feeling today? Hope it is a brighter day for you (despite the miserable gloomy weather!). I never imagined the rollercoaster of emotions this process could bring.

So, I think I must have missed my lh surge on the opks. Line was slightly darker yesterday, so did it again later in the day and was light again. Nothing at all this morning... will be on the look out for ov signs today! Dtd on a schedule is really weird though.

So hopeful that this will be a brighter week.

I'm trying to get on with stuff too but it's hard to adjust. I was almost in the "safe zone", I had two weeks until the 12wk scan and I had no reason to think the pregnancy wasn't normal, no spotting or anything at all until Friday. 5wk scan showed a sac and yolk as it should. I didn't have many symptoms other than huge boobs, and the tiredness had gone by 7 weeks, but with DD I had zero symptoms so I wasn't worried. Boobs were growing, tummy was growing. I'd started to tell a few people, buy things, think of names and get excited about finding out the sex. I was meant to have Harmony test tomorrow. Now it's all been cruelly ripped away.

Want to focus on doing up the house and training my junior at work, so I can be even more ready next time. But I know i have to get through this period of grief and exhaustion first. DH doesn't get it in terms of feeling already connected to the baby. He keeps saying this one wasn't meant to be. But I already imagined it as a person and it's tiny arms and legs on the scan was so hard to see.

Oh grumpy I can feel your pain and I'm so sorry you have to go through this. Just want to say I'm thinking of you.

parsnips how are you doing lovely? And orange ? Hope you're all ok ❤

I'm alright. I'm getting a bit annoyed at family tbh. My mum is pissed off with me that I haven't told all my friends and that I'm not telling my brother. She said they'll be raging when they find out from someone else! The only person they could find out from is her or my auntie. I feel like she is annoyed that I've ruined her ability to gossip and be melodramatic for sympathy. I know that sounds awful to say but it's true.

I told my best friend yesterday and she couldn't believe the shite they've been saying. I'm not telling mum that I've told her because she will demand to know all the ins and outs of the conversation and I don't want to discuss it. Particularly as they just keep saying oh there must've been something wrong with it, you'll have another one. I wanted this one! The best one yet was make sure you don't become obsessed with trying to have a baby or you'll ruin your marriage! 😱😱😱

Fuck. Off.

Sorry about that. But boy did I need to get that out of my system!

Argh your mum sounds like a nightmare! Sorry parsnips - I would be raging as well. Tell her that your misfortune isn't gossip material and if she doesn't STFU you won't ever tell her anything again.

Grumpy it's shit isn't it. It just hits you like a ton of bricks. I was the same, right the way up until the morning of the day the spotting started I felt really pregnant and I still felt pregnant after the procedure for a bit. It's the most surreal feeling that I can't describe. Parsnips completely get the feeling of fake it till you make it. All I can say is it does get easier, when we booked our break 2 or so weeks after the procedure I never imagined I'd be feeling ok ish but I was, still not 100% ok- not sure that I'll ever be 100% ok but so much better than I was. I think getting my af helped me draw a line under things and has helped me mentally. I feel really ready now and in time you will too. Let yourself have a good cry, I didn't let myself cry enough. I was lucky my oh got it more than most, we'd seen the heartbeat and so he had more of an emotional attachment than most I think. But even still I don't think he really gets it. Keep talking ladies it helps you process it x

Arrrrghh I'm so sorry they are being a nightmare. Do they not realise it's just going to put you off telling them stuff?! It's good to vent my darling xx

Grumpy puppies and kittens make life so good xxx I'm still reeling with jealousy at mummy 😂

Feeling better today. No choice but to be happy and enthusiastic whilst teaching singing to reception! Although I've done exactly what I said I wouldn't do and started symptom spotting to the max. Nearly did a test this morning before I left for work but couldn't get a wee out 😂 haha...

Yep grumpy. Utter shit. It's so cruel that it's just snatched away with no warning. I still cry about it often, and spend my days feeling like someone is sitting on my chest. But... it changes with time, and it does get easier to bear. Be easy with yourself. And you too parsnips. I found it really hard to be with my mum, as she was so heartbroken, I felt I had to hold myself together for her. I couldn't bear to break her heart any more by just letting myself be. My oh wants to tell family sooner if we get a next time, but I just hate the thought of letting everyone down again.

How many dpo are you seven?